Sex was much more exciting--to me--in the days before the Internet. Now it is a commercial interaction much like buying anything on Amazon. I enjoyed the activity of cruising for sex and sometimes finding it in unlikely places. I liked the excitement of not knowing what someone's body looked like until he took his clothes off; faces were more important than cocks, which were usually the last thing you saw. Other than checking for herpes, crabs, or "the drip," one didn't think much about the health consequences of having sex with a stranger. Bars were social venues as well as places to find sex partners, so one could combine socializing with friends with the possibility of ending the evening in bed with a stranger, and if the latter didn't happen, the evening was not a waste. If you were more determined just to have sex, then a bath house was a more logical choice, and you could relax afterwards in the sauna or pool. Belonging to a kind of secret society was fun--as long as you didn't get outed to the police or an unsympathetic employer. As I aged, that all got to be less fun, so I think I got the best of both worlds: being "gay" when I was under 40, and becoming a respectable member of a legal minority when I was older.