MichBoyBlake

I haven't yet done any traveling as an escort, but I'm gonna mostly agree with @Mocha . I've been looking into doing some traveling this summer, and basically I've come to the conclusion that like, at least for me it'd be best to just go somewhere that I actually want to visit anyways. If it's profitable, great. If it ends up not being profitable, I'm still getting a trip out of it that I wanted to take anyways. It would kinda suck if at the end of the trip I haven't even broke even but, I think when I travel I'll just go with the mentality that I might not even break even and focus on enjoying the trip, making it worth it regardless.
 
To be fair I really enjoy traveling and like discovering new places though. I know not everyone is into that so much.

I've never been to gold coast because I've never once heard anything good about it. Pretty much the same with every other gay bar/club/bathhouse/spa or whatever in the area. They're all pretty dreadful as far as I'm aware, although I'm not typically into either the strip club or bathhouse/spa scene personally, not that I have anything them. Although obviously you've known of gold coast much longer than me and have gone there quite a few times, so from what you've said I can gather it used to be a lot nicer. I've just never heard anything good at all about it, in the short few years I've even known about it.
I could be totally wrong but I feel like the reason a lot of the gay spaces in the area are so terrible is because of how many people are 'discreet' or 'dl'. Like I'm not judging anyone, but sometimes I seriously feel like I'm the only comfortably out person in the whole metro area haha. Obviously I'm exaggerating, but still.
It also doesn't help that all the places like gold coast, menjos, BZ etc. are in not-so-great areas, so they just don't get the customers that really spend money that often. Idk where people actually go though. Probably places in Ferndale or RO, haha.

I haven't yet done any traveling as an escort, but I'm gonna mostly agree with @Mocha . I've been looking into doing some traveling this summer, and basically I've come to the conclusion that like, at least for me it'd be best to just go somewhere that I actually want to visit anyways. If it's profitable, great. If it ends up not being profitable, I'm still getting a trip out of it that I wanted to take anyways. It would kinda suck if at the end of the trip I haven't even broke even but, I think when I travel I'll just go with the mentality that I might not even break even and focus on enjoying the trip, making it worth it regardless.
 
To be fair I really enjoy traveling and like discovering new places though. I know not everyone is into that so much.

I haven't yet done any traveling as an escort, but I'm gonna mostly agree with @Mocha . I've been looking into doing some traveling this summer, and basically I've come to the conclusion that like, at least for me it'd be best to just go somewhere that I actually want to visit anyways. If it's profitable, great. If it ends up not being profitable, I'm still getting a trip out of it that I wanted to take anyways. It would kinda suck if at the end of the trip I haven't even broke even but, I think when I travel I'll just go with the mentality that I might not even break even and focus on enjoying the trip, making it worth it regardless.
 
To be fair I really enjoy traveling and like discovering new places though. I know not everyone is into that so much.

Forgive me but I looked at the initial question and didn't read through the 3 pages of responses since I just wanted to throw out a quick answer. Unless you're hiring someone in an area that's extremely racially divided and would make sense for clients to openly put it out on their ads that they don't have any qualms with race, I would definitely assume that a lack of mentioning race at all in their ad would signal that they have no qualms with race. I've actually never even thought about writing in my ad that I don't really care about a client's age or race or anything like that, because it's just not even something I think about in terms of potential clients. I can't speak for hiring, but if I ever hookup in my personal life, the idea of someone not being "attracted" to a certain race is a complete pass and turn-off for me, even though generally that isn't my race since I'm pretty white.
 
I'll try not to start this up but I bet if I went through this and read everyone's comments I'd find this same observation pretty quickly. How many times do you really see guys with a "racial preference" that excludes white guys, as opposed to any other race...? I think most of the time when people have a "racial preference" it's not necessarily outright, angry cross-burning racism.. but it's certainly a level of like, subconscious, ingrained, institutionalized racism. To be completely honest when I was a young teenager, I used to think I didn't find black or hispanic men attractive at all, but still well before my 20s I started to wonder why I felt that way and let myself push that boundary a bit more, and I very quickly learned it wasn't at all a lack of attraction towards certain races, it was just weird institutionalized racism in my subconscious that without challenging it a bit, would barely let me even look at black or hispanic men in a physically attractive/sexual way. Once I realized that I challenged myself A LOT and got over it rreaalll quick because I'm personally not at all ok with living my life like that, and now I don't have any issues with finding any races unattractive because honestly no one really does, it's seriously an entirely socialized and institutionalized thing that sticks into the back of your head until you acknowledge it and ask yourself if you're really comfortable with having that preference or not.
 
Also just as a quick end note I'll add in that I also have an aversion to, especially in porn, terms like 'BBC' or whatever. Like on the other end of having a 'racial preference', it's also totally ingrained, institutionalized racism to fetishize race. On some level, if a provider were to advertise themselves in a way that fetishized their own race, I could understand them doing it in the sense of the niche they want to fill and they image they want to project, but I still do think providers advertising themselves that way is kinda problematic... but it's part of a much, much larger problem and if someone advertises themselves as like
"the asian sensation straight from the silk road" or whatever I think that's horrible but also it's not really solely that provider's responsibility to outwardly try to fix the problem if playing to it is something they actually want to do.
 
TL; DR: I don't think people with racial preferences are necessarily full-blown racist, although some certainly are... they're just too comfortable with ignoring and not doing anything to challenge that 'preference' that they seem to have.
 
 
EDIT: IF ANY of the random tagline things that I put in quotes and came up with on-the-fly are like taglines that anyone on this forum or any escort uses... I'M SO SORRY I PROMISE I'm not coming for ANYONE I was just coming up with a couple of dumb things on-the-fly to make a point. This is like the South Park disclaimer only unlike South Park I really was not at all trying to imitate or throw any shade.

I've perhaps had too much time on my hands lately:oops:
Well said;)

On the contrary, it's my bad that I haven't found this before. It's exactly what I was looking for, thank you!
 
On a side note, something doesn't add up since I see days with no unique visits at all but several totals. Not a big deal but has me wondering.

I copy/pasted this directly from RentMen.. idk if you hadn't seen this, or if their description is what you were having trouble understanding, but I thought I'd throw it into this thread just in case. I really don't mean for this to come off as patronizing or condescending or anything lol, I just thought it'd be a useful to post this in this thread as a reference.
 

I love watching cams, and it's exciting when the ones with viewership in the multi-thousands reply to a simple compliment from me. I don't know if I could ever bring myself to cam, as those that use hashtags for having tiny or small cocks are still at least a good inch longer than I am when fully hard. Then again, the market for cut guys who cam are vastly outnumbered by their uncut counterparts at a ratio of 1 to 14, so I would be a "rare breed".

I'm not an escort, but I watch a fair amount of camming. It takes time to build a following of people who tune in when you cam. Some of the most successful ones I've seen chat with their viewers, telling them about their lives, what they are thinking. These men seem to have the most stable income as far as I can tell. PM me and I'll give you some links to some successful models, I would suggest watching them to see how they do and emulate what works for you.
 
I know this may not be your thing. I have seen some that just get on and jerk it, but but generally there are a lot of hot guys who talk, and that brings in the cash. It's (in my mind) a lot like escorting. You are there to show the client a good time, to seem to (or actually) make a connection. The viewers want that too. It's much more exciting for me when a guy talks to me or response in the chat, or even better gives me a PM.

I haven't yet done any traveling as an escort, but I'm gonna mostly agree with @Mocha . I've been looking into doing some traveling this summer, and basically I've come to the conclusion that like, at least for me it'd be best to just go somewhere that I actually want to visit anyways. If it's profitable, great. If it ends up not being profitable, I'm still getting a trip out of it that I wanted to take anyways. It would kinda suck if at the end of the trip I haven't even broke even but, I think when I travel I'll just go with the mentality that I might not even break even and focus on enjoying the trip, making it worth it regardless.
 
To be fair I really enjoy traveling and like discovering new places though. I know not everyone is into that so much.

Actually I changed my mind. Since no other escorts have really given any responses, I’ll just go ahead and say what I believe, based on real world experience.
 
Basically, there’s really no “best places” for escorts, atleast not when speaking generally. One has to find the place that they like, what works for them in terms of ease of getting around, climate they prefer, and what that city has to offer.
 
Someone may say, “Chicago is the best place.” Another may say LA is the best place. Then another may say Charlotte, NC. All 3 areas are very different in terms of weather, things to do, and how to get around.
 
Even if you travel for several days, obviously it’s not possible to hit every market. So therefore, you will have to decide which place looks reasonable for you to go based on research.
 
Many people starting out, assume going to the cities with the most escorts will be the best places for escorts. That may not always be the case though. However, sometimes it’s hard to tell. I rarely ever hit anything in Chicago, but I’ve had success in Minneapolis. I usually leave disappointed in Los Angeles, but have done better in San Francisco.
 
Then there’s time where a city will be profitable, but a production to work out of. For example: San Francisco and Washington DC both carry the dilemma: do I want to pay a premium to stay in the city limits (plus costs of parking), or do I want to stay on the outside of town, and save money but at the possibility of not being able to reach clients quickly, or traversing across bridges multiple times throughout the stay.
 
Some areas are seasonal and can may vary at which times are good to go.

Totally unrelated but your signature on here just gave me a good idea and I'm not gonna make mine exactly the way you've done yours but uhh.. you might notice some influence

To clarify, by "a good excuse to travel" I more or less mean that like, if I ended up getting enough bookings to break even or make a tiny profit after considering general travel expenses, e.g. flights, hotels, rental cars, food, etc... then that would give me a good enough excuse to go visit pretty much anywhere. I really enjoy exploring new places and like, if left to my own devices any travel plans I make would probably end up being relatively predictable in terms of like location/city.. but I do definitely love the idea of just visiting random places that I normally wouldn't really have a reason to visit, and spending a few days or a week there exploring. It's just hard to justify going out and doing that by myself without like some sort of reason to be there.

Although this is about traveling in general, I promise it's actually a question for other escorts and not just me talking about travel plans, so I do feel that it fits here best. I'm sorry if it doesn't, and if asked by a mod I have no problem moving it to the travel section.
 
Anyways, it's finally getting nice out, summer is starting strong, and although I love traveling and exploring new places, I haven't really had much of an excuse to make very many trips for a little while now. I'm really starting to get the itch, haha.
 
I'm curious about any insights other escorts might have on how to use being a provider as a way to create an excuse to go on some trips. I've heard providers will do a thing sometimes where they list travel dates, and then cancel them if they don't drum up enough interest. I might try that a bit as a way to help, but I really don't want that to be my only tactic. For all I know it has a lot to do with my area, but I'm so used to flaky clients at this point, that I would hate to feel like I've drummed up enough interest, make the plans, go on the trip, and then end up having not enough clients follow through to justify the trip in the first place.
 
Also, is there a good way to try and put out some message to potential clients along the lines of... "I really enjoy traveling and even if you're far away still contact me if you're interested because knowing enough people in your area are interested can give me enough of an excuse to make a trip to your area" ?
I'm not so much looking for how to word that necessarily, but just a way to put out that message without making it seem like needy or aggressive or something.

Congrats on the review! I STILL haven't been reviewed but I also feel weird asking for a review and I think most clients don't like to write reviews, at least where I am lol. Especially since there's also this thing where plenty of escorts prefer to not have reviews, even if they're good ones.
 
You already have a great collection of pics! AND a good video! Better than the pics I currently have posted to my RM ad at the moment lol. Looking at your ad makes me feel like an amateur haha.. I've been meaning to fix my profile up for a while now and this is definitely gonna motivate me to step it up lol. It looks like you're definitely off to a great start!
 
Try to learn something from every client about how you want to be perceived by clients, how you want to interact with them, how you want to handle all sorts of different situations that may come up, etc. I guess it all depends on your niche but I feel like interacting positively with clients is a lot more important than performance in the sexual part of it, although bad performance is still not great and it doesn't at all hurt to be good at a number of different things in bed
 
I'd also say don't worry about 'branding' so much. In a way it's similar, but think more about what niche you'd like to fill, rather than what your 'brand' looks like. One thing I really like about this work is that I don't ever feel like I'm competing with others in my area really, because most people fill a different sort of niche, and even if that difference is very slight, it still makes a world of difference to most clients.
 
As for rates, it's very much dependent on your area. Some people might take it the wrong way but, if you're having trouble figuring out what your normal, standard rate should be.. I wouldn't hesitate to contact other escorts near you, explain that you're new and figuring it out, and ask them what they charge. Just don't let it bother you if anyone gets bitchy about it.
 
Also, I promise I only mean this in the nicest and most flattering possible way. You're young, in great shape, and have a very nice body. You're objectively and conventionally very attractive. Don't let that go to your head. Experienced clients will smell that from a mile away, although some might be into that... (to be fair being a bit full of yourself in that way could totally be part of a niche). Just don't get the idea that you can charge significantly more than other clients purely based on looks. Everyone sorta finds and fills their own niche. No tea no shade, there are plenty of conventionally unattractive escorts that still do quite well. Idk about how things go in the huge west- and east-coast US cities that have tons of providers and clients all over the place, but from what I know experienced clients tend to expect your rate to be relatively similar to others in the same area, and having a higher rate usually has more to do with having more reviews, being more well-known, etc. Since you're just starting out I'd even suggest low-balling a bit at first, not to undercut people but to give clients a little incentive to try out the 'new guy'.
 
Before this gets way too long even though it already has, the only other thing I want to add is if you haven't already, put more thought into putting up one or two face pictures. That's completely up to you though -- you'll see clients posting on here about how they would never even click on an ad if the first picture didn't have the escorts face in it, but really that's only some clients. Not having a face picture up might hurt your chances of being hired a little bit, but in general I believe it's always worth it to do whatever feels right for you, even if it's something that you're worried about hurting your chances of being hired, because in the end doing whatever feels right for you just helps you fill a more and more unique niche.

I think you should disclose it not to make anyone feel more comfortable but just as a casual matter of fact. I think it's good to describe yourself just so that no one is caught off guard or surprised. There is no shame in your ethnicity or color regardless of what that might be. I flew to meet a client once, who sent me a picture of a guy that was of a totally different body type AND ethnicity/color. (I don't use the term race unless I'm emphasizing the only race there actually is, which is the human race) it was unnecessary for him to do this because I don't care what ethnicity or color you are.
When I got off the plane it was only awkward for a moment because of the "bait and switch", but I addressed it and then we had THEEE best time that I have EVERRRR had with ANYONE! If someone has an issue with your ethnicity, color, age, then that is their issue. Don't make it yours!

Racism is racism. Period. There are no degrees or levels to it. The idea of there being levels to racism is as much a lie as the entire construct of race which was made up by racist whites to devalue & dehumanize Blacks, and other indegenous people.

If I ever ask a client anything, I always caveat it with you don't have to answer if you don't want to and I'm very clear about that. I think asking a full name is definitely not a reasonable question, unless you've been talking to a client for a while and they seem a bit dodgy and difficult to work things out with. But I would much sooner just apologize and ask to schedule for a later date, than ask for a full name or 2 pictures. I honestly wouldn't even ask for 1 picture haha.
 
Generally I ask what the client is looking for and why they want to book me, although usually clients answer that question close to initial contact, before I can even ask. The other question I like to ask is like, roughly what their age is, meaning just giving me a decade would be fine. But I also always make sure to add that they don't have to answer that question if they don't want to, and I personally have no issues with any ages. I just like to ask because on my end it's sorta nice to have a very rough idea of what to expect in terms of age when meeting a client for the first time.
 
Full name is way too much. I might ask a first name after I've booked someone, but that's really just to have a name so that in the future I can remember the client and not constantly give off a rude, "who are you? i don't quite remember" vibe. BUT even then I also wouldn't ever expect whatever name I'm given by a client to necessarily be their real name, and I honestly don't care if it's a fake name or not. It's just much better and much more humanizing to try and remember a client by a name rather than something really dumb like "client A" or "client B", if that makes sense.
 
I should note though that if I get a bad vibe from a client that can't be shaken off, I'm also not afraid of just simply telling someone something like sorry, i'm getting a bad vibe from you and you aren't helping fix that vibe so I'm not willing to book with you at this time. I do try to work with people A LOT though so that has really only happened like twice, and one of those times I was pretty convinced the guy wanted me to show up at a hotel with some drug that I couldn't figure out because I didn't understand the like code-name he was giving me for the drug and I don't do drugs at all lol.
 
 
EDIT: added last paragraph

Totally unrelated but your signature on here just gave me a good idea and I'm not gonna make mine exactly the way you've done yours but uhh.. you might notice some influence

One thing I know some clients do, and I actually think is kind of a smart approach to figuring this out, is to ask the escort if they're willing to bareback for you. If they say yes or even try to negotiate it, then you can probably assume they've done that with clients before. If they say no, then you have the answer you were hoping for.
I've definitely been tested with that question by clients a few times. It doesn't bother me though because I also never bareback so it's not like that sort of question is something that puts me on my toes haha.

Is it really a "card" if it's true though?

I hope this is an ok place to post this, it seems like it makes more sense than any of the other topics, but idk.
 
I'm wondering if anyone else would be interested in seeing like a "ask a client" section on this forum, essentially the counterpart to the "ask an escort" section? I sort of want to put it out there as a suggestion, but I'd rather not let that bother mods too much without knowing whether or not enough people on here are interested.
 
As a provider I feel like having a section where I could bring up questions for clients to discuss would really help me out a lot in terms of improving and getting a better understanding of viewpoints and thoughts from the guys on the other end.
 
Just a thought!

One thing I know some clients do, and I actually think is kind of a smart approach to figuring this out, is to ask the escort if they're willing to bareback for you. If they say yes or even try to negotiate it, then you can probably assume they've done that with clients before. If they say no, then you have the answer you were hoping for.
I've definitely been tested with that question by clients a few times. It doesn't bother me though because I also never bareback so it's not like that sort of question is something that puts me on my toes haha.

It's definitely completely ok! In fact I really like clients like that honestly. I just think like any human relationship it's important to be upfront and try to stay in tune with what the other person wants.
I have a couple of clients that I would say have become friends. The main one that I'm thinking of in particular doesn't book me very often, but we text back and forth here and there and keep in touch. That one works out really well though because it's understood that booking is still booking, even if we get along great and communicate regularly outside of bookings.
 
Of course everyone is different and feels different ways about different things, but for me personally, I generally wouldn't be open to making friends with clients who then stop booking and just expect to be fwb. I've had clients try to move into that territory before and I've felt bad about not being able to go that way, but I've also made sure to be upfront and respectful of the other person's feelings/time. I do like having a somewhat blurred line between my personal life and my work as an escort, but it's just very difficult for me to fully overlap the two.
 
In a perfect world, I feel like both clients and providers shouldn't feel nervous, embarrassed or anxious about discussing these types of things in a 1-on-1 manner and working out a solution that works for both of them.
 
But seriously if you're asking about this as a client, you're my favorite type of client! For me that's the type of arrangement I aim for with clients.