Charlie

When I was a teenager, I was sexually attracted to men in their 30s and 40s; when I was that age, I was attracted to the same types; I am now 81, and I am still attracted to men in their 30s and 40s. I don't have an aversion to cute twinks or to wrinkled old men--I am just not sexually attracted to them.

That was fun!!!

There are lies that will have no effect on your activity with him (does it really matter whether he graduated from Yale?) and lies that can have a serious impact on you (does he tell you that he has no health issues when he knows he has a venereal disease?). Pay attention to the ones that matter, and take the others with a grain of salt.

Most providers of any age are delighted to get clients who are only in their late 30s.

David has lots of friends and admirers on this site, as a provider and as a person.

He looks about 12 years old.

From the Reader's Digest Large Print Edition (I don't subscribe to the magazine--honest! A neighbor gave it to me to give to my spouse🙄😞 When my friend's father filled out his personal information form at the pharmacy, he listed himself as 'bisexual.' "You're not bisexual!" his wife reminded him. He shrugged and said, "I thought bisexual meant that I believed in a two-person relationship."

The description strangeness may simply be a language problem. Although the first spoken language he lists is English, he has a Spanish name and describes himself as Arab (which means that French may actually be his primary Western language). "Free for overnight" may just mean there is no extra charge if you want him to stay the night.

Both.

Only one and a half filing cabinets. It covers every day of my life for the past 51 years. But there is also a separate list of every one of my hires, for quick reference. You never know when a journal will come in handy. Last week I received I letter from an insurance company about an "incident" they claimed had occurred on Mar. 8, 2023, which they said I was financially responsible for; I had no memory of what they said occurred, and by consulting my journal entry for that date, I was able to correct the company's records with accurate details that absolved me of financial responsibility.

Men, gay or straight, are usually sexually attracted by the appearance of youth--in males or females--and women are generally the same (e.g., wealthy older women with their "boytoys"). The traditional explanation was biological: men are designed to look to mate with females who can bear and raise their children, while women want a mate who appears to be potent. For gay men there are also psychological or sociological explanations given: men who are "tops" want younger men whom they can dominate socially or physically, men who are "bottoms" want to be dominated by younger men who are physically stronger than they are, etc. Of course, there are also some gay men, regardless of their age, who are looking for dominant older men ("daddies"). Most older men and women tend to look to their peers for friendship rather than for sex, so since a majority of the men who pay for sex are older, on a website geared toward that topic (CofM is not a dating site after all), the focus is usually on younger men.

I have already outlived all but one of my old gay friends from my youth and early manhood. I treasure my newer friends, but I still miss those who remember when I had a full head of hair and spontaneous hard-ons.

My mother was the oldest of six siblings, grew up in a household that also included three cousins who were like sisters to her, and outlived almost all of them. Those were some of the hardest losses for her to deal with.

In her extreme old age, my mother once said, "The worst thing about old age is not how you look or how you feel. The worst thing is losing all the old friends who could remember the life you once lived."

It's a strange time of year for all the visiting escorts, because we are entering the normally slow off-season for gay tourists.

I only loan money to old friends or to family members who I am sure need it. And I never loan more money than I can afford to lose. Years ago I "loaned" money to an aunt who needed it for legal help with a family problem, but I told her to pay me back only if she could; she never did. Last year I offered to loan a substantial sum to a longtime friend who I knew was in financial difficulty, so I told her to ask if she needed it, and she hesitated for a few days before finally asking. I suspected she would not be able to pay me back, and in fact it was several months before she repaid me. I then learned that she had sold a valuable artwork that she loved in order to repay me, so when she asked me for another loan recently, I gave it, because I knew that even though she would have difficulty repaying me, she will eventually if she can, and if not, I will just write it off as a gift.

When I hear the term "gay lifestyle," I think of someone who is openly gay, has gay friends, is or has been sexually active with other men, and probably has a male partner or is searching for one. When many straight people hear the term, they probably assume that the person is also a drag queen, likes to wear make-up and clothing that stands out in a crowd, drinks too much, and loves to dance.

But MormonMan has a beard and mustache in the photos in his ad.

I wonder whether the escort who wrote the ad has ever been offered a check in payment for his services--he may be pretty inexperienced at this trade.

I haven't hired in a long time, but looking over my records of my hires between 1979 and 2011, I do see patterns that can mostly be ascribed to circumstances tied to my living conditions and my age. After an initial burst of about once per month, the numbers fell off during the prime years of the AIDS crisis in the mid-1980s, picked up again in the late 80s, fell off when I was living and working in another country in the early 90s, and then when my mother came to live with us in the mid to late 90's, picked up again when she left and during my early retirement, picked up when I became active on this site in the early years of this century, and finally declined to only about twice a year during the last four years before I stopped hiring altogether as I approached 70. My highest totals were 16 hires in 1987 and 15 (sometimes with a pair of escorts) in 1989. As you said, the practical difficulties of arranging hires usually had more to do with the numbers than my sexually energy did, until the last years.

It is. I sat next to him once on the ferry to Cherry Grove, which was probably where that photo was taken.

I'm in favor of it.

What is this "sex" of which you speak?

Bizarre: the ad that says his home is Reykjavik, Iceland still uses the text from the former ad that says his home is Astoria, OR. !!

Is 104 a Peter Berlin lookalike?