FTM Zachary Prince

I’m kind of confused based on the OP. It sounds like the decision to end the session early was mutual, and you expected him to leave some of the money on the table since previous escorts did. Then in the next post, OP says that he was disappointed not to have gotten more cuddle time even tho he didn’t send any kind of signal or communicate that he wanted the escort to stay longer. So which is it? Was the decision to end the session early mutual? Did the OP send subconscious signals that the session was over? Such as saying, “well that was fun!” Putting on clothes. Etc. We all know the feeling when a hookup feels done with our presence, whether paid or unpaid. So, OP, did you give him the impression that the session was over after an hour, even if not explicitly stated one way or the other? And did you do this because you expected to not have to pay for the 2nd hour if he left early, as per your previous experiences, as stated in your OP? Did you decide that you were disappointed not to receive extra cuddle time only after you realized that he took the entire fee? Or were you disappointed that he was leaving early regardless of the issue with the fee?
 
Because it sounds to me like a case of miscommunication and mixed signals. I suspect that the OP may have communicated with body language and energetically that the session was over for him, even if not explicitly stated. I suspect this because of the difference between the OP and the follow up post. Is the issue that you were happy to end the session early but expected a partial refund of your fee? Or is the issue that the escort left when you did not feel that the session was finished?
 
Frankly, if you schedule two hours, you should always expect to pay for two hours. If any escorts have refunded part of your fee when they left after an hour, that was generosity on their part. Perhaps they were hoping to make a regular out of you. If you book two hours, you pay for two hours. Even if you finish after an hour. The escort set aside two hours for you on his schedule. You are compensating him for his time. Just because you decide that the session is finished after an hour doesn’t mean that you are entitled to a partial refund. The escort is entitled to keep the money because he reserved two hours of his time for you. He was unable to schedule any other commitments during the 2nd hour because it was reserved for YOU. Therefore you need to pay for it, regardless of whether you let him go early or not.
 
If the escort automatically left after OP came, without any signalling from OP that the session was indeed over, then I agree that the escort is totally in the wrong for leaving early when he was booked for two hours. But I suspect that this is not a cut and dry case.
 
OP clearly expected that he should receive a partial refund for his two hour booking in cases where he finished after an hour. He may have sent some subtle signals that the session was over after an hour, prompting the escort to feel that his presence was not wanted for the 2nd hour. If the client books two hours but finishes after an hour, the escort is still entitled to the two hour fee. He’s not in the wrong for that.
 
If the escort in question truly left the session unprompted, then he is in the wrong for leaving. You should definitely leave him a bad review for that. But he’s not on the wrong for taking the full fee to which he’s entitled for the two hours that were booked. He’s in the wrong for leaving a two hour session after only an hour. Choose experienced escorts who know what to do with a two hour session in the future. Reading ad text, websites, and reviews can help you determine who is good with extended sessions.
 
If the issue is that OP feels that he should be able to book escorts for two hours and dismiss them after an hour without having to pay the two hour fee, based on the fact that a few other escorts have been generous enough to give him a partial refund, then this is a case of incorrect expectations on the part of the OP. If you reserve two hours of an escort’s time- you pay for two hours. Even if you are finished early. That is not the escort’s fault or problem if they take the entire amount of compensation for the time you have reserved. And does not warrant a bad review.
 
None of us were in the room, so we cannot say what kind of subtle signalling was involved between the escort and the client here. Only the client can really say if he sent signals that the session was over due to his erroneous expectation of a partial refund... or not. But it’s worth considering when deciding whether to write a bad review or not.

One standard by which you can identify a bad hire.... someone who states "you're paying for my time," but behaves as if session duration is tied to climax.

1) We don’t know if the referred escort would take on the client. That is for the escort to decide. A recommendation is just that... a recommendation! That said, I have friends who I refer to regularly who appreciate the business and take my reference seriously. Because I do not put up with BS. I’m no one’s pimp and I don’t have a single client who would confuse a referral with a guarantee that the escort in question would meet him. So I’m not seeing how this is a reason not to give referrals at all. When you have good working relationships with other escorts, you know if they want more work or not, and they also tend to prioritize accepting the clients you refer to them.
 
2) My friends’ rates often differ from mine. My clients generally know better than to haggle. If they are hagglers, how did they end up as my clients in the first place? They didn’t. My clients know better than to try to haggle one of my friends’ rates. If they did any such thing then my escort friends surely wouldn’t blame me, as they know I’m not my client’s keeper. It’s simply a business referral that didn’t work out in that case. And that client would never get a referral from me again. But I’ve referred clients to other escorts hundreds of times over the last 8 years, and I can’t think of a single time this has happened.
 
3) My escort friends aren’t racist.
 
You can choose not to cross-network with other people and give/accept referrals, but you’re only damaging your business and limiting your income. You can justify it all kinds of ways and feel like you don’t owe any other escort referrals and they wouldn’t give you any referrals either, but that kind of attitude severely limits your income potential. Taking the time to develop relationships with other escorts and trading referrals is very profitable. Clients like it, and it’s good for business.
 
That said, if you don’t have a referral to give, simply say you don’t know anyone! No harm, no foul.

I agree. Being possessive about clients is a newbie mistake in this industry. There's plenty of business to go around. Abundance mentality & networking with other talented escorts goes a LONG way!

Yes, most escorts (whose service is worthwhile) have regulars. I guess those who are rip-offs probably don’t.
 
I can’t understand the 2nd half of your post. “Is it a matter of hiring time and time again or should expectations be talked through?” What does this mean??
 
If it means what I think it means, you cannot just “declare” yourself to be a regular and then negotiate the special treatment that you would like to receive as a result. Tons of guys tell us on their very first contact that they plan to become a regular, haggle for discounts or boundary-pushing services, dangle their “regularness” over the escort like a carrot on a string to get him to spend more than the amount of time the client’s actually paid for, and then never book the escort again. Experienced escorts have seen this happen enough times to know that regular status is “earned”, not “declared”.
 
What’s regular to one escort may not be regular at all to another. I have a low volume business model, and I travel a LOT, so my loyal regulars see me once every few months, and have done so for many years. I know many other escorts who don’t consider someone a “regular” unless they meet approximately once a week. Whether you qualify as a regular or not is up to the escort and highly subjective.

Gracias. Much appreciate the compliment
 
I took some time away from 15MM, but have recently redesigned the look and gotten back into writing over the last couple of months.
 
It's been fun sharing my life again in longer form than just a twitter post.
 

And boom, we're back to posts about escorts who can't get hard.

I’ve come to feel that part of my job is teaching people how to free themselves from this anxiety. Particularly since I specialise in prostate stimulation, which tends to make even men with constant raging erections go soft during the prostate stroking itself. This means I’m constantly dealing with guys who are dumbfounded that their dick is soft in the middle of a sexual encounter when they haven’t come yet, and before I learned how to help guys let go of their anxiety about their lack of hard-on, a good 20-30% of them were actually letting it ruin their sexual experience because they just couldn’t deal with their own feelings about their soft dick. At the end of the prostate experience lies the most powerful orgasm that most of my clients have ever had in their life! But so many guys couldn’t get there because they were so anxious about why they didn’t have a hard-on. Now I tell first-timers to expect to go soft before we even begin, but in a very nerdy way where I discuss how the blood flow actually re-routes into the prostate, which is the “control center” for orgasms. My eyes light up as I explain, and I add with a naughty wink that just because your dick is soft doesn’t mean it won’t feel good to have it in my mouth while I’m stroking their prostate... then I keep an eye out for anxiety once I notice their dick has gone soft and reassure them again that it’s totally normal and they can still have a CRAZY orgasm. Or if they were never hard to begin with, but have also never experienced a prostate orgasm before, I reaffirm that they’re about to experience the most awesome way to orgasm where an erection doesn’t even matter. I suspect that a lot of highly-experienced escorts have strategies to help clients address this type of anxiety. I personally want every single client who meets me to have a unique, intensely-pleasurable experience that they will NEVER forget. And I strive for a high percentage of my clients to feel that it was the hottest encounter or the craziest orgasm they’ve ever had. Even if there is never an erection involved! I personally don’t have a hard dick to work with either! And I’m a top! I’ve found a LOT of ways to share mutual pleasure without a hard dick. I hope no one is ever afraid to book me because they’re worried they won’t get an erection and won’t enjoy themselves as a result. Sexuality and sexual experiences are so varied. There are tons of ways we can enjoy ourselves, with or without a hard cock in the room.

I’ve come to feel that part of my job is teaching people how to free themselves from this anxiety. Particularly since I specialise in prostate stimulation, which tends to make even men with constant raging erections go soft during the prostate stroking itself. This means I’m constantly dealing with guys who are dumbfounded that their dick is soft in the middle of a sexual encounter when they haven’t come yet, and before I learned how to help guys let go of their anxiety about their lack of hard-on, a good 20-30% of them were actually letting it ruin their sexual experience because they just couldn’t deal with their own feelings about their soft dick. At the end of the prostate experience lies the most powerful orgasm that most of my clients have ever had in their life! But so many guys couldn’t get there because they were so anxious about why they didn’t have a hard-on. Now I tell first-timers to expect to go soft before we even begin, but in a very nerdy way where I discuss how the blood flow actually re-routes into the prostate, which is the “control center” for orgasms. My eyes light up as I explain, and I add with a naughty wink that just because your dick is soft doesn’t mean it won’t feel good to have it in my mouth while I’m stroking their prostate... then I keep an eye out for anxiety once I notice their dick has gone soft and reassure them again that it’s totally normal and they can still have a CRAZY orgasm. Or if they were never hard to begin with, but have also never experienced a prostate orgasm before, I reaffirm that they’re about to experience the most awesome way to orgasm where an erection doesn’t even matter. I suspect that a lot of highly-experienced escorts have strategies to help clients address this type of anxiety. I personally want every single client who meets me to have a unique, intensely-pleasurable experience that they will NEVER forget. And I strive for a high percentage of my clients to feel that it was the hottest encounter or the craziest orgasm they’ve ever had. Even if there is never an erection involved! I personally don’t have a hard dick to work with either! And I’m a top! I’ve found a LOT of ways to share mutual pleasure without a hard dick. I hope no one is ever afraid to book me because they’re worried they won’t get an erection and won’t enjoy themselves as a result. Sexuality and sexual experiences are so varied. There are tons of ways we can enjoy ourselves, with or without a hard cock in the room.

Lots of things! Typically: Deep kissing, gentle neck nibbling, nipple teasing, armpit licking, cock licking, ball sucking, butt munching, asshole teasing, tongue fucking, anal teasing, prostate stroking, cock teasing & cum swallowing! Also, occasionally: toe sucking, spit play, watersports, topping w/ strap-on, anal fisting, spanking. Also lunch, dinner, sleeping, cuddling, mutual massages, porn-watching, and talking!
 
What I DON’T do when a client (or any sex partner) can’t get it up: Take it personally.

Lots of things! Typically: Deep kissing, gentle neck nibbling, nipple teasing, armpit licking, cock licking, ball sucking, butt munching, asshole teasing, tongue fucking, anal teasing, prostate stroking, cock teasing & cum swallowing! Also, occasionally: toe sucking, spit play, watersports, topping w/ strap-on, anal fisting, spanking. Also lunch, dinner, sleeping, cuddling, mutual massages, porn-watching, and talking!
 
What I DON’T do when a client (or any sex partner) can’t get it up: Take it personally.

Lots of things! Typically: Deep kissing, gentle neck nibbling, nipple teasing, armpit licking, cock licking, ball sucking, butt munching, asshole teasing, tongue fucking, anal teasing, prostate stroking, cock teasing & cum swallowing! Also, occasionally: toe sucking, spit play, watersports, topping w/ strap-on, anal fisting, spanking. Also lunch, dinner, sleeping, cuddling, mutual massages, porn-watching, and talking!
 
What I DON’T do when a client (or any sex partner) can’t get it up: Take it personally.

I’d be glad if RM goes down at this point. Their decision to allow cis male tops to show their throbbing hard-ons but block trans guys from showing ourselves with our dicks “strapped on” means that trans guys who top professionally simply can’t compete. People believe only what they see, not whatever you write about yourself in your profile. If I can’t show myself in similar poses to the ones that cis tops are using in their advertising then it comes across as pretty unbelievable in my ad that I’m a top. I’m not interested in advertising as a bottom so RM is pretty useless for me as an ad venue.
 
Oddly I’ve found that I have this same problem with almost every major ad venue- their rules make it impossible for me to advertise effectively that I’m a top, whether it’s female-oriented escort venues that won’t allow us to discuss sexual activities/preferences at all, or male-oriented ad venues that won’t allow me to show myself with my “equipment” the way cis guys are allowed to show theirs. I’ve pretty much been WITHOUT any available/effective ad venues since SESTA/FOSTA took down all the websites that were not censoring me and thus yielding me clients.
 
What am I doing? Focusing on my regulars. Getting creative about how I get my brand out there and branching out into other sectors of the adult industry until a solution presents itself. Any ad venue that actually allowed me to advertise my brand without censoring me would have my loyalty in a heartbeat. But as far as I know, there are none.

Yes, most escorts (whose service is worthwhile) have regulars. I guess those who are rip-offs probably don’t.
 
I can’t understand the 2nd half of your post. “Is it a matter of hiring time and time again or should expectations be talked through?” What does this mean??
 
If it means what I think it means, you cannot just “declare” yourself to be a regular and then negotiate the special treatment that you would like to receive as a result. Tons of guys tell us on their very first contact that they plan to become a regular, haggle for discounts or boundary-pushing services, dangle their “regularness” over the escort like a carrot on a string to get him to spend more than the amount of time the client’s actually paid for, and then never book the escort again. Experienced escorts have seen this happen enough times to know that regular status is “earned”, not “declared”.
 
What’s regular to one escort may not be regular at all to another. I have a low volume business model, and I travel a LOT, so my loyal regulars see me once every few months, and have done so for many years. I know many other escorts who don’t consider someone a “regular” unless they meet approximately once a week. Whether you qualify as a regular or not is up to the escort and highly subjective.

Lots of things! Typically: Deep kissing, gentle neck nibbling, nipple teasing, armpit licking, cock licking, ball sucking, butt munching, asshole teasing, tongue fucking, anal teasing, prostate stroking, cock teasing & cum swallowing! Also, occasionally: toe sucking, spit play, watersports, topping w/ strap-on, anal fisting, spanking. Also lunch, dinner, sleeping, cuddling, mutual massages, porn-watching, and talking!
 
What I DON’T do when a client (or any sex partner) can’t get it up: Take it personally.

I did the majority of my hiring when homosexual activity was illegal and the Internet didn't exist. Where there is a potential market, it will be developed somehow.

Thanks guys. I'm learning.

Thanks. For a weekend I'm going drop about $6500. That is the hotel, travel, fee, entertainment and meals etc. I just hope things go well for both of us.

Lots of things! Typically: Deep kissing, gentle neck nibbling, nipple teasing, armpit licking, cock licking, ball sucking, butt munching, asshole teasing, tongue fucking, anal teasing, prostate stroking, cock teasing & cum swallowing! Also, occasionally: toe sucking, spit play, watersports, topping w/ strap-on, anal fisting, spanking. Also lunch, dinner, sleeping, cuddling, mutual massages, porn-watching, and talking!
 
What I DON’T do when a client (or any sex partner) can’t get it up: Take it personally.

Lots of things! Typically: Deep kissing, gentle neck nibbling, nipple teasing, armpit licking, cock licking, ball sucking, butt munching, asshole teasing, tongue fucking, anal teasing, prostate stroking, cock teasing & cum swallowing! Also, occasionally: toe sucking, spit play, watersports, topping w/ strap-on, anal fisting, spanking. Also lunch, dinner, sleeping, cuddling, mutual massages, porn-watching, and talking!
 
What I DON’T do when a client (or any sex partner) can’t get it up: Take it personally.

Yes, most escorts (whose service is worthwhile) have regulars. I guess those who are rip-offs probably don’t.
 
I can’t understand the 2nd half of your post. “Is it a matter of hiring time and time again or should expectations be talked through?” What does this mean??
 
If it means what I think it means, you cannot just “declare” yourself to be a regular and then negotiate the special treatment that you would like to receive as a result. Tons of guys tell us on their very first contact that they plan to become a regular, haggle for discounts or boundary-pushing services, dangle their “regularness” over the escort like a carrot on a string to get him to spend more than the amount of time the client’s actually paid for, and then never book the escort again. Experienced escorts have seen this happen enough times to know that regular status is “earned”, not “declared”.
 
What’s regular to one escort may not be regular at all to another. I have a low volume business model, and I travel a LOT, so my loyal regulars see me once every few months, and have done so for many years. I know many other escorts who don’t consider someone a “regular” unless they meet approximately once a week. Whether you qualify as a regular or not is up to the escort and highly subjective.

Yes, most escorts (whose service is worthwhile) have regulars. I guess those who are rip-offs probably don’t.
 
I can’t understand the 2nd half of your post. “Is it a matter of hiring time and time again or should expectations be talked through?” What does this mean??
 
If it means what I think it means, you cannot just “declare” yourself to be a regular and then negotiate the special treatment that you would like to receive as a result. Tons of guys tell us on their very first contact that they plan to become a regular, haggle for discounts or boundary-pushing services, dangle their “regularness” over the escort like a carrot on a string to get him to spend more than the amount of time the client’s actually paid for, and then never book the escort again. Experienced escorts have seen this happen enough times to know that regular status is “earned”, not “declared”.
 
What’s regular to one escort may not be regular at all to another. I have a low volume business model, and I travel a LOT, so my loyal regulars see me once every few months, and have done so for many years. I know many other escorts who don’t consider someone a “regular” unless they meet approximately once a week. Whether you qualify as a regular or not is up to the escort and highly subjective.

Yes, most escorts (whose service is worthwhile) have regulars. I guess those who are rip-offs probably don’t.
 
I can’t understand the 2nd half of your post. “Is it a matter of hiring time and time again or should expectations be talked through?” What does this mean??
 
If it means what I think it means, you cannot just “declare” yourself to be a regular and then negotiate the special treatment that you would like to receive as a result. Tons of guys tell us on their very first contact that they plan to become a regular, haggle for discounts or boundary-pushing services, dangle their “regularness” over the escort like a carrot on a string to get him to spend more than the amount of time the client’s actually paid for, and then never book the escort again. Experienced escorts have seen this happen enough times to know that regular status is “earned”, not “declared”.
 
What’s regular to one escort may not be regular at all to another. I have a low volume business model, and I travel a LOT, so my loyal regulars see me once every few months, and have done so for many years. I know many other escorts who don’t consider someone a “regular” unless they meet approximately once a week. Whether you qualify as a regular or not is up to the escort and highly subjective.

Yes, most escorts (whose service is worthwhile) have regulars. I guess those who are rip-offs probably don’t.
 
I can’t understand the 2nd half of your post. “Is it a matter of hiring time and time again or should expectations be talked through?” What does this mean??
 
If it means what I think it means, you cannot just “declare” yourself to be a regular and then negotiate the special treatment that you would like to receive as a result. Tons of guys tell us on their very first contact that they plan to become a regular, haggle for discounts or boundary-pushing services, dangle their “regularness” over the escort like a carrot on a string to get him to spend more than the amount of time the client’s actually paid for, and then never book the escort again. Experienced escorts have seen this happen enough times to know that regular status is “earned”, not “declared”.
 
What’s regular to one escort may not be regular at all to another. I have a low volume business model, and I travel a LOT, so my loyal regulars see me once every few months, and have done so for many years. I know many other escorts who don’t consider someone a “regular” unless they meet approximately once a week. Whether you qualify as a regular or not is up to the escort and highly subjective.