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I have noticed a growing number of escorts do not cum in sessions. Many have told me if they cum they cannot work for the rest of the day, and aren’t able to perform or get hard for other clients. 

Oh ok, I thought it was the other way around - impossible to avoid them, lol. 
1) There is Internet nowadays, it's just a little harder to access than in other countries. I borrowed a national simcard from a Cuban friend (because it's complicated for a foreigner to get one). You can also go to the WiFi hotspots, there's usually one even in smaller cities, it's often a public square. So Grindr worked fine, although less busy, as everyone is kind of struggling with access. You want to switch to WhatsApp asap because it saves data. On Gayromeo, the German gaysite/app, you will find adds from Cuban escorts (but those adds are blocked in the app, you need to visit the site). 
2) There are several gayclubs in Havanna, most of them with drag shows and the oldest and most well known one is run by the state. Its called Las Vegas, every attractive guy in there will ask for money for sex, and every taxi driver will know the place and what it 's about. One driver said "why do you want to go there? I have a big dick, I can show you a good time", quoting that to give an impression of just how everyday gay for pay is in Cuba. You can basically ask your driver (if you speak Spanish, of course). If he doesn't want to fuck you, maybe he has a friend who will, or knows where to take you. 
3) There's an incredible gay beach about 45 minutes by bus from central Havanna, you just Google it, the info is everywhere. About 75 percent of the clientele is hookers and their clients. Many older, more well to do, Cubans have young "boyfriends" that they pay. So it's a very established practice. Rent boys will cruise clients there, either by smiling and chatting them up openly, or by waiting discreetly in the bushes on either side of the actual gay beach. They will agree to sex in the open for something like 10 USD, but you will have to be an exhibitionist, because there are others passing by. 
4) The main problem in Cuba is not finding a hot guy for sex. The problem is that most of them will not tell you that they are only after money until after you've had sex, or at least arrived at your house. They will then pretend that that was the agreement all the time and they may even threaten with the police. There's a risk you will find yourself in an extortion like or at least very "drama" situation, so it's not for the faint hearted. Anyways, for a person staying in one of the international hotels, not sure if any of this is possible. I don't think they allow visitors. Cubans will very rarely have a place to meet, most people share houses, so if your hotel does not allow visitors... 
I had some really weird and uncomfortable experiences with guys, so I kind of gave it up and focused on my Cuban friends and sightseeing. For example a straight young military guy who came home with me from the gay beach, refused to leave unless I gave him at least a t-shirt and money for his bus ride. We never had sex, and I never asked him for any services. A closeted gay medical doctor and owner of a luxury airbnb first used his key to enter and try to have sex with me (he was very sexy, but it was uncomfortable) and then tried to squeeze money from me as well, for no apparent reason. All the guys I had sex with (maybe 3 in total) tried to squeeze money out of me, but that was never agreed and they were not like obviously out of my league. So very unpleasant environment for someone who doesn't intend to pay for sex. And I'm comparing with places like West Africa, Turkey and Brazil, you know, not with Europe. 
But to be honest, I'm older now and ready to pay, and I can't stop thinking about the Cuban guys, some of them were incredibly sexy. And it seemed to me that you could have a gorgeous guys company for less than a 100 usd per DAY (as in 24 hours). So very cheap. Some guys seemed to be happy if you just paid their drinks and meals and gave them some pocket money. I know this from talking to guys in the clubs. 
PS Obviously none of the above would be possible if you do not speak Spanish reasonably well, are not confident enough to venture into bushes, backstreets, seedy clubs and totally unsafe rides (cars with no seat belts and who knows if the breaks are even working, shared taxis, etc). If they identify you as the typical American tourist, they will think you are both stupid and a billionaire, so there will be no end to the scams they will try to pull. I'm saying that because that's who they thought I was, and you really had to give them attitude to get rid of them. It was verging on unbearable a great part of the time, so in the end I just gave up and stayed in. I recommend the beach, but not the clubs. The guys are super hot, though. 

I don’t like the whole idea that there are reasons people are gay or become gay. It goes against the born this way philosophy in my opinion. If people think there are reasons for being or becoming gay, people might think there are ways to not become gay or ways to become straight. Which makes it seem like being gay is a lifestyle choice, which we all know it isn’t.

I have noticed a growing number of escorts do not cum in sessions. Many have told me if they cum they cannot work for the rest of the day, and aren’t able to perform or get hard for other clients. 

Porn star? Griffin Barrows and it's not even close. Maybe Colby Keller if Griffin is unavailable.
Regular celebrity? I cannot for the life of me choose between Miguel Angel Silvestre from Sense8


and Rafael L Silva from 911 Lone Star.


Both are so much hotter than any human being has any right to be. Can I just pay $2k for both?

I don’t believe there is any correlation. I’ve known too many gay men that are oldest, only children, have sisters, are twins, etc. 

I'd say once a month is a regular client. Even once every other month would be too in my mind.

She could be right. Often, having promiscuous sex is a way to prevent having an intimate personal relationship. Kissing can enhance the illusion of intimacy with someone you know will not be around in the morning (or in 20 minutes). And frequency of the sex act isn’t what determines sex addiction; acting out takes many forms, including porn, masturbation, failing at relationships, app cruising, street cruising, daydreaming, etc. Hope she helps you out.

Funny thing is, for me kissing is the most important part of sex.  I’d define myself as homosexual/aromantic in that I don’t see myself getting married or spending the rest of my life with anyone.  I don’t look at a hot guy and have the desire to do anything with him other than make out and have sex… I have friends and family to spend time with and generally prefer being alone anyway.  But I also definitely don’t have a sex addiction, considering how infrequently I have sex 🤷‍♂️ 

Me neither. I’ve never felt what it’s like to truly be in love with someone intimately. I’ve had many sexual encounters, but never any romantic relationships. For a while I thought I was aromantic, (not to be confused with asexual). Just because I’m strictly into the physical act of having sex, and not the hand holding, cuddling, even kissing, and other acts of intimacy. I see a therapist to help work out these things. She doesn’t think I’m aromantic, but she thinks I have a sex addiction.

Agreed- I always hated the word “queer” in this context. I also don’t particularly care for the word “gay” even though I have used it to describe myself in the past.  The most accurate term for me is homosexual since it clearly defines that I am (solely) sexually attracted to other men, but doesn’t necessarily have an impact on any other aspect of my life.

Yes!  And $ is $.

Sexual orientation makes absolutely no difference to me.  I've had great and poor paid sexual experiences with all three orientations.  I do not sort or screen my providers by their orientation.
But like @APPLE1 says, we prefer honesty.  If you're lying and say "straight" or "bisexual" when you're really gay, just to try to drum up business, your clients will figure it out and not return.  You don't need a good memory or need to be a good actor if you don't lie.

Quite right. And the whole “absent father/clingy mother” thing is so 1952. The only thing that nurturing has to do with sexual identity (which isn’t binary but exists along a spectrum) is the degree to which one grows to accept, fear, reject, enjoy, deny or embrace it. 

I don’t like the whole idea that there are reasons people are gay or become gay. It goes against the born this way philosophy in my opinion. If people think there are reasons for being or becoming gay, people might think there are ways to not become gay or ways to become straight. Which makes it seem like being gay is a lifestyle choice, which we all know it isn’t.

I always find the studies exploring "why" people are gay interesting to read, but then I am also left with a bit of internal conflict about wether we should really persevere to know the answer(s) to why.
I'm sure if we could scientifically prove that sucking a lollipop on the 37th day after conception made a fetus gay, there would be people who would persevere to eliminate lollipops from the plant.

A lot of people speculate this. But ironically my mother was very distant growing up, at least to me. My father was the more nurturing parent. 

I don’t like the whole idea that there are reasons people are gay or become gay. It goes against the born this way philosophy in my opinion. If people think there are reasons for being or becoming gay, people might think there are ways to not become gay or ways to become straight. Which makes it seem like being gay is a lifestyle choice, which we all know it isn’t.

Or an affliction to be cured. No matter the “cause” it’s part of the natural order.

Agreed!
Besides some folks won't even admit to being gay.... how can gay men be counted?

A lot of people speculate this. But ironically my mother was very distant growing up, at least to me. My father was the more nurturing parent. 

I don’t believe there is any correlation. I’ve known too many gay men that are oldest, only children, have sisters, are twins, etc. 

My father, too, was very present and very nuturing.  My mother was very controlling and narcissistic.  For years I didn't think I was gay solely because I was attracted men; but, rather, I thought it was because I was repelled by the idea of being with a woman such as my mother.  Yuck! 🤢

A lot of people speculate this. But ironically my mother was very distant growing up, at least to me. My father was the more nurturing parent. 

I don’t believe there is any correlation. I’ve known too many gay men that are oldest, only children, have sisters, are twins, etc.