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Hope your medical issues are resolved in your favor soon. Gman

I had trouble with a Florida rental once. I think it was at Miami. But it might have been Fort Lauderdale. It was not a name brand place. The flight ended up being delayed for like three hours. I didn’t get to the car rental place until around midnight. I think they were open 24 hours a day. I had put down my flight number. I figured they would know the flight was delayed. Instead when I got there, they thought I wasn’t going to show up I was so late. Gman

From what I can tell, everyone has the same software. I’m assuming they are keeping data from it. But who knows. I wonder if there are any N.Y. professional people on the Forum who can speak to this. Gman

Unfortunately you can’t post a review of someone you’ve never met. Gman

I would if I could-I can’t. But I need your pot roast recipe. Gman

I have never lived in San Antonio. I was in Corpus Christi for four years, and I used to wish I could live in San Antonio. Gman

There is a new law that went into effect in NY State in 2016. Except in a few cases doctors will be fined if they write paper prescriptions in NY State. One of the exceptions is having the medication filled at an out of state pharmacy. The NY system is not very flexible though. If, for example the Pharmacy is out of the drug, a new prescription has to be sent. I’m not sure if that would be the case at a Pharmacy with multiple branches like Duane Reade. That’s why @jjkrkwood was having trouble getting a paper prescription. This is from a NY Times article Doctors can still write prescriptions by hand in exceptional cases, such as when the medication will be filled out of state, when there are technical problems and when the prescription is for something other than a medicine, like crutches or a wheelchair. Doctors who fail to follow the mandate “will be subject to a full range of disciplinary actions, including both civil and criminal penalties and fines,” according to the State Health Department. Gman

Well aside from the fact that you’ve used the word diatribe incorrectly (could you have possibly meant jeremiad by any chance?), I was answering a question. Gman

That’s easy to say here in absentia. But we don’t really know how small he is. And we’d need to ask the confirmed bottoms on the Forum how they would feel about having sex or a relationship with the guy. I can tell you I was turned down by two guys last week because I wasn’t big enough-and they were some of the only few who initially showed interest. If the apps weren’t the only way I could meet people (and please no lectures on that-it would be very difficult due to my life to meet anyone any other way), I’d be deleting them right and left. 99% of the time I’m too old, too out of shape, too small of cock, .... I could go on and on. Gman

G-d love you!! I wish there were more around like you as I’m only 5”. But unfortunately there aren’t. I think people are being too cavalier about this guy’s misfortune. I’m not saying I think he should kill himself. But the majority of everyone out there saying -“Just accept it and go on” had probably never had to deal with having a small penis. I’m not saying those people might not have ‘crosses’ of their own to bear. But I came to the conclusion a long time ago that we all have different tolerance levels. This kind of thing strikes at the heart of what we feel we are as men. Should it-obviously not. But when it is such a fundamental part of being human. And to know you don’t measure up to even average ... I shudder to think how much rejection this guy has gone thru and will continue to go thru for the rest of his life. Gman

It’s not like I watched it but YUCK!!! The Guy Who Played Barney the Dinosaur Now Runs a Tantric Sex Business https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/zmzgbw/the-guy-who-played-barney-the-dinosaur-now-runs-a-tantric-sex-business Gman

EVIL SPATULA!! http://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/s/hw99v8rlf1w6zcm/File%20Jan%2023%2C%203%2032%2044%20PM.jpeg?dl=0 Gman

I appreciate the suggestion. But this guy is, he says, new to all this. He says the experience of being on Bear411 is “overwhelming”. I don’t know, if he’s telling the truth, whether he’s just shy, been in a relationship for a long time and not needed the apps, closeted/married to a woman, or what. I almost gave him my number. I decided a better course of action was to give him my email. He hasn’t responded and has even backed off from our previous communication where he said he would like me to top him. He never would have gone for exchanging phone numbers. I think you are overgeneralizing here. There are lots of bears only looking for otters (skinny hairy guys), chasers, or non-bear types. As for me I love hairy guys-I like smooth too. I like some bears. But I don’t like guys bigger than I am (usually as there might always be a rare exception). Part of this is due to personal tastes. Part of it is also due to my (under) endowment. It is extremely difficult for me to top guys with large buttocks. I can’t get anywhere even close to where I need to be. And no I’m not going to bottom. In general I like handsome chasers ( as long as they aren’t too young and aren’t overly twinky), otters (= skinnier hairy guys), what some would call ‘wolves’ (muscular bearish guys), average guys, athletic guys, bodybuilders, and jocks. As for being proud of being a bear, I know I’m not the only one who isn’t that fond of being as large as I am. And please don’t go on about how I could change my body type if I wanted to. Yes it’s in the realm of possibility, but it’s probability approaches zero-or shows like The Biggest Loser wouldn’t be so interesting. If everybody could take the pounds off easily, there’d be no show. Yes, I have. But I live 32 miles from Seattle. There is nowhere near as much going on where I live. I went for a time to the local gay community center on a regular basis but that never really led to anything. When I was first coming out -well I’m not exactly out now-but I’m not exactly closeted either-I went to a group in Seattle for exploring problems of older gay males. There was only one guy there close to my age. Most seemed much older. Most of them had been married and had children. One guy fell asleep during the meeting. I didn’t have much in common with them. So I didn’t go back. I also tried the Bear Movie Group. But most everyone going always came with someone else or knew several people there. I always came alone and didn’t know anyone. Only a few people would introduce themselves. For the most part they would watch the movie and then leave immediately afterwards without stopping to get a few munchies afterwards. So there was no chance to get to know the people. Since there was no chance to get to know people, I quit going. Now I don’t have the money to go out. So even if I could find a group, which I can’t , I couldn’t do anything. Gman

I hired him for an overnight probably 14 years ago-this was before the first iPhone. He couldn’t stay away from texting on his BlackBerry. Gman

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He may be lying. But as far as I know I’m his only f-cking partner. Gman

Even if Dexter is not on PrEP, it doesn’t matter for now because I am-but my insurance changes at the end of October and I probably won’t be able to afford it with the new insurance. Plus my doctors want to prescribe immunosuppressants for my myasthenia. I’m not sure how I’ll feel about going bare when I’ll be immune suppressed. Dexter has an nice house he bought a year and a half ago. He had no problems hosting. But he doesn’t want -I’m assuming it’s not just me but it could be -the neighbors to know he’s gay. So I’m not supposed to make noise when I arrive or leave. Even before the house Dexter had his own apartment. As for Ralph-he can’t host because he has a partner. I can’t host because of my living situation. And while I’m not completely closeted, I’m not 100% open-but no wife or kids hold me back. I’ll admit that being with a partnered guy disturbed me. He told me that they didn’t really have much sex. And he said they were open, and he was sure his partner had partners. He said they don’t discuss their sexual partners. But how am I to know if that was true? If he hadn’t seemed like such a nice guy, seemed to really like me so much, and my other opportunities being close to zilch, I would have said no. On top of that he lives close to 40 miles away, so we don’t see each other a lot. Ralph and I have been seeing each other around 10 months now. I’ve never met his hubby or seen a picture. It was still a worry if he truly was in an open relationship or not. But about a month ago I was reading a profile on the MisterX app. The guy was an older guy around my age. From certain tell-tale signs in the profile, I knew immediately that this was Ralph’s partner. And that he was looking for playmates. That made me feel a lot better about the situation. Gman

I spent 41 years not having sex. I missed it all thru my teen-age and young adulthood when it might have been easier to find partners. (Of course that also might have saved my life from HIV). Now it’s like pulling hens teeth to find someone interested. But if I don’t get what I want/need, it might as well be mastubation and masturbation doesn’t satisfy me. I’ve made a promise to a friend that I would only go bare with him. I’m not going to go behind his back and breed someone. I’m not perfect, as you all know here, but I try to be a man of my word. And while I like having sex with Dexter, he’s proven to me over the years that all he really wants is my cock and doesn’t value me at all. He’s condescending and overly entitled. As for the the unknown guy-I’m not asking for love. I like to kiss. It hasn’t nothing to do with affection-or at least it doesn’t with strangers. It’s part of the sex act for me. Maybe it’s not for you. Let’s say equivalently @jjkrkwood someone only wanted you to top them. That’s not your style. You’d probably refuse to see them. I usually refuse guys who don’t like to kiss. It’s as simple as that. Unfortunately there aren’t that many guys who like chubs. But I’m not going to have unsatisfactory sex just because someone says they are interested. Gman

Well I could have had sex -or at least partial sex twice last night, but I turned it down. The first opportunity was from an on and off f-ckbuddy I’ve known for about 6 years-Dexter. I may have talked about this guy some before. He’s about 40, 6 feet tall, athletically muscular and handsome. There are multiple problems with him. When we 1st met, he said he was interested in a boyfriend. Well that didn’t last long. Now he is very experienced. He had a prior boyfriend for years when I’ve never had any. He’s also one of those handsome well-groomed types. I’m not exactly a slob-ok I am-but this guy is more of an athletic GQ type-so it’s not like we are perfect match. He has probably an 8 inch talkywacker beautiful tallywacker-but at least with Daddy types he wants to bottom. But in the 6 years I’ve only slept over at his place twice. He’s never introduced me to anyone else he knows. We’ve never gone out in public together. Recently someone who knows of him-said the saying he wanted to be boyfriends and then backtracking is his modus operandi. Probably one of Dexter’s main problems is he is too handsome. He acts very entitled. His profile on one of the apps reeks of hubris. But he’s handsome. So he can get away with it. We hadn’t talked (texted) much on the apps for the past 6 months. But over the last two months-I don’t know what’s going on but he’s asked me to come over at least three times. He actually texted at 1 AM and said “let’s cuddle.” He’s almost never said that. I’m wondering if my refusals are making him want me more. But if we are going by past experiences, he really just wants to be topped. Then he wants me out the door. Well so why didn’t I go over to this guy’s house. #1. If we aren’t starting until 1:30 AM and we play around for at least an hour and a half-I’d probably want to spend the night. Going from past experiences, once he’s cum-it would pretty much be-“Don’t let the Door his you on the way out”. The other thing is he only wants me bare. He tells me he’s on PrEP. And I mostly believe him. I’m on PrEP too. But the problem is I have another f-buddy-Ralph. I don’t get to see him much. But as far as I know, I’m the only one topping Ralph. And we started out protected. But he wanted to go bare. We came to an agreement that if I went bare with him, he was the only one I’d go bare with. The last time I topped him was probably September because we have nowhere to really meet. We’ve played around with oral. But because of the agreement with Ralph, I can’t see Dexter because he’ll only want me bare. 2nd chance Saturday night/Sunday morning-a guy contacted me on Grindr and wanted to blow me off. But he just wanted an anonymous blow’n’ go. I prefer to know someone better. I also prefer the session to involve kissing. This guy wasn’t interested in that, so I turned him down. So I guess I shouldn’t complain I never get any offers. I do occasionally. But they are darn few. Due to circumstances, I couldn’t accept either of them. Gman

Well if you’re an artist, maybe that can lead to inspiration. For a great many of us, however, it just leads to depression. Gman

Thank the Powers Above I read y’all’s comments before clicking on that link. Gman

I’m not so sure about that. I mean obviously open relationships work for some. But sex is also one of the things that binds people together. Without it-or it if you ‘bind’ with someone else-it could be a death knell for the relationship. Gman

Grace’s Mom was Debbie Reynolds. Who played Karen’s? Gman

You mean just one shot (squeeze) and just like Guy you’re good for the whole day? Gman

Well you have the greatest pickings in the USA. But even so if I were there I wouldn’t usually be able to find my very favorite types. I really like tall muscular blond Nordic types or muscular redheads. Both preferably without tattoos or piercings. Those kind of guys for some reason are in very short supply even in the abundance that is NYC. Now for guys whose favorite types are Latino, Mediterranean, and similar types there are defintely a lot to choose from. Gman