CuddleBuddy

This guy!
 
 

Only ONE man I’d spend $1,000 to be with…
First Name: Neiman
Last Name: Marcus
 

Agree. It always feel as if you cannot satisfy the bottom. I try to make sure I time it so we both come at the same time. 

The reality is that you need to be on a form of PrEP if you're fucking or being fucked by another man.  It's readily available almost everywhere now.
Both escorts and clients alike lie to themselves and each other about their sexual responsibility.
Only you can protect you.
 

Whenever I see a provider state “Negative” instead of “Negative on PReP,” that’s a clear indication to me that while he may have tested negative at some point in his life, he is not on PReP. I also assume, just to be somewhat sensible and realistic about it, that all providers may be positive and not necessarily honest about it, and I base my actions and behavior on the most clear headed thinking I can muster. My two cents. 

i ll keep it in mind. Thank you EV. ❤️

^Thank you for the sarcasm 😊
Anyone that has ever lived with one or more roommates understands the natural limitations on hosting incalls.
I have had few problems seeing Spanish only clients and I only know words and phrases. I wonder how this is so different the other way around. We have translator apps and such which can get the basic messages across. 
Regarding rates, it’s a matter of what they are delivering. Seems irrelevant that they are from a different place or have limited English skills. If the guy is good, pay him what he is worth. Should you be unwilling to try a provider lacking reviews here or elsewhere, move on to the tried and true guys you know will deliver. 

That’s the level I’m at currently. I used to charge between 150-200-250 but now I’m at 200-250-300, although I want to push to 250-300-350 (I offer tier level sessions).
However, instead of chasing the price increase rat 🐀 race, I’m just offering add ons like 75 min, 90 min, Two Hours. At the end of the day, I’m still getting 250-500 for most appointments. Problem is, the bookings are fewer now even before the rate went up…so I’ve had to in turn, make sure I’m asking more.
One semi-regular I was seeing dropped me last year because I wouldn’t see him for $200. But I told him: you can’t just meet once every 6 months and expect a discount. I have to remind people this all the time. Stop popping up out the blue expecting me to charge the same rates as 2022 ✋🏾 
Well, I’ve noticed with Minneapolis in general: I’ve been trying to plan trips there lately and I keep having to not go myself because the level of commitment seems low there. I used to do well there but lately I haven’t been able to get enough serious clients and most seem scared to send a deposit (which I’m going to address more below). 
 

That’s because as I’ve said throughout the forum: business is slow. Especially in cities like Chicago because so many guys are posting on there. The big cities now are just chock full of ads, and now it’s anybody’s guess who’s a real client anymore. It used to be guys would contact and book. Now, every inquiry is a time waster (at least from my observations and experiences).
I sent RentMen FOUR (4) emails today basically roasting them over hot coals letting them know I’m sick and tired of having to micromanage clients from the site. Lately it’s become like a Grindr: people are hitting me up not talking about money at all, being unresponsive in communications, just basically being a big time waste. They’re doing minimal effort and collecting our money, while we have to do all the legwork to deal with the nonsense everyday. 
 
I just came back from Nashville and I have about 10-15 texts over a 1 week period of people contacting. Only 1 client managed to book out of all those. 
 
I have suggested solutions to them before and they refuse to take it. I deal with far less Timewasters on my own website than RentMen. When people go to my site, they know I mean business and I’m talking about money on every page. I feel RentMen is making it optional, and guys are getting away with wasting our time for free. I’m nipping that shit in the bud immediately. No phone numbers are going up, every communication is going to be automated and making them agree to my terms before any engagement occurs.
 
See above response. I’ve told RentMen they need to bring rates back. It’s become a Grindr and the pay seems optional. 
 

Wow I never answered this. From my end it’s multi-fold.
 
Surely most of you have seen the “Massage Types I Offer” section of rentmasseur with the options “therapeutic” “sensual” and “erotic”. 

I have an idea, but I’m sure most people (outside the forum) don’t know the difference between “sensual” and “erotic”. So most providers will select all 3 so they show up in search results. 
also, sometimes clients aren’t always truthful. Some say they want a massage but they’re chasing you around the room in a few minutes. (This isn’t everyone!) 
ive even tried asking what site they found me on, but some have asked for massages off Rentmen and more off masseurfinder. 
last, as @Lance_Navarroonce said, the two go hand in hand. Many clients do want some of of both; the amount of both they want is a sliding scale. 
 
so as difficult as it can be to determine what someone is offering, it’s also difficult to determine what someone wants. The websites don’t make it easier. 
 
the best to do is ask if someone offers what you want. 

Ok. I'm done with this topic. I need a massage now with extra fries please...😉

I'm no moderator, but can we steer this back to black / ebony booties, instead of Prep / HIV arguments?
My dream asses are in Texas, on Aden Taylor and Rayjayz. If I've already mentioned that here, sorry not sorry. 

I find it exciting when a guy has ads both on rentmasseur and on rentmen.  It shows he is willing to go all the way.  The difference is in the fees you are willing to pay.  I do not expect escort service at a massage rate.

If you shop on RentMasseur, that site is overwhelmingly gay men advertising to gay men. I always pick a masseur who advertises therapeutic, sensual and erotic. I always go to independent masseurs, not a massage parlor. First and foremost, I want a good therapeutic massage. I carefully read the reviews and look for 5 star ratings, and descriptions of an excellent therapeutic massage. I am also looking for a masseur where 90% of the reviews  were for erotic massages. That indicates that it's  a good bet he expects you to be nude and also expects to give you at least a HE in addition to a therapeutic massage. When I arrive I am super friendly, maintain direct eye contact, get out of my clothes immediately, as we are talking, and walk around naked (go to the bathroom etc). It's called flaunt it. The best masseurs give a great massage, introduce sensual elements throughout, and progress to a great erotic experience sometime during the session. Some will start out in shorts or speedos, but many don't. Also, I have found the more often I see someone, the more connected the whole experience becomes. And let's face it, gay men connect through penises. 

Jael was a sweet guy when he arrived....i bet he is a sweet guy all the time. but he over indulged after arriving. My heart goes out to these guys. Fortunately the other top and I were there for him and made sure he was not dehydrated. a big problem. might hire him again and ask that he doesn't indulge. and see what happens. as an older client I often feel a bit paternal to the young guys i hire. 
 

Ah shit. I monologued again 

Well, I suppose the objective of this site is to enable clients to provide commentary of providers.
This site is for clients primarily.
I would imagine (although I have zero evidence to support the theory) that we clients have a collection of providers that we hold dear. I know that I certainly do. I like to broadcast positive vibes about the providers that I like. I like to drum up new, fresh, reoccurring business for the guys I think favourable towards.
However, if there happens to be an encounter with a provider that I have felt particularly cautious or uncomfortable about, then I feel obligated to broadcast that to this community too. I try to do it in a factual perspective rather than an emotional one but I would most certainly broadcast every single detail of an interaction that was not a professional transaction between someone who is selling themselves as a business model and myself who is purchasing time with that person.
I understand that some providers are not actually in a great place mentally, emotionally or physically to be in this industry of client satisfaction, however, we *should* be alerting one another about providers like that.
Treat the providers with respect. Treat other clients on this site with respect. State factual reviews at will.
 

Not been keeping up to date with the forums recently but man, if this is right then some people need to have a good hard think about themselves.
You should treat everyone with decency.
And why on earth would anyone arrange a meeting for sex with anyone else (paid or otherwise) without taking care of their own  basic personal hygiene?!?! Eeeew!

Too many comments on this board from clients who have so little regard for providers and their problems. life is complicated. have had my share of issues with providers. including providers too drugged out to perform. even passed out. BUT have heard it a thousand times from guys i hire about how much they appreciate my stability given the litany of alcoholic,  drugged, closeted guys, stinking, rancid in their body hygiene clients who walk through the door. Providers have a really tough job. Just shocking what i have heard about how clients present themselves. But then expect easy going absolute perfection from the provider at any cost.
So, please give providers who have a problem a break. Especially a substance problem. Be kind. Rise above your sexual needs at the moment and reach out and be compassionate. Kind. Call 911 is the situation warrants it. No excuse for not being a decent human being. Period. Please.

On the contrary, I have had two or three experiences with masseurs with whom I fornicated at their spa, but they were only willing to give hand jobs at a meeting later at my home or hotel.

Info from your youth is out of date today.  Back then Hoboken was poor and now it's full of millionaires. All those small NJ cities along the Hudson have changed a lot in the last 30 years.

All I want to know is…does he suck dick? 

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