hypothetically

Lol..how did we get HERE, months later?

Lies. It goes a little something like this... Escorts play with other escorts off the clock, frequently. Other escorts seldom contact me with the intent to pay. And vice versa. Kind of common courtesy, although I tend to avoid playing with other escorts as it’s treacherous territory and can be a bit of a mindfuck. Money only comes into play if one is not attracted to the other or the initiator is uncertain of the prospect’s interest. The prospect has the option to accept or decline the offer whether he’s into it or not. My rule of thumb is: if another escort contacts me during “business hours,” he will be paying my hourly, otherwise it’ll have to wait. Business before pleasure, always. If it came down to it would I hire another escort for his time? Absolutely. Why? Because I know there will a time when I’m in a foreign place and horny and I certainly don’t have the patience to swipe through countless profiles on the dating apps. I can find exactly what I want amongst my “colleagues” and I would not expect not to pay while someone is trying to earn during, say, peak hours. Whether he wants me to pay or not is at the discretion of the other escort. But we haven’t got there yet, so. Let me not get ahead of myself lol.

My theory is that they have some kind of software that keyword pulls and flags a conversation. (Gen, $$, how much, escort, hire, per hour, etc) because it is the only time my account or the account of someone who has contacted me has been terminated. From what I gather, Grindr doesn’t go randomly deleting accounts (and certainly not for explicit conversation). But there have been times I have been propositioned from real people and once I used any kind of what I think to be a “transaction keyword,” account gone. I have done business on apps and always moved it off the app immediately with a burner number. ...I do, however, find it interesting that text suggesting blatant and explicit drug use is allowed on these apps. But shame on the sex workers.

Sounds inexperienced. Those curious, inexperienced or cheap (unwilling to pay for an ad) will utilize the rose emoji on dating app platforms to test the waters. They usually have no idea what market prices are and take a stab in the dark with their rates to see who will bite, hence why he so exuberantly accepted your offer after quoting you a ridiculous rate. I’m not saying you couldn’t potentially have a good time but....he’s not an escort, he just needs money. The chances of it being a sting are slim to none. However, you do risk your account being swiftly banned. Move it to text.

Maybe she’s trans

Per the ToS, don’t discuss “transactions” and your account won’t be deleted. Simple. You likely propositioned someone and they reported you. Account gone. There is no way to retrieve your account, you must make a new one.

Whatever you would like to happen. Communicate your ideal scenario to the provider so he has a general feel of where you’d like the evening to go, but let everything happen organically. Relax and have fun.

From an escort’s perspective. The less I know about a client, the better, whether it be good or bad. Your successes or shortcomings serve no relevance to our time together. I remember when I was just starting, I was fearful of meeting the Park Ave’s and the super successful for fear of them being pretentious and disrespectful. Very nice text exchanges didn’t alwyas pan out in person and there were a lot of uncomfortable power play moments. You requested he be your date for the wedding. Sounds simple on your end, but could potentially be a little stressful on his. He’s your date, you’re clearly well established from what I gathered from your post. It doesn’t just require the escort to be your date but to be social, entertain questions and be pleasant in front of a plethora of others. You’re essentially hiring him and putting him on stage. It’s easier to just have sex, truthfully. But again, this is just speculation. I wouldn’t get sad, it’s seldom personal. Sometimes it just doesn’t feel right or we don’t feel comfortable. I always kindly communicate when I feel like this as I think transparency is important. Not so easy for others to elaborate, remember that.

Most escorts do not understand nor know how to properly execute this sentiment. There’s so much that goes into having success and longevity in the business, and resting on beautiful isn’t one of those things. It actually requires a lot of strategy and intellect.

Yes, that are going after you, not us. This isn’t targeted towards you, but gentle reminder when throwing statistics, or articles, or hearsay around in a thread about what goes on in our world....we actually live in the thick of that world, and know better than anyone what is actually going on.

Which the article specified were mostly arrests targeted towards sex workers of color, transgender sex workers, and immigrant sex workers. There number of male escorts in New York is gargantuan, but the community is small. If there was an arrest/arrests, we’d all know. The news and mass paranoia would spread like wildfire.

Meh, New York just wants a way to tax the fuck out of us. No one is actively nor aggressively seeking out or locking up sex workers in NYC. We’re fine.

Madonna and Grace Jones are headlining Pride Island but the ticket prices have spiked to a whopping $650 on third party websites. Most of the major events are sold out as it’s World Pride in NYC this year..but if you visit the official website there are a plethora of more low key events in the program such as exhibitions, workshops, and more intimate events in contrast to everything else which is on a grand scale.

To each their own.

LOL. This is genius.

Don’t do it. -an escort We’ve discussed this on the forum quite a few times. It’s not a casting, nor a date, nor a screening process. I personally think it’s encouraging a rotten behavior and you should never feel obligated to provide your photo.

I am. I do not doubt there are straight (ish) men on RentMen, but you’ll be surprised at the number of gay men who don’t even know what RentMen is. With that being said, do you really think straight men, as oblivious as they are, found RentMen on their own and formulated language to appeal specifically to gay men. Please. Being the “trade” sells. I do not think the authenticity of the caricature is important. Is it the visual you want? Are you turned on? Does it get you off? You’re hiring to get off, not to examine someone’s psychology about why they present themselves a certain way to you and to others. If you enjoy it, they’re doing a phenomenal job of what they’re suppose to be doing, selling you a fantasy. If you do not enjoy it, it’s not for you, or their acting is trash.

“Premium.”

On the clients who continue to feed into these caricatures. If you recognize the discrepancy then you are not the demographic the marketing being used by said escorts is geared towards. Simple. Ads also read “luxury,” “XXL,” “exclusive,” and “5-star experience.” Its often the contrary.

While I know it is human nature. Gentle reminder that as intimate as a session may be, and as sincere as both parties may appear, it is not a date and you should remove your feelings. Enjoy it for what it is, but check your feelings at the door.

In New York (especially during the warmer seasons) I find Monday & Wednesday to be the busiest. The city is a ghost town on weekends as people are eager to get to Fire Island, The Hamptons, P-town, anywhere but Manhattan. There are tourists but that lacks consistency. Similar situation in Paris where I am now based. I find I am incredibly busy during the week around the end of the work day. Weekends are quiet with the exception of tourists.

Why would an escort (who I would assume you were paying good money to per your “24/7, weeks at a time” comment) say anything to jeopardize such a monetary arrangement? Of course he “prefers older clients.” No escort in his right mind would open his mouth and say “I prefer younger clients” to an older client unless he wanted to be shown the door.

Not true. -an escort.

You sound like a real peach.