Ok, so I'm not really a grindr user, probably only for less than a year now. I just started using it since when I moved here in the US. Finding hook ups is hard especially to an asian guy like me. And I'm the type of person who doesn't send face pic for two reasons: first, I'm paranoid about everything concerning privacy. Even if it's like an expiring photo or something. And second, I have a lot of body insecurities, from head to toe.
So, finding somebody who would agree to meet up anonymously is like very rare. And I chatted with this one guy who seems to have a decent description in his profile and he's black. I've never had a BBC before so like my excitement is through the roof. My first rookie mistake that day was agreeing to meet up in his place and not mine. My thoughts are like, what if he's a scammer or thief that can rob me? Somethin like that. So he told me his address, and when I got there, it seems like your typical grandparent's house. When I saw him, he looks decent and like your typical bear body type. So when he saw me, he didn't say anything at all, he just signaled me to keep quiet and go straight upstairs. That means he lives in his parent's house.... And ok I entered the door, which btw is unhinged from the wall, and I saw this horrific dumpster like garbage everywhere. It seems like a college dorm room x10000 omg... He said sorry for all the mess and I was pretending to be ok. But it's like a huge turn off for me. Luckily when he undressed, that's when I saw his huge snake, like porn like dick. I'm afraid that I couldn't DT it. I'm a side btw. And it's directly posted in my profile that at most, I do everything except anal, receiving and especially giving. I discussed it with him prior, but still, black guy like him with that kind of dong, must have high hopes at the back of my mind. When I first sucked his dck, it had an unpleasant taste to it, but I kept thinking that I dreamed about trying a black dck before so I should just suck it up, literally. He said I should undress too so he could suck my dck, but I said it's really asian size, and I wasn't getting hard because of all the mess.. So when he saw it, he kinda got disappointed. My personality is, I'm a people pleaser, so when I saw his face, I just suddenly offered to do more kinky stuff like rimming him... So he turned around and he had a really huge ass, like you could really get suffocated. And yes, I tasted sh*t, and almost gagged.... Oh god, I said to him, can you maybe wash your down there for a bit.... So he went to the bathroom and when he got back and I continued rimming him, it still tastes like sht mixed with like an old spice cologne or something. Then I asked him, did you put something in there? And he said he used an old spice type of body wash..... Oh god, I just said to him, maybe you could turn around so I could continue sucking his dick.... Luckily, I think my mouth already got rid of all the musty odor and weird taste from his dck, so like back to a regular tasting dck. Yeah, then he probably got turned on by that so he started forcing me verbally to be anally fckd. It was like a good 15 mins before he gave up... I mean, even if I agree, hypothetically, to get drilled that day, a lot of messy stuff had already been done that was kinda of a turn off for me. So I went back to sucking his dck and him watching a porn in his phone, when all of a sudden, his phone rang, I think it was like the bank calling him and literally the girl on the other line said he had to pay like a negative balance or something from his credit card, which he declared missing. After the call ended, he started kissing me and asked if he could borrow some money for me... At this point I thought, I might get beaten up if I wouldn't give him any money. But I said, I just paid my bills and had sent money to my parents etc... He was asking as well if he could live in my place temporarily, which I said is impossible because I have a roommate... So he went back to concentrating on his porn and me getting him off. After that, he insisted to cuddle and started asking me again about borrowing some money, which at this point, I just made up some stories just so he could get the hint that I am not gonna lend him anything. When I went home, we just texted our good byes with each other and all that thank you stuff but like 3 days later, he texted if he could meet up again. Btch I blockd him.. I can't. We both got disappointed.
One of my regular hires in Puerto Vallarta is bisexual. I asked him if he had sex with men or women more, and which one he prefers.. He said he really really prefers ass over pussy, but female ass over male ass. But very few females will let him fuck them in the ass. So, he has sex with men to get ass, and therefore about 90/10 men/women ratio of sexual partners.
I must admit that I don't particularly care or pay much attention if a provider describes themselves as Bi or gay. However, if they label themselves as straight, then I'm not interested. I can't recall having had a genuinely good encounter with someone who identified as straight.
Agreed. I'm Bi and I enjoy nearly everything in a session with a guy who is relaxed and wants to have fun. Good vibes and friendliness really help to make a session fun.
I think it’s strange that some commentators view bi as being ‘not really into guys’ or somehow ‘gay lite’. I’m bi and I love playing with guys, including kissing and all sorts of activities (I’m vers) that some seem to think of as gay only. I also love playing with females, indeed even better is playing with both at same time. I don’t regard one as better or more fun than the other, they’re just different. If the person or persons I’m with are relaxed about sex and open minded then it’s always a great session.
I agree that if you come across a guy who describes himself as bi but who lists fairly vanilla activities with guys that he won’t do then that’s probably a signal that he is probably more straight but there’s also gay providers who won’t kiss for example, so orientation is not a good predictor I think.
I think it’s best to not put too much interpretation on how a guy describes himself and look more at what he will do and other signs about whether he’s doing the work because he genuinely enjoys it or is he doing it because he has to. The former should be the providers you prioritise, regardless of their stated sexual orientation.
My experience has been that for actual fun, bi guys are the best of the three. They often have a gf/wife so time with guys is strictly playtime and/or they are better able to view it as a job and fake it relatively convincingly . Totally straight guys(more specifically the Kinsey Scale 0.5s and less who "round down") tend to be cold fish unless they happen to have a fetish for my body type).
But I think phone sex is something that is likely to be extremely hit or miss. A lot of people are more self consciious about verbalizing than doing.
