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That’s nice then. When I hired, I tried to stay away from g4pay guys as much as possible. In general I think I succeeded, unless they were the greatest actors ever. I know some people will say well it’s not like the gay escorts were actually attracted to you either. Still there’s a difference even if I can’t explain it. To some it doesn’t matter. But it did to me. Gman

So I wonder why would he block @adventurous old guy? I hope you don’t mind. But could you clarify your terms a bit better? By ‘huge’ do you mean ‘likes to’ or ‘ is an avid bottom’? ‘Huge bottom’ at least as a connotation is not how I remember masculine guys being described. Those kind of words traditionally in my experience were usually part of a conversation that went something like, “Well he looks masculine. But in reality he’s a big (huge) ol’ bottom.” Mind you I’m not saying bottoms aren’t masculine. The majority of guys I’ve topped over the years have been masculine as that’s the kind of guy I prefer. But I’d seldom describe them as ‘huge bottoms’. Gman

If I could, I would. I mean that’s what I really want-a nice friend with benefits. But it’s difficult enough even with Viagra and the like for “Junior” to perk up anymore with guys I like, much less guys I’m not attracted to. So any FWB is going to need to be someone I’m attracted to not just any guy off the street. But it’s mostly a pipe dream anyway. I’ve been on the apps for 6 years and haven’t been able to find someone like that. Gman

I wish it had had that effect on me. I was vaguely nauseous for about two weeks when I started it, and I occasionally had some weird dreams which I wasn’t sure were due to Truvada as I often have weird dreams. Gman

Thanks for the suggestion. I tried it for a while years ago. Most of the guys who liked me, and there weren’t that many to begin with, were some combo of either other bearish guys like me, really really young, really really twinky dudes, or lived hundreds of miles away. Gman

That what I was trying to say about friends. But I don’t really have the opportunity to make any unless it’s thru the apps. It’s just the way my situation is. Gman

If you are talking about Brian (?Bryan), facially I found Brian adorable. He was more on the guy next door type body-wise initially. Afterwards he toned up a bit with a bit more muscle. I remember he said Mike was upset because he was trying to gain muscle at the time too. But I think Mike because of his ectomorphic body type was having trouble putting on muscle. This was of course over 10 years ago. Mike seems to have bulked up nicely since then. Gman

Rather should be Mycoxain’tafloppin. Gman

Oh and I always take my pointy hat off for sex. Gman

Au contraire, mon ami. See my two posts. Gman

After just looking at his ad, I see he has changed his preferences to Top. Good for him. He’ll probably have less guys wanting him to bottom. But didn’t he used to advertise as gay-when now he says he’s bisexual? Of course there was that time on the Forum he mentioned having a wife. And wasn’t he a proponent of safe sex at one time? But now he says he has scenes on Raw Fuck Club-ahh how the mighty have fallen. Gman

I attempted to hire him once towards the latter part of his career. But I was ambivalent because while he was handsome, some things I saw on his videos made me question whether we were really compatible. So when I called and said I was a top, he started talking about how he didn’t want to bottom for everyone. It was difficult. And while I can definitely believe that, he should have just changed his ad to top only and not complained to clients about them wanting him to bottom when he was a well-known bottom. He also complained because I had given him a Google phone number. He said something about he had never had a good client with a Google phone number. Then when describing myself I told him I had a beard. He started mentioning how beards scratched up his face. At that point, I told him politely that I didn’t think we were a good match. And I hoped he had a good business trip while in Seattle. Gman

I’d like to squeeze those two melons. But I’ll never get a guy like that. Don’t get me wrong. I know I’m not special. I know a lot of us will never get a guy like that. I’m just frustrated. Maybe I wouldn’t think about sex so much if I had a non-sexual friend or two. But unfortunately I’m as sh-t at having them as I am at having sex regularly-or even worse. While it’s been a month or two since I’ve topped someone, it’s been years since I’ve had good friends I could count on. Gman

Thank you for clarifying. I appreciate it. I’m not really aware of any sex clubs in Seattle. There is something called Rain City Jacks which is I believe a group (self)masturbation club. I might be wrong about the self part. I’m not really comfortable with the idea of a sex club-I’m not that fond of bath houses either. But not knowing how sex clubs operate-I’m wondering if I’d have the same dismal luck there that I used to have when I occasionally went to a bath house. However, @jjkrkwood, I’m glad you have them as an outlet and are successful there. I’ve said an occasional Grrr to someone. And I’ve sent Grrrs as some of the apps have that option available. But I’m not really into ‘bear’ culture in the same way I’m not into the type of gay culture where you call people -both males and females-as girlfriend’ or refer to people as ‘bitches’. In the past I routinely deleted hook-up apps when they became too frustrating. But that was in a past when I could afford to hire. Now that I can’t afford to hire if the apps didn’t occasionally bear fruit-or even better than fruit-a guy who likes me chub and all and to whom I’m attracted also-then I’d never have sex at all. The apps are the only game in town unfortunately even if my success rate on them hovers near the zero end. Gman

As a side note, I had wanted to hire Mike years ago. I know he advertises as a top. But some top guys are amenable to bottoming. It just may not be something they want to do as an escort. But he was definitely not interested in being versatile. His ex-boyfriend when I met him confirmed that for me too. Gman

I’m trying to think-on Adam4Adam I’ve met my least number of guys over the years maybe 5 or so. Since you basically want to suck large tallywackers, sex clubs are a good place to find guys you like. Since I like kissing, body contact, and topping -and I need a decent sized bed to do that stuff. Sex clubs are not really my cup of tea. (I’m assuming by sex club you mean a bath house). Plus my success rate at bath houses and totally anonymous sex is near zero. I’m glad they work for you though. Gman

Yesterday I was on Scruff. This really cute British guy ‘woofed me’. Facially he looked like a young Matthew Perry. I thanked him for the ‘woof’. We started talking. He seemed really into me-wanted to provide me some oral attention. We arranged to meet today. At midnight I get a text thru Scruff that he has to pick up some special headphones from a mall in Seattle and has no time to meet even though he isn’t leaving until Friday. After him a cute guy with a partner who lives nearer me Woofed me-we talked. He seemed interested in meeting me. He has a thing for older guys. We talk about meeting. I wake up today, and apparently either he or his boyfriend blocked me. Then a cute guy-new to the area-with from pictures- an 8 or 9 inch tallywacker who is tired of topping and wants to bottom contacted me on Adam4Adam. I told him I most likely wasn’t looking for a boyfriend only a friends with benefits situation. Now he won’t respond to texts although I don’t think he has blocked me. Finally, there is a guy on Bear411. He says he is new to it and finds it a bit overwhelming. I’m assuming it’s because he’s both new online and an attractive guy, so I’m betting a lot of guys are contacting him. The troubles are he lives 125 miles from me, and he says work is really busy for him right now. He says he’s interested in meeting. I hate trying to arrange things with guys on Bear411. Since it’s a website and not an app, it doesn’t alert you to messages unless you are logged into it. I’ve missed messages for days from forgetting to log into it. I explain that to him, and give him one of my emails. I also tell him-which I’m sure y’all all know is that the longer ‘conversations’ go on -much like escorts often tell us with long correspondences from potential clients- with these apps an inertia sets in. And it’s less likely a meeting will ever occur. (Just a note of clarification here-I’ve been talking with this guy off and on for weeks. I didn’t spring the ideas of communicating by email on him at once, nor the idea of inertia. We’ve been ‘talking’ on and off since probably at least the 2nd week of December). I tell him I’m not trying to push him though if he’s uncomfortable. He replies ‘ok’. But I’m guessing he’s a lost cause-distance and his own insecurities with a meet-up app coming into play. The sad thing is I really only appeal to guys who like bears. But I’m not really into my fellow bears (for the most part with an occasional exception) unless they are the skinnier otter types or what some might call ‘wolves’-the muscular bear types. And while there is an ‘over abundance’ of my type of bear. There is definitely a dearth of the kinds of guys I like spread over too many me-types. I’d say gay men on apps are scum. But I think it’s just men on apps in general. Some years back I had a zaftig friend who was exploring the dating waters as she was about to divorce her husband. Her app/website of choice was Pool of Fish. I remember her getting ready to go on one-maybe two- different meet and greets and the guys never showing up. She also told me she met so many guys online who wanted sex-can you imagine? I guess it’s the nature of the apps. I’ll bet women can be flaky too. It’s the anonymous nature of the apps that make it so easy to flake. I also realize I’m not perfect-but I try not to play the games others do on the apps. The one main thing I have problems with is letting people down easy if I’m not attracted to them which seem to be the majority of guys who contact me. Since I’m rebuffed 99% of the time, I know how it feels But in the case of these 4 guys-it wasn’t a situation of them needing to rebuff me as I wasn’t their type. All 4 of them indicated interest. That’s what is so frustrating when not so many do. Considering the guys who are interested in me are ‘‘rara avis’es”, ie “rare birds”, I guess it’s good that my libido is so reduced these days. It’s been two or three weeks since I last.... (hope that is not too much TMI). I do feel the need to now. But I hate to just masturbate and ‘waste it’ considering how long it can take me to ‘build back up a head of steam’ these days when I’d really prefer to be with someone. Gman

I’m glad the holidays were good for you and the boys. I did have one question about your narrative. Is the oldest son’s girlfriend at school with him? As for escorts, it’s too bad Andrew Justice retired. But he probably would have required an overnight as he would have been coming in from out of town. Here are two guys who have been around for a while. I can only say that their reviews have been good as I’m not a bottom. https://rent.men/MikeAustin https://rent.men/BradHunt Brad was a porn star in his younger days. I’m sure you can find some free stuff of his online. Personally I think he is handsomer now. And while Brad advertises as versatile, if the common belief that most clients are bottoms is true, and in any case considering the size of his tallywacker, I’m sure he is asked to top much more often than he is to bottom. Gman

Austin and San Antonio never seem to have that many. Gman

It depends on what you like/are attracted to. I often see members here all excited about some escort that I would never pick. For example, there are some members who really like the young, twinks. And there is nothing wrong with liking legal age twinks. But for the most part, I have no attraction to them at all. So how hot ‘all’ escorts are is going to depend on how eclectic you are. You hear about-at least in books-straight guys who talk about how all women are beautiful-just some more than others. There’s probably a gay equivalent to that. But I’d say that for most us on here we aren’t quite as eclectic as that. There are types we like and types we definitely don’t. Gman

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e6NBcuO20tE Gman

For years I’ve received emails from Facebook listing people I might want to be friends with. And occasionally I’ve recognized some of these people as escorts. I’ve always figured that Facebook somehow looked at my email contacts and matched emails and/or my phone contact list. That’s why I’ve never given Facebook my phone number. Gman

I understand your point. But I actually find the praising to the sky comments more suspect by new-ish members—esp when there have been questionable comments made prior to their paeans of glory. Gman

You see ‘smoking’ listed on so many of these profiles in their “Likes Section”. While I realize some escorts smoke, I always wonder if a lot of them just check all the options to try to appeal to the widest selection of clients. I also wonder if this guy is one of the bisexual4pay group. I’m not sure if I ever hired a guy who listed his position as ‘Ask Me’. Gman

Ah we are different. While I don’t like bag check fees, I hate not having an assigned seat. I also hate that they don’t have food. And on long distance flights I’ve often thought their seats were incredibly uncomfortable. They are fine for a short jaunt from Dallas to Houston or Dallas to Austin, but I find long flights on SWA to be murder. And nowadays unless you book really, really far in advance they are just as expensive as the legacy airlines with the added bonus that depending on where you are going, if it’s a long distance flight/cross country flight, it can often take you all day as there’s a good chance you are going to have to change flights. Mind you, I don’t think American has particularly comfortable seats either. Alaska Air has pretty comfortable seats. But their seat pockets on the backs of the seats in front of you are (intentionally I’m sure) a joke. But I’m glad you made it home safely. Gman