Dtxstudfinder

Been with him. Lousy experience. Everything is extra, on his phone the whole time, and this was after a lot of trouble getting him to respond and show up. Total waste.

Don’t you remember how stupid and insensitive you were at 20? You were a heat seeking missle looking to do and be done without regard to the other guy’s feelings. Your 20 year old self would never look at a 50 year old as a source for frolicking all night long.
 
Why would you allow those 20 year old stupid jerks space in your brain? You have far more success, sensitivity and intelligence than to allow their young, smug, inexperienced and insensitive opinions as judgement in your mind.

Thanks @30somethingsexybear you got it exactly. We could have used more conversation in the beginning to set each others expectations. He isn't a bad guy, it's just he wanted more and I couldn't be enough and didn't realize it. Just made me feel inadequate, I wasn't for the guys coming over, I just thought it would be nice for him and yeah I wanted to join in but I knew my body was done for the day. Three days of it were just more than I expected and had never done that long. I wasn't getting any sleep which exacerbated everything for me. I'm glad to have everyone's insight and advice. Life goes on, this isn't the worst thing to ever happen to me.

Thanks, you guys are great! I'm not looking for a relationship though. I'm fine with the sex and then you leave thing. I think Dallasclient was right, the sex was fine but then he left me feeling inadequate for not meeting his needs and I was so unhappy with what I was seeing from those Grindr guys. Just hit me really hard. Starting to feel better though.
 
I just need to do one hour visits, take care of my needs only and forget about trying to make them so happy and gratified. If I'm not enough, they need to book another appointment instead of using my place to bring in strangers for their own needs.
 
I needed a new attitude.

BTW, I lost my partner of 25 years last year. I'm not attracted to other older guys and I think I'm trying to make up for lost time and promiscuity I never had before. Most of the time I really enjoy the escorts and being generous. This has just been a hard few days. Sorry I have no one else to talk to.

I also need to quit trying to please every escort I do overnights with. I don't want to hire a second or get a Grindr guy just for them. Im a once and done guy. Each time that has happened in the past I just end up watching two guys have a great time while I'm sitting there limp. Realizing my age is another form of depression.

Condolences on the loss of your partner.
 
Perhaps it is time to consider what need you're hoping to fill with these encounters. It is not realistic to have the idea that you are going to meet a long term partner on grindr. That app is not for men with open hearts or emotional desires. That app is to get your rocks off. Your friend was doing what 20 somethings do and what some 5o somethings think they want to do. But in reading through this thread, you repeatedly berate yourself for not being enough...sexy enough...horny enough...tough enough. Really not being 20 something enough.
So my advice to you is to figure out what you are hoping to do with your 50 something life, sex life, love life etc....and then start doing things that will satisfy that. If you want to have sex with 20 somethings, there is a price for that...they think like they are 20 something, they act like they are 20 something and they have no idea what it is like to be 50 something and they especially do not know that it is like to be a 50 something who remembers what it was like to be a 20 something and feels as though they did not do enough with that time. So don't expect much in the way of understanding.
Perhaos you ought to consider that there is more to a partnership than the physical. I am sure you had those things with your partner, You may never exactly duplicate those things again, but my guess is that you are more likely to find satisfaction with an older, wiser and perhaps handsomely mature man than you are with a twink and the rest of the Hostess family. Consider that a more mature man or more mature escort might be a better match especially if sex is not a prime mover anymore or at least not the primer mover it once was.
If all you want for now is young hot men, do not expect them to be anything more than that.
I am a more than 50 something and I enjoy several great relationships with escorts. The sex is usually great. And if they add a bit of emotional support and loving feelings, well that is all a bonus. They are all close to your age and still sexy as hell. Their talented fingers on not wasted on apps, at least in my company, but rather those fingers are kept busy doing their best to bring me comfort and pleasure.

Thanks, you guys are great! I'm not looking for a relationship though. I'm fine with the sex and then you leave thing. I think Dallasclient was right, the sex was fine but then he left me feeling inadequate for not meeting his needs and I was so unhappy with what I was seeing from those Grindr guys. Just hit me really hard. Starting to feel better though.
 
I just need to do one hour visits, take care of my needs only and forget about trying to make them so happy and gratified. If I'm not enough, they need to book another appointment instead of using my place to bring in strangers for their own needs.
 
I needed a new attitude.

Thanks @30somethingsexybear you got it exactly. We could have used more conversation in the beginning to set each others expectations. He isn't a bad guy, it's just he wanted more and I couldn't be enough and didn't realize it. Just made me feel inadequate, I wasn't for the guys coming over, I just thought it would be nice for him and yeah I wanted to join in but I knew my body was done for the day. Three days of it were just more than I expected and had never done that long. I wasn't getting any sleep which exacerbated everything for me. I'm glad to have everyone's insight and advice. Life goes on, this isn't the worst thing to ever happen to me.

I'll say it again, you guys are great. I'm thinking he contacted me and offered such a low rate for 3 days because he planned on doing his own thing. Had I known about that in the beginning, I could been better prepared for it but still wouldn't allow a bunch of twinks in my house. Two-night overnights are really too much time outside of sex and they just become annoying people anyway. Knowing I'm a once-a-day sex guy also lets me know my expectations. I feel better, won't let this guy talk me into coming back again, and I know more about my expectations to convey to the guy.

I'll say it again, you guys are great. I'm thinking he contacted me and offered such a low rate for 3 days because he planned on doing his own thing. Had I known about that in the beginning, I could been better prepared for it but still wouldn't allow a bunch of twinks in my house. Two-night overnights are really too much time outside of sex and they just become annoying people anyway. Knowing I'm a once-a-day sex guy also lets me know my expectations. I feel better, won't let this guy talk me into coming back again, and I know more about my expectations to convey to the guy.

Yes you are exactly right. I couldn't go a second round and he would be looking on Grindr. He got up to shower and after I asked why and he said he was going on a run and hook up with a twink in the neighborhood. I said ok. I'm such an idiot but whatever. I'm not going to do this again.

Thanks and I learned my lesson to leave overnights and especially 2 overnights alone. I don't really have anything in common with them in a nonsexual way. I just want them to treat me respectfully as I treat them, have great but short sex and go home. Most of my visits are fine like this. Just let him talk me into basically subsidizing his 3 day vaycay. Maybe he cut me a deal in the beginning hoping to have the freedom to do guys on the side but he never mentioned it. I did offer the second day the option to renegotiate our arrangement so he could get a hotel and do what he wanted with a group of twinks. He wanted to stay. Anyway not gonna do that again.

Thanks, you guys are great! I'm not looking for a relationship though. I'm fine with the sex and then you leave thing. I think Dallasclient was right, the sex was fine but then he left me feeling inadequate for not meeting his needs and I was so unhappy with what I was seeing from those Grindr guys. Just hit me really hard. Starting to feel better though.
 
I just need to do one hour visits, take care of my needs only and forget about trying to make them so happy and gratified. If I'm not enough, they need to book another appointment instead of using my place to bring in strangers for their own needs.
 
I needed a new attitude.

Yes you are exactly right. I couldn't go a second round and he would be looking on Grindr. He got up to shower and after I asked why and he said he was going on a run and hook up with a twink in the neighborhood. I said ok. I'm such an idiot but whatever. I'm not going to do this again.

I also need to quit trying to please every escort I do overnights with. I don't want to hire a second or get a Grindr guy just for them. Im a once and done guy. Each time that has happened in the past I just end up watching two guys have a great time while I'm sitting there limp. Realizing my age is another form of depression.

Thanks, you guys are great! I'm not looking for a relationship though. I'm fine with the sex and then you leave thing. I think Dallasclient was right, the sex was fine but then he left me feeling inadequate for not meeting his needs and I was so unhappy with what I was seeing from those Grindr guys. Just hit me really hard. Starting to feel better though.
 
I just need to do one hour visits, take care of my needs only and forget about trying to make them so happy and gratified. If I'm not enough, they need to book another appointment instead of using my place to bring in strangers for their own needs.
 
I needed a new attitude.

Yes you are exactly right. I couldn't go a second round and he would be looking on Grindr. He got up to shower and after I asked why and he said he was going on a run and hook up with a twink in the neighborhood. I said ok. I'm such an idiot but whatever. I'm not going to do this again.

Thanks and I learned my lesson to leave overnights and especially 2 overnights alone. I don't really have anything in common with them in a nonsexual way. I just want them to treat me respectfully as I treat them, have great but short sex and go home. Most of my visits are fine like this. Just let him talk me into basically subsidizing his 3 day vaycay. Maybe he cut me a deal in the beginning hoping to have the freedom to do guys on the side but he never mentioned it. I did offer the second day the option to renegotiate our arrangement so he could get a hotel and do what he wanted with a group of twinks. He wanted to stay. Anyway not gonna do that again.

Not sure what I expect here. Just curious what others think.
 
I frequently use Rent Men and Grindr as a generous guy. I have met some great guys that I think of as friends. I define friends as those few that contact me and vice versa for no other reason than to visit about everyday stuff. Recently, I had an escort hit me up wanting me to fly him here for a few days. He gave me a rate of $1200 for Wed thru late Friday. He is 20 and I'm 51. He has an insatiable sex drive. I can only go at it once a day. We have in the past used his Grindr to find a third or fourth to join us. I was reading the group chat he had going on and once my pic and age was given, there were a lot of hateful remarks made by those guys. They were asking if could leave so they could all use my place, etc.. I usually have thick skin but this time several things hit me. I told him they couldn't come. My escort was disappointed as he really wanted to have an orgy. I wasn't able to get it up that night or the morning. I had him charge to an early flight on Friday morning. I feel worthless for having a dick that doesn't cooperate, feel like I wasted money even though we had sex twice and I feel like a gross old man. Today is kind of a low for me.

Thanks and I learned my lesson to leave overnights and especially 2 overnights alone. I don't really have anything in common with them in a nonsexual way. I just want them to treat me respectfully as I treat them, have great but short sex and go home. Most of my visits are fine like this. Just let him talk me into basically subsidizing his 3 day vaycay. Maybe he cut me a deal in the beginning hoping to have the freedom to do guys on the side but he never mentioned it. I did offer the second day the option to renegotiate our arrangement so he could get a hotel and do what he wanted with a group of twinks. He wanted to stay. Anyway not gonna do that again.

Thanks, you guys are great! I'm not looking for a relationship though. I'm fine with the sex and then you leave thing. I think Dallasclient was right, the sex was fine but then he left me feeling inadequate for not meeting his needs and I was so unhappy with what I was seeing from those Grindr guys. Just hit me really hard. Starting to feel better though.
 
I just need to do one hour visits, take care of my needs only and forget about trying to make them so happy and gratified. If I'm not enough, they need to book another appointment instead of using my place to bring in strangers for their own needs.
 
I needed a new attitude.

Thanks, you guys are great! I'm not looking for a relationship though. I'm fine with the sex and then you leave thing. I think Dallasclient was right, the sex was fine but then he left me feeling inadequate for not meeting his needs and I was so unhappy with what I was seeing from those Grindr guys. Just hit me really hard. Starting to feel better though.
 
I just need to do one hour visits, take care of my needs only and forget about trying to make them so happy and gratified. If I'm not enough, they need to book another appointment instead of using my place to bring in strangers for their own needs.
 
I needed a new attitude.

Thanks, you guys are great! I'm not looking for a relationship though. I'm fine with the sex and then you leave thing. I think Dallasclient was right, the sex was fine but then he left me feeling inadequate for not meeting his needs and I was so unhappy with what I was seeing from those Grindr guys. Just hit me really hard. Starting to feel better though.
 
I just need to do one hour visits, take care of my needs only and forget about trying to make them so happy and gratified. If I'm not enough, they need to book another appointment instead of using my place to bring in strangers for their own needs.
 
I needed a new attitude.

Thanks, you guys are great! I'm not looking for a relationship though. I'm fine with the sex and then you leave thing. I think Dallasclient was right, the sex was fine but then he left me feeling inadequate for not meeting his needs and I was so unhappy with what I was seeing from those Grindr guys. Just hit me really hard. Starting to feel better though.
 
I just need to do one hour visits, take care of my needs only and forget about trying to make them so happy and gratified. If I'm not enough, they need to book another appointment instead of using my place to bring in strangers for their own needs.
 
I needed a new attitude.