RealAvalon

What happens in Wichita stays in Wichita …

and you're glad it wasn't right?

I thought Judy was quoting a gay retiree when she said "we're not in Kansas anymore" (I quite liked Kansas City when I was there a few years ago in the early Fall.)

Is any extended travel - for a couple of months - possible, in between the necessary doctor's appointment and your sister etc.?

They're mesmerizing …

I don't get the almost extreme reaction to work being a friendly open place to make social connections, that sometimes, can turn into something more serious. It happens all the time with my straight friends. All the time. I just can't see buying into a double standard for 'the gays'.

Maybe he's a cat person

So I'm not losing my mind

Did you delete and then re=post this comment? It looks like what you said yesterday, but that message is gone now.

Yes, I agree with most of that, and it amplifies what I said before with "obviously I'm not talking about having sex at work, or other inappropriate or harassing behaviors." (Although I expect it would be 'repeated' unwanted compliments.) As the Director of a facility with over 60+ staff, interpersonal issues are a constant I deal with. Meeting at work remains extremely common amongst future romantic partners, yes, even today. Work is still the biggest part of many people's social lives, think of that what you will. I've come to believe, it's why so many heart attacks occur amongst men soon after retirement. The stress of having no daily routine and the loss of a major part of their social outlet. But, perhaps I wasn't clear with my "not being asexual/neutered" at work comment. I thought I was picking up on some trepidation about being 'out' at work. (They ALL know we are gay anyway.)

This comment strikes me as depressing. I can't imagine choosing to live such a siloed closeted existence.

My (granted limited) experience with Vegas was that there were a lot of hot guys visiting that really want to get fucked. I was thinking, it must make an escort's job prospects harder for sure.

I don't understand all this whinging about meeting someone at work. Isn't it super common amongst your straight friends and family? Without thinking about it much I can think of 10 couples that met at work. (School is the other big one for meeting.) There's no separate set of rules for gays and lesbians, that we have to be neutered and asexual at work. (And obviously I'm not talking about having sex at work, or other inappropriate or harassing behavior.)

People probably assume you are gay. It would be unusual for a modern workplace to be that clueless. (And a third of them have noticed you're interested in him and want you to get on with it already ... ) [Edit 10 minutes later: After a little more thought, I hope this answer wasn't overly flip, as I don't know you and don't know how concerned you actually are about this.]

This is my experience as well, lots of people I know met at work. If heterosexuals can do it, no reason queers can't do it in an equal way - respecting all the work place rules around supervision etc.

If you are really concerned about his reaction, let him know you are gay (btw he already knows) and see if anything changes with your interactions. If you aren't really concerned, ask him out on a 'date'. Straight or gay I don't find that suspense in these things is never useful. Best to know yes or no, as soon as possible, so you can move on as friends (with out the baggage of expectations) or as fuck buddies/boyfriend/partners.

How did you come across that story? Are you on some sort of 'cat story alert'? The Internet is scary.

I have no idea what point you were making. Unless it was to intentional make a non-point.

Either the Maritimes or the Atlantic Provinces … potato … potatoh

No

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As he said, @jjkrkwood is a people pleaser

Does this have to do with lifestyle issues of exercise from walking the dog, and social support, dog walkers are the people that talk to each other

You only give them?

But you're bloody Australian. Get with it boy. What kind of travel history is that for an Australian … three provinces. phhhttt