Charlie

The problem may be your use of the term "donation," which he might be interpreting as a tip rather than his fee. I would definitely ask him specifically about his fee, or things could get awkward when you meet.

I used to enjoy the Victor Cafe in South Philly, where they played old opera recordings made at the RCA Victor recording studio in Camden in the 1920s. Several of the waiters also liked to sing along, with variable results. WilliamM might know if it is still operating.

I hate restaurants that have a piano player, especially if I am put at a table near the piano. If I am going to listen to music, I want to choose what I hear, and I don't want music while I am trying to have a conversation. When I was a young man, gay piano bars were a big thing, especially for middle aged gay men who liked to dress up when they went out to the bars, and pretend that they weren't cruising, just enjoying the entertainment.

I think it's most likely that they are asking because they have had the prior experience of telling a new escort what they are into first, and the escort has then responded, "Me, too," even though he really isn't, and his performance turns out to be unsatisfactory.

Very interesting. The first job I was offered when I left graduate school was a management position in the Big Brothers organization. I declined it because I figured that the fact that I was gay would eventually cause problems (homosexual activity was illegal in those days).

Even if it is only your tongue in my mouth?

Even if it is only your tongue in my mouth?

Whatever you do, it is sex if at least one of you gets turned on by it, and both of you know it.

I remember that ad. Not very many escorts (they were more often called "models" in those days) showed faces then, but I believe he had also done some photo spreads in gay mags.

You have a nice defense argument, but I wasn't expecting him to sue you for palimony. I am more concerned with things like stalking, social media postings, using his friends in unsavory ways, etc. He knows you have a good reputation to protect.

Having salad served after the main course is very French.

The cars are 1957 Cadillacs, but he looks older than 21 in the photo.

I know you want this to be the end of everything, but I think you should be prepared for the possibility of more to come. You sort of blindsided him, and once he has had time to think about the situation, and talk with some of his actual "friends," he may try to salvage something more from the wreck, with pleading or threats, or something more devious. Move on, but don't relax too much just yet. Keep a lawyer's telephone number handy.

"A penny for the Guy!"

Me, too.

There still were bonfires in London on Guy Fawkes night when I lived there forty years ago, but I don't know if that is still the case.

Unfortunately, I did not start my journals until I was 30, when I was past the stage of having sex in the showers at the 63rd Street Y. I did not include that incident in my autobiography; if I had mentioned everyone I had sex with by the time I was 25, the index would have been too long.

A slight sidetrack, but it is interesting that in most cultures, the first course is called, quite logically, the entree, whereas in America the "entree" is usually the term that refers to the main course.

At home, of course, I do eat my salad with my dinner, because I don't feel like getting up after eating the salad, and then have to prepare the rest of my meal. But, I eat at a restaurant because I don't want to do things the same way I do at home.

I was one of those young men with whom Lincoln Kirstein had a casual encounter in the showers at the 63rd Street YMCA. He was still an attractive man in his late 50s.

I respond to PMs only from those I recognize as established posters on the site, and I write to only those who I expect will recognize me. I met two of my closest friends in the real world as a result of their PMs to me.

No face. Even an outdated photo at least gives you some idea of what he looks like. I have never been turned on by a faceless body, no matter how nice it is.

Is this the source of the Sasquatsch legend?

The restaurants I frequent, at all spots along the price spectrum, almost always bring the salad or appetizer before the entree, although I have noticed lately that the entree may be served before I have completely finished the appetizer/salad.

Your attorney should also have a copy of your will in his records; I know mine does.