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It’d also be nice to know if extras were discussed ahead of time or not. And whether there was an upcharge or part of the pricing already. 

It’d also be nice to know if extras were discussed ahead of time or not. And whether there was an upcharge or part of the pricing already. 

It’s a great massage though if you’re sore from a workout. He has a great understanding of the muscles. It’s too bad it’s therapeutic only.

Just to clarify, I was not thinking of hiring an escort to talk through my breakup. I have a therapist and friends for that. I would be hiring for a sexual reason, but more in the hopes that it would be somehow emotionally healing for me vs simply fulfilling a carnal desire. 

Why stop there? Just send this link to any and all who asks what you’re looking for in a session! Lol 

Just to clarify, I was not thinking of hiring an escort to talk through my breakup. I have a therapist and friends for that. I would be hiring for a sexual reason, but more in the hopes that it would be somehow emotionally healing for me vs simply fulfilling a carnal desire. 

I tend to think it would not be emotionally fulfilling in the long run, though it might well be in the moment. But I'd say if you put too much expectation in it, you could be setting yourself up for more depression afterwards. If you can simply enjoy the moment for what it is, that's great, though. 

Give yourself some more time @xax As others have posted, we’ve all gone through this.
 
My suggestion is to treat yourself to something you enjoy doing - it doesn’t matter whether it’s lunch and a movie with a friend, a serious massage or working out with a personal trainer.
And when you’re feeling more frisky, set up an appointment for a great date with a good guy. 

Thank you all for your thoughtful advice and kind words to help me see my situation in a different light. It’s nice to feel understood and not judged.
I think given what people have said, I am going to wait until there’s a little more emotional distance from the breakup before hiring, and instead use it as a “gravity assist” to propel myself to better days when I’m done being sad and depressed about it.

Thank you all for your thoughtful advice and kind words to help me see my situation in a different light. It’s nice to feel understood and not judged.
I think given what people have said, I am going to wait until there’s a little more emotional distance from the breakup before hiring, and instead use it as a “gravity assist” to propel myself to better days when I’m done being sad and depressed about it.

@xax, the original poster - may I just say that no matter what you decide to do, know that you have all of us out here that feel terrible that you're going through a bad time. We've all been through bad breakups (I will assume) and we all know that feeling you describe. We can give you advice on whether to see an escort or not, but I think more importantly we can tell you that we have your back, and that we wish you the best. 

For me this has been a bad idea.  I need to heal first before trying to have fun with anyone.

Go ahead and do it. It’ll be very satisfying. I hired while going through a break up. I even cried a little while in the act. It was great. I felt awesome. I eventually felt “hell yeah. Life is good and fcuk him (my soon to be ex)!”  

Yes don't ever hire just if you're lonely or depressed. You'll feel great when you are having your session but will feel just as bad after if not worse. 

I've met very few escorts who wouldn't at least listen to me talk about my "regular" sex life. Only a few of them counseled me back, though.
One minor warning - don't get dependent on hired companionship, even if you keep it as a hobby. And try not to hire when you're depressed.

I'm sorry to hear you are going through this pain. 
There are definitely escorts who can help you find the validation you want and need. When you are at a place where you can hire, find a few escorts and ask about them here in The Deli.
So far, so good.
OK, we need to stop right here. You do not know what other people when they pay you a compliment. What you intend to say is "the other part of me that completely overthinks everything thinks..." 
We tend to use these words interchangeably, but they don't mean the same thing. (You aren't the only one )
There are escorts who truly enjoy being with their clients. The trick is finding one of those escorts. As I said above, when you are ready to hire, pick out a handful of ads and ask for feedback here on the Forum. 
 
Yes, I do have some advice. First and foremost, learn to take compliments and feedback at face value. It takes practice, but it will make life much more enjoyable. Second, remember that this is all about you. Third, be upfront with yourself about what you want when you hire. Do you want a F-buddy experience, a romantic evening, a dominant guy, etc. Once you know what you want, you can ask an escort for what you want. The notion that this is all about you is worth repeating. 
Regarding whether or not to provide the full context to someone you want to hire, you might want to mention the situation (I'm hiring to help me get through a breakup) and leave it at that. As @nycman said, unpacking your breakup is for friends or a therapist, not an escort. The escort is there to make you feel good. 

This is sage advice.  
Let me add that there are some escorts out there who have no problem dealing with letting you talk through the breakup.  It's human nature to want to share your pain in an attempt to minimize/normalize it.  Just be open and honest, if you're comfortable.
NYC's last line was the ultimate takeaway:
An escort can put you on the road to recovery, but you still have to drive the bus. 
 

I’ve used escorts to get over the pain of a breakup in the past and I think 
it’s helpful as long as you go into it with your eyes wide open. This hobby
is not a substitute for love. Never has been. Never will be. At best, it’s a 
a nice distraction for an hour or two. 
I wouldn’t suggest bringing all your breakup baggage to your appointment 
with the escort. You’re going there to escape that, not unpack it. If you need 
to unpack it, you should talk to friends or see a therapist.
An escort can put you on the road to recovery, but you still have to drive the bus. 

Why stop there? Just send this link to any and all who asks what you’re looking for in a session! Lol 

Any updates or recent experiences? I read his blog on rentmasseur and looks like he’s married, but lists erotic…so interested in what the extras are like. Please PM if you have details!

Here’s part 2: https://www.gayforit.eu/video/854678/Cade--Quin-Part-2