Charlie

The newest vaccines didn't become available in time for me. On Tuesday I woke with a high fever and headache, and when I self-tested, I was positive. I immediately went out and bought another test from a different company, but the result was the same. I was thankful that I managed to move my spouse into an assisted living facility a week ago, because I don't know how I could have taken care of him or avoided giving the virus to him. At least now when he asks why I think he should be in assisted living, I have a strong response to give to him, but I'm not allowed in to see him right now. Strangely, most of the gay men who live on my street also have COVID right now, but none of the straight people do (at least, as far as I know).

I moved furniture (his bed, dresser, desk, easy chair, etc.) from our house into the assisted living studio. I don't intend to immediately replace the empty areas in the house for the same reason as you: I want to wait and see whether things work out at the assisted place, in case I have to move him back home.

I have been told that this facility was actually built as a resort hotel complex, but then converted to assisted living as well as memory care. He will be living in a building specifically intended for physical assistance plus memory care, with only ten residential rooms (singles and doubles), plus dining area, entertainment area, and meeting rooms; the whole complex reminds me of a small residential college campus. If we lived in a four star hotel, we probably wouldn't take any advantage of a cocktail lounge with live music, game room or beauty salon anyway (that was never our life-style before he needed assistance). The couple I mentioned above are allowed to live together in a double room even though only one of them needs care, because they are married and apparently wanted to do it that way--I think I would be miserable in that situation. I would rather eventually die penniless than spend my own life institutionalized unnecessarily.

I don't need assistance (my spouse has advanced Alzheimer's as well as physical issues), nor do I need the hassle of selling our house, getting rid of decades' worth of possessions, just so we can continue to live together in the same residence. We also have an old dog, who would not be allowed to live with us. We have been together for 56 years, but have lived apart several times over the years because of work or other commitments, so I know I can manage on my own. In the past we have lived in different cities or even different countries, and sometimes not even seen one another for months at a time, whereas this time we will be living only three miles apart and can see one another every day if we wish. I have been told by the manager that there is a male couple of the sort you describe in the same building with my spouse, and they are curious to meet us. I wouldn't mind having a private chat with the the individual who does NOT need to be there, to see how he feels now about their decision.

My spouse is moving into an assisted care facility this week, so I decided to find out from a counselor whether he was eligible for any kind of government financial help for the very expensive monthly cost. I was advised that he has too much income to qualify. It's a good thing we weren't planning to leave any big bequests to anyone.

Somehow they left out three historical events on August 14: 1) my parents got married; 2) my spouse was born; 3) I met my spouse. I have long had multiple celebrations on August 14.

I wouldn't go without earthquake insurance, since the San Andreas fault is almost in my backyard. I have always had auto insurance, and after driving for 64 years, I was involved in the first auto accident of my life this week; however, the other driver admitted to her insurance company that she was at fault, and they emailed me yesterday that they have accepted the claim, so I hope I won't have to use my insurance.

I spent four years in Lancaster County, and I never noticed any unpleasant odor when I was around the natives. I don't have any regular schedule for bathing. I shower whenever I feel uncomfortably dirty or sweaty (such as after playing tennis for a couple of hours in summer sun), or when I anticipate a social situation in which someone might notice an odor of which I am unaware. I enjoy taking showers, but I don't feel any need to waste water on them when I don't feel I need one. My only obsessive behavior is that I don't like to put clean clothes on unclean skin.

Two of the stores they intend to close (an Albertson's and a Von's) are the two stores at which I do all my grocery shopping. I really hope the merger is voided, because the other two supermarkets closest to me are both Ralph's (another Kroger brand). The whole merger plan is just a plot to make me shop at Kroger😈

I am skeptical, too.

Missed the target.

Oh, wow! Its IS a foot long!

Poor baby! It must be terrible finding clothing that fits.

Does he need artificial respiration?

If you look farther down his right leg, you will see that he has just shot a load.

I wonder if he is hung like a ...........

Although I have lived alone by choice from time to time throughout a long life, most of my life I have lived with others--family, friends, partners--and it has been many years since the last time I chose to live alone. However, my spouse will soon be moving into an assisted living facility, and for the first time in my life I will be living alone not really by choice. I am somewhat unnerved at the prospect, although I know I can do it. But I understand that if you have never done it, it can be a scary prospect, especially since you have experience actually needing to have domestic help from your family. Rather than think about all that could go wrong, embrace the opportunity to try it and test yourself now, when it is possible to do it. It won't be any easier if you wait.

I can't imagine a college professor who taught British literature and never went to London! If that's true, you should definitely go there.

Most single American young men--particularly young gay men--are eager to move out on their own, away from the scrutiny of their families. It is considered a rite of passage to adulthood, and most American families understand that. However, you seem to be from a culture that considers a movement away from the nuclear family as a rejection of the family, and I think you fear that is how your brother will interpret your move. I think you should sit down and talk with him honestly about why you want to move out on your own (that may include coming out to him, but it doesn't have to), and reassure him that you want to continue to have a close relationship with him and his wife--you don't want to live with them, because you want to test and develop your ability to be an independent adult, and 29 is a rather late start.

I'd like to return their serves.

Considering the religious message on the tat, I suspect that they are just best buds.

FWIW: Although I am not familiar with any of these masseurs, I do live in Palm Springs, so I clicked on each ad. In the past, most ads in PS used the same "Map me" default location, but all of these guys seem to have provided much more specific locations (except Rod, who has blocked that option), and most of them are different; most also seem to be in residential rather than commercial areas, so they are probably working from home.

Strange that in his description he says that he does have his face in the private pics, but then whose face is that in all of the public photos?

I can't imagine paying other single-service people (dog walker, tree trimmer, etc.) with anything but cash, so why would I feel differently about paying an escort? I do pay my regular gardener and my house cleaner with a check, but I am sure that they would prefer cash, because it usually takes them a long time to cash the check (and they would be flummoxed if I handed them a credit card). However, the other day I stopped at the post office with a letter, because I didn't know how much postage it needed, and as I stood at the window, I suddenly thought, "Damn! I forget to carry any cash." No problem: the USPS will take a credit card payment for a stamp.

A more appropriate name tag for a provider would be "VidiViciVeni."