Kinky Boyfriend

A lot of my clients say that from the moment we meet, they feel like we are long lost lovers. I have a natural talent for making people feel comfortable to be deeply intimate with me very quickly. I can’t really claim that this is something ONLY I can do, but it’s definitely something that seems to make my style of BFE very special... I kiss without reservation. Love and sex are not separate entities to me and their energy flows together when I give BFE. Now am I literally in love with all my clients? No, but perhaps for the moment, I allow myself to be energetically on that path with them. Someone who is looking for a taste of genuine intimacy can find it with me. My portals are open when I allow them to be...

The vagueness of the term certainly leads to as many different interpretations as there are clients and providers.
However, I think a general impression can be culled from our individual ones: That BFE is just as much (if not more so) about compassionate mental-emotional affection and interaction as it is about whatever else may take place.
 
For me, it means that we spend time together and there's a general ebb and flow with our physical interaction as opposed to having a laundry list of physical acts to take place. A fair amount of time could be spent hand holding, cuddling, talking about the great mysteries of life, etc --- generally behaviors one may expect in an established relationship versus what behavior one may expect from picking someone up at a bar.

YES! In another thread awhile back I brought up hand holding. I see that being a BFE.

If you make me feel both desirable and cared about then you get an A+

The vagueness of the term certainly leads to as many different interpretations as there are clients and providers.
However, I think a general impression can be culled from our individual ones: That BFE is just as much (if not more so) about compassionate mental-emotional affection and interaction as it is about whatever else may take place.
 
For me, it means that we spend time together and there's a general ebb and flow with our physical interaction as opposed to having a laundry list of physical acts to take place. A fair amount of time could be spent hand holding, cuddling, talking about the great mysteries of life, etc --- generally behaviors one may expect in an established relationship versus what behavior one may expect from picking someone up at a bar.

The vagueness of the term certainly leads to as many different interpretations as there are clients and providers.
However, I think a general impression can be culled from our individual ones: That BFE is just as much (if not more so) about compassionate mental-emotional affection and interaction as it is about whatever else may take place.
 
For me, it means that we spend time together and there's a general ebb and flow with our physical interaction as opposed to having a laundry list of physical acts to take place. A fair amount of time could be spent hand holding, cuddling, talking about the great mysteries of life, etc --- generally behaviors one may expect in an established relationship versus what behavior one may expect from picking someone up at a bar.

I find "Do you have any limits?" a bit of a red flag versus a much more appropriate "What are your limits?" --
 
Main issue is that safety doesn't appear to be a priority and harm would be likely to occur.
 
There's a bit of a dismissal of the provider as human - because I guarantee that just about every person has limits and theoretical client is just not recognizing that aspect of the provider's humanity.
 
(Not saying that *consensual* objectification/dehumanization can't be a fun avenue to explore... But only after a trust dynamic has been established)
 
 
For me personally, this would also indicate that the client hasn't read my site as I go into great detail about my interests/limits on there

The vagueness of the term certainly leads to as many different interpretations as there are clients and providers.
However, I think a general impression can be culled from our individual ones: That BFE is just as much (if not more so) about compassionate mental-emotional affection and interaction as it is about whatever else may take place.
 
For me, it means that we spend time together and there's a general ebb and flow with our physical interaction as opposed to having a laundry list of physical acts to take place. A fair amount of time could be spent hand holding, cuddling, talking about the great mysteries of life, etc --- generally behaviors one may expect in an established relationship versus what behavior one may expect from picking someone up at a bar.

The vagueness of the term certainly leads to as many different interpretations as there are clients and providers.
However, I think a general impression can be culled from our individual ones: That BFE is just as much (if not more so) about compassionate mental-emotional affection and interaction as it is about whatever else may take place.
 
For me, it means that we spend time together and there's a general ebb and flow with our physical interaction as opposed to having a laundry list of physical acts to take place. A fair amount of time could be spent hand holding, cuddling, talking about the great mysteries of life, etc --- generally behaviors one may expect in an established relationship versus what behavior one may expect from picking someone up at a bar.

The vagueness of the term certainly leads to as many different interpretations as there are clients and providers.
However, I think a general impression can be culled from our individual ones: That BFE is just as much (if not more so) about compassionate mental-emotional affection and interaction as it is about whatever else may take place.
 
For me, it means that we spend time together and there's a general ebb and flow with our physical interaction as opposed to having a laundry list of physical acts to take place. A fair amount of time could be spent hand holding, cuddling, talking about the great mysteries of life, etc --- generally behaviors one may expect in an established relationship versus what behavior one may expect from picking someone up at a bar.

The vagueness of the term certainly leads to as many different interpretations as there are clients and providers.
However, I think a general impression can be culled from our individual ones: That BFE is just as much (if not more so) about compassionate mental-emotional affection and interaction as it is about whatever else may take place.
 
For me, it means that we spend time together and there's a general ebb and flow with our physical interaction as opposed to having a laundry list of physical acts to take place. A fair amount of time could be spent hand holding, cuddling, talking about the great mysteries of life, etc --- generally behaviors one may expect in an established relationship versus what behavior one may expect from picking someone up at a bar.

The vagueness of the term certainly leads to as many different interpretations as there are clients and providers.
However, I think a general impression can be culled from our individual ones: That BFE is just as much (if not more so) about compassionate mental-emotional affection and interaction as it is about whatever else may take place.
 
For me, it means that we spend time together and there's a general ebb and flow with our physical interaction as opposed to having a laundry list of physical acts to take place. A fair amount of time could be spent hand holding, cuddling, talking about the great mysteries of life, etc --- generally behaviors one may expect in an established relationship versus what behavior one may expect from picking someone up at a bar.

The vagueness of the term certainly leads to as many different interpretations as there are clients and providers.
However, I think a general impression can be culled from our individual ones: That BFE is just as much (if not more so) about compassionate mental-emotional affection and interaction as it is about whatever else may take place.
 
For me, it means that we spend time together and there's a general ebb and flow with our physical interaction as opposed to having a laundry list of physical acts to take place. A fair amount of time could be spent hand holding, cuddling, talking about the great mysteries of life, etc --- generally behaviors one may expect in an established relationship versus what behavior one may expect from picking someone up at a bar.

*group sex at 4:30/5 a.m. probably almost never involves sober sex

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I find "Do you have any limits?" a bit of a red flag versus a much more appropriate "What are your limits?" --
 
Main issue is that safety doesn't appear to be a priority and harm would be likely to occur.
 
There's a bit of a dismissal of the provider as human - because I guarantee that just about every person has limits and theoretical client is just not recognizing that aspect of the provider's humanity.
 
(Not saying that *consensual* objectification/dehumanization can't be a fun avenue to explore... But only after a trust dynamic has been established)
 
 
For me personally, this would also indicate that the client hasn't read my site as I go into great detail about my interests/limits on there

I find "Do you have any limits?" a bit of a red flag versus a much more appropriate "What are your limits?" --
 
Main issue is that safety doesn't appear to be a priority and harm would be likely to occur.
 
There's a bit of a dismissal of the provider as human - because I guarantee that just about every person has limits and theoretical client is just not recognizing that aspect of the provider's humanity.
 
(Not saying that *consensual* objectification/dehumanization can't be a fun avenue to explore... But only after a trust dynamic has been established)
 
 
For me personally, this would also indicate that the client hasn't read my site as I go into great detail about my interests/limits on there

I find "Do you have any limits?" a bit of a red flag versus a much more appropriate "What are your limits?" --
 
Main issue is that safety doesn't appear to be a priority and harm would be likely to occur.
 
There's a bit of a dismissal of the provider as human - because I guarantee that just about every person has limits and theoretical client is just not recognizing that aspect of the provider's humanity.
 
(Not saying that *consensual* objectification/dehumanization can't be a fun avenue to explore... But only after a trust dynamic has been established)
 
 
For me personally, this would also indicate that the client hasn't read my site as I go into great detail about my interests/limits on there

You're going to get a slew of answers and opinions here.
 
Point blank: Ask the escort before you see him. Don't put him on the spot about it.

I don't doubt that it's an extremely erotic experience, but the practice carries a very high risk of potentially fatal arrhythmia. And I even recognize that a top's skill level may mitigate the risk. The problem is that I'm not aware of any certification programs that guarantee that a top has the skill level necessary to keep a bottom out of ventricular tachycardia.
 
So, unless the bottom knows his top pretty well, he's taking his life in his hands doing breath play.

Well responsible players always play safely and sanely. Of course we all have a different definition of what safely and sanely references. Given that premise, it is important for the dom and sub to be on the exact same wavelength.... with in the majority of situations the limits of the sub being the factor determining how far and how fast the action proceeds.
 
Unfortunately I have seen situations where the dom refused to respect the sub’s limits. Once I had to physically stop the self-proclaimed hotshot dom from causing injury to the sub who was a friend. In such situations the dom must remember that it is not all about his personal gratification. It is a two way commitment of mutual respect.
 
Of course I have seen situations where the dom has refused to go as far as the sub wishes to go and that’s not a bad thing. It is always obviously best to err on the side of caution. Still the bottom line is the same. The players must respect each others limits.
 
With experience and the use of safe words... and respecting those words... limits can be safely be pushed by degrees on both sides of the equation.
 
PS: incidentally I would never get involved with a choking scene or any situation where the airway or breathing might be obstructed.

Seconding @honcho re: drugs impairing one's ability to judge when damage occurs.
 
Some don't carry out scenes if any party involved has a drop of alcohol in them.
 
 
General guidelines for kink/BDSM play:
Keep everything
- Safe
- Sane
- Consensual
 
Incorporating drug use into a scene ticks none of those boxes.
 
That being said, many of those who seek a rougher playstyle / have more "intense" fetishes also often use drugs as a way to either distract from pain or to tap into the darker/intense headspace.
 
 
I find it preferable when people are able to tap into those spaces without the use of drugs, not to mention the safety/health/legal aspects.

Seconding @honcho re: drugs impairing one's ability to judge when damage occurs.
 
Some don't carry out scenes if any party involved has a drop of alcohol in them.
 
 
General guidelines for kink/BDSM play:
Keep everything
- Safe
- Sane
- Consensual
 
Incorporating drug use into a scene ticks none of those boxes.
 
That being said, many of those who seek a rougher playstyle / have more "intense" fetishes also often use drugs as a way to either distract from pain or to tap into the darker/intense headspace.
 
 
I find it preferable when people are able to tap into those spaces without the use of drugs, not to mention the safety/health/legal aspects.

I agree totally with both of the above. Drugs do speak to the inferior skills of the top and are additionally a crutch for the sub... alcohol as well. There is a reason that no acchol is available at many of the venues that host such play parties. As for drugs, you have to hope that the dom is not on some sort of trip. Many years ago I ended up being badly worked over by a guy about whom in retrospect I realized might have been high on something. I was a bit green back then and did not realize it. Now I would not put myself in such a situation. In addition to drugs I don’t even like it when a sub uses something thought of as being safe such as so called poppers... you never know what the fu@k is in those things and what the results might be.
 
When both guys are totally in control of their senses and approach things with mutual respect the results can be quite gratifying. Yes respect along with ...safe... sane... and... consensual are the keys to success.

Seconding @honcho re: drugs impairing one's ability to judge when damage occurs.
 
Some don't carry out scenes if any party involved has a drop of alcohol in them.
 
 
General guidelines for kink/BDSM play:
Keep everything
- Safe
- Sane
- Consensual
 
Incorporating drug use into a scene ticks none of those boxes.
 
That being said, many of those who seek a rougher playstyle / have more "intense" fetishes also often use drugs as a way to either distract from pain or to tap into the darker/intense headspace.
 
 
I find it preferable when people are able to tap into those spaces without the use of drugs, not to mention the safety/health/legal aspects.