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    What are your red flags?

    in Questions About Hiring

    Posted

    5 hours ago, Vin_Marco said:

    I wear a size 12 😎 the people I see that do love my feet, really love my feet. I was referring to the people that I've never met who contact me on RM, asking me, "how big are your feet?" Historically, those rarely pan out, simply PIC COLLECTORS or just folks jerking off to senseless correspondence.

    I was originally confused as to why you had thought that haha.  Now i understand your perspective.

    Maybe in an escort profile they should just list their shoe shize with other info in order to cut-down on some of the question volume? 

    A fair price Vs a guilty secret

    in Questions About Hiring

    Posted

    8 hours ago, secgoo said:

    I have a provider that I really like. He's not in the country at the moment but hopefully will be back soon. The thing is, he's really under charges. And I mean REALLY under charges.

    We started meeting for 2 hours for £200 but, after a few meetings he ended up staying for more than 2 hours, chilling on the sofa playing or snuggling in bed etc.

    I've never mentioned his profile identity on this site because I feel like I'm taking advantage of him, he's so sweet, fit, attentive, attractive, passionate, spunky and horny all at the same time there's no way he should only be charging clients this rate.

    When he comes back I feel the need to have a sit down with him and clue him up to what he should be charging.

    Has anyone else been in a similar situation? What would you do if you had a horny 24 year old who was under charging you?

    I've been in very similar type situations/dynamics and completely understand your feelings.

    To me it depended a lot on how the gent viewed the line of work proportionally to what else the person had going on in their life. Meaning was the work intended to be a long-term career goal, a mid-term solution for cash flow while they pursued something else, or a fleeting hobby as they explored their sexuality or psychology?

    In more than one case i was asked specifically to compare and contrast our experience with others (not named/identified or anything like that. Just generalities), and also my understanding/opinion of standard market rates.

    I believe that every situation is unique at any particular time and evolves and isn't fixed. I'd say to you that if you're spending that amount of time together you should get a sense as to how the other person characterizes and values your time together such that it's alwyas mutually agreeable, beneficial and satisfying.

    Steelhead in San Diego: TGTBT?

    in The Deli

    Posted

    17 hours ago, BuzzLiteQueer said:

    That's all I got  🤷‍♂️

    What else did you get @GTMike ?

    This same response - "Thank you for your interest in me. I can provide you service!! Leave me a text of what services your wanting. Please be able to host!"

    Then a detailed intemized price list of ~two dozen activities that could occur during an encounter like a Cheesecake Factory Menu. Haha

    Steelhead in San Diego: TGTBT?

    in The Deli

    Posted

    2 hours ago, BuzzLiteQueer said:

    hahaha is right.  Here's what he says:  Thank you for your interest in me. I can provide you service!! Leave me a text of what services your wanting. Please be able to host!

    Wait?  You didn't get the rest? I'm serious.

    JJKnightxxx

    in The Deli

    Posted

    1 minute ago, Luv2play said:

    That's what I thought too. He is not your typical escort.😛

    Did you meet with him? I've communicated with him in the past but ended up not meeting.

    How often are we contacting a manager instead of the direct provider?

    in Questions About Hiring

    Posted

    On 9/26/2023 at 12:56 AM, TopBunk said:

    I met with a provider and after "business," we started chatting a bit. He ended up telling me a lot, including that he works for a company that arranges everything for him-- flights, hotels, and appointments. He advised me to be very kind when messaging on rm because you can get a reputation so easily because it's one service connecting you to providers.

     

     

    Is there any truth to this?

    I don't know how to reliably estimate how prevalent that level and type of specific activity may be, but I know similar things happen very commonly in examples below regarding the communication and marketing of the online content.

    1) "wolf-packs". There is a handler/recruiter/scheduler that finds and uses random Pics to approximate the rotating 2 - 5 guys he might be handling every few months as they move from city to city.  That's where a lot of the reported "fake" scam profiles come from and inconsistency of what "straight GFP" guy shows up.

    2) International/non-english speaking as mentioned is sometimes handled on behalf of a group but in this case the pic's and person are authentic.

    3) Can't give the percentage but not an insignficant amount of initial and follow-on communication with OnlyFan/Twitter/X DM'ing etc.. is done by folks who started out by taking a cut for editiing, marketing and monitoring of the video's content supplied by the performer. And they act as initial screens and filters. Later though and obviously with video's and on one video chats you get authenticity.  But at any given time the behind the scene handlers represent a stable of different guys.

    It would make sense to me that a handler, manager, or company that's monitoring a RM profile for example could propose a city to travel to, see what responses happen and if/when enough "reliable" interest is generated, then book a hotel and manage other logistics.  Seems like any other business where's there a lot of supply and demand factors at work and inherently people see business opportunities to increase efficiencies in that marketplace. 

    Once-in-a-lifetime hookups?

    in The Lounge

    Posted · Edited by GTMike
    Grammar correction

    14 hours ago, maninsoma said:

    I'm way more confused by your reactions in this story.  From your account, this mega hottie keeps giving you evidence that he's into you but instead you doubt him at first, then give him money as he's leaving even though he says he isn't expecting it, and then let two weeks go by before he leaves town without texting him even though he said "that was great, I had a blast, text me sometime."  I understand the initial skepticism on your part, but I 100% don't understand why you wouldn't have gotten together with him over the next two weeks.  Or did you reach out to him to ask to get together again and that didn't happen, but you just didn't include that detail in your story?

    Fair questions. I'll try and provide more context.

    1) In the interests of respecting respective privacy and length of the original post, I know plenty of contextual details were left out but tried to convey the story as best as I could.

    2) For the first ~3 hours it was never clear what their current personal relationship status was other than that they had grown up together (as early as elementary school age) and that they had been hangin out all day at a beach and impromptu on a whim decided to "go out in LA" ( ~ hour drive) and she had driven them.

    3) He had privately relayed that his only prior encounter with a dude was an unexpected drunken night after a long week of Football practice with a High School teammate when he was 17.

    4) His solution to my skepticism regarding the logistics of hooking up privately, without her knowing, was simply that if she wasn't sober to drive home, that she would have no problem sleeping on my couch/extra bedroom and they'd uber back to car in morning. (Mind you we've only met for a few hours at this point and he has no idea how my place is and whether that could make sense from a privacy perspective and never probed that). 

    5) I reconfirmed that she wasn't supposed to know that anything was happening and he maintained it simply wasn't really in her nature to ask any questions. (Huh??)  So for several hours my perspective was without his knowledge of my place, it was a ridiculous proposition and solution, and that besides conveying early interest and attraction, the overall situation was illogical. (Hence my comment that i came to the conclusion that it was a hustle to flirt and just get dinner, multiple drinks/party all night, then collectively ditch)

    6) Regarding "texting" afterwards. He uses "text" and "snap" interchangeably. We Snap which has advantages/disadvantages versus texting in some cases. In this case based on our friend status with the App we can see status of messages "sent, delivered, opened/read, and conversely received". I did reach out to chat/meet up etc again.. and can verify those messages were delivered, but have never been opened. And yes i have confirmed that we are still "active friends" in good standing but there hasn't been any further direct communication.

    7) Regarding knowing when he went back to School, he told me where he attends and had been open providing social media, which as friends, publicly and easily verify's everything he's said regarding school, athletics, fraternity life etc..

    And fyi before he came over, I learned she felt she got too inebriated and ubered to a friends place who lived closer and was gonna get car in morning.

    Private providers

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    Posted

    22 hours ago, Simon Suraci said:

    ^This is a lot of the reason providers do not show face pics, particularly those who travel frequently and/or are more well known porn actors and models. Not just for general privacy concerns, but also to avoid customs and border control enforcement. I'm posting a link below to CBP protocol for searches of electronic devices. The latest one I'm aware of is 2018. If there is a newer one, please post it.

    If you are American and post face pics on your ads and want to work in another country - or even take a vacation abroad - you are WAY more likely to be stopped and questioned upon your return, phone and other devices searched, and you will be interrogated and detained for many hours. Vast, constantly updated facial recognition databases gives them reason to stop you. If they find anything incriminating on your devices, they report you to state and local law enforcement.

    If you are not an American citizen, US customs will put a big scarlet letter on your record and deport you, banning entry for a decade or more.

    It wasn't a big deal 5-10 years ago when detainee search numbers were very low, but now it's more common with facial recognition automating the process. Every year the detainee numbers continue to rise in the name of "national security", when their premise for doing this is purely moral. Enforcing laws to do with sex work is outside the jurisdiction of Customs and Border Protection; however they can say ANYTHING is for "national security" and don't even need a warrant to detain you, search your devices, and interrogate you. A blip on facial recognition software for that one pic on that one ad a provider posted two years ago but then deleted a week later is enough for them to go on.

    There are workarounds, but it's extremely inconvenient, not to mention costly to be detained upon re-entry to the US.

    If you're an American citizen, the authorities have to let you back in, but only after they detain, search you and interrogate you. You are not obligated to answer any questions but they can and will coerce you and bully you as best they can, make you as uncomfortable as possible, plus confiscate and search your devices. Heaven help you if you have low blood sugar issues or anything else that could jeopardize your health while under interrogation.

    Anything on your devices is fair game. Anything on a cloud service or requiring internet to access from that device is technically out of bounds unless they find incriminating stuff actually on the device first. They have to return your devices, but not for many days or even weeks later, and they COPY your device digitally and maintain records of it for years unless you have nothing on it to incriminate you. If you're lucky, they don't find anything and give the device back when they release you.

    If you're a SW not in the know, you almost certainly have at least one incriminating item on your phone. A text, an ad link, a transaction, anything. Now that you're on a watchlist, you will be even more likely to be detained again in the future, and possibly arrested in your home jurisdiction, or at least closely watched now that you're in a local database. Meanwhile you miss connecting flights, lose work, unintentionally ghost your clients who are expecting you to show up to your previously arranged appointments...it's a f*ing NIGHTMARE.

    If you never travel to the US or other countries with lame sex work laws, you're fine. For many of us, that is not a practical way to live. Every provider is taking a huge risk posting face pics all over the internet, especially in the more explicit places like RentMen. And yes, they last FOREVER, long after you take down your ads or years after you exit the biz. This is one of the many reasons we charge what we do for SW. There's an embedded risk to showing our faces that the client never has to even think about but we have to deal with all the consequences if and when the sh*t hits the fan.

    The below protocols are intended to protect us and limit the broad power given to CBP that anywhere else in the US would be considered unconstitutional, but I hear many stories of CBP not respecting these protocols. Nobody is enforcing their own policies. CBP has virtually no accountability. You could sue, at great cost, and with great difficulty. That's about it.

    https://www.cbp.gov/sites/default/files/assets/documents/2018-Jan/CBP-Directive-3340-049A-Border-Search-of-Electronic-Media-Compliant.pdf

    Not disagreeing with you or downplaying concerns but it also seems that putting aside RM explicitly, there are so many Twitter/X profiles of sexually explicit pictures and video's promoting their OnlyFans, "Master Dom" sites and asking for DM's and links to private messaging to Instagram etc..all while posting from and about all over the world.

    They often list their travel plans domestically and internationally soliciting for potential meet-up opportunities. I'd just imagine if there was a concerted effort to crack down on potential stoppages, they could easily shoot some fish in the barrel before going after guys/girls who go to great lengths to conceal their visages?

    Again not disagreeing with you but more thinking out loud anectodally.

    StudMark in NYC

    in The Deli

    Posted

    3 hours ago, azdr0710 said:

    Is this the guy who used to be listed in Edison, NJ?  Some name changes. 

    Yes i think the same thing. If same person has been discussed under a variety of different names over the years.

    I think it had been Jhonny or something even before but I recall "BuiltGreg" or something like that.

    Once-in-a-lifetime hookups?

    in The Lounge

    Posted

    On 9/7/2023 at 2:19 PM, Nodalguy said:

    Have you ever met up with a guy and realized during it or shortly afterward, "Damn, this is literally a once-in-a-lifetime experience. I will never meet someone so _____ again"?

    I was in another thread where I alluded a bit ago to an event that happened to me and made me think of this topic. I have a few experiences that begin to approach once-in-a-lifetime, but for me there is one clear guy in my mind who never be beaten.

    I was in South Carolina for work and browsing Grindr in my hotel room at night, and I made contact with this barely-legal bi-curious guy. He wouldn't send a facepic, but the photos he did send showed he had a great body. He came over to my hotel room that night, and I just couldn't believe it. Pretty deep voice given his age, dark blond hair, really handsome face, flawless smooth tanned skin, very masculine and muscular (without being too muscular) and really lean. He had a thick, meaty cock and big balls and a really cute but beefy butt. I spent the first ninety minutes literally just massaging, rimming, sucking, and generally worshipping every millimeter of his body.

    I am confident it will never happen to me again. I think I've had more actually fun sexual things happen (obviously I didn't party with the blond stud, and he wasn't experienced or very adventuresome), but I am speaking just in physical terms.

    I had one this summer that I'm praying to any deity or spiritual entity listening, that it won't be just that one time!!   (Admittedly the initial intro/connection was through SA) yet all we did was chit-chat about generic stuff without any specifics related to SA type situations. So not sure if this counts as a hook-up?

    He's finishing College far away this year but grew up ~hour away and we randomly discovered we were close by each other one random evening.

    He was out with a "girlfriend"( legit long-legged hot model beach blonde) though insisted I meet them out with the flimsyiest of cover stories i'd ever heard of.

    He's literally the prototypical great looking 21/22 year old uber athlete hot jock college frat bro.  Early on after meeting, when we had a brief private moment he tells me he want's to fool around.

    I'm so skeptical to the point that i literally laughed out loud.

    We all legit have a blast time out at dinner and bar hopping but the entire time I'm thinking i get it, they'll just fleece me for dinner and drinks and ditch me later. That's the hustle. So I'm going with the flow but totally resigned to that fate.

    We do all end up organically splitting up in the mayhem of bar hopping.

    As Bar's are closing I run into him. Says he's annoyed that hours earlier I didn't take him seriously about hooking up.

    I'm literall confused af.

    Then i think oh i get it, i busted him as he thought i had already left and he needs to update his "ditching" excuse.

    Turns out after more drunken clumsy misunderstandings we end up in my bed blissfully fooling around the rest of the night way past sunrise. In fact he introduced me to awesome things I've never done prior or after.

    Next morning as he's leaving I awkwardly have to brooch the subject that since we met over SA yet never discussed anything specific what were his expectations?

    He looks at me and says, "what are you talking about?" 

    I'm like wtf!!

    Given being on summer break from school and college student I did feel completely obligated yet happy to donate for his books. He never looks at what i gave him and asks me repeatedly am I sure and he didn't expect anything and am i ok with it.

    He never once looks at what i gave him and as he's leaving he never looks back but says "That was great, i had a blast, text me sometime" and 2 weeks later goes back to school for Senior year.

    I'm way more excited for him to graduate college than i was for myself 3 to 4 decades ago! 

    Carl Nassib, first openly gay player in NFL, announces retirement.

    in The Lounge

    Posted

    On 9/6/2023 at 8:06 PM, newdad said:
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    6554b6be8c0d829a8bf63ae0c82cf121_link.pn Carl Nassib, first openly gay player in NFL, announces retirement: "I'm ready to move on"

    WWW.CBSNEWS.COM
    Carl Nassib made history in 2021 when he became the first openly gay active player in the NFL

    Carl Nassib, first openly gay player in NFL, announces retirement: "I'm ready to move on"

    Awesome looking couple - 

     

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