Cannon

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For the life of me I will never understand why people do this kind of sleuthing. Checking the review sites and anything related to their professional reputation is understandable, but the kind of sleuthing that so many people do is just a nice word for stalking and it puts you in this exact awkward situation.
 
I understand an image search if you think the guy might be using someone else's pictures, but that's where I end it. It is sloppy on their part if they have the same photos on their personal and professional accounts, but I would stop immediately if I hit their personal Facebook account and never say a word that would make them uncomfortable.
 
Just like most clients want to control the release of their personal information, the pros should be afforded the same courtesy. It also makes it kind of special when / if they choose to reveal things of a personal nature.

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Sounds like the OP is fine until he starts communicating his needs/expecations. That is when he gets blocked, indicating that what you are saying in that space is the dealbreaker.
 
OP, try to listen the collective wisdom so far: you may be exhausting the escort with a laundry list of rules and requirements, making you seem high maintenance and needy. Are you texting long, detailed prose with a romance novel of expectations? If so stop.
 
One, it's not working.
 
Two, it's not necessary. You can express, succintly, that you're not looking for disconnect wham-bam-goodbye and desire some level of intimacy, care, and connection (and by the way, this is a fair quest). It doesn't take a whole lot of back-and-forth. And if you've done your due diliegence and are contactng a popular, well-reviewed escort, chances are he's a people person who knows what he's doing and doesn't have problems connecting and bonding with clients. You don't need to choreograph for him how to do his job; nobody likes being micromanaged. He'll know what you're getting at.
 
And I'd suggest reflecting on feedback about adjusting expections. The post reminding clients that they are not the center of the escort's world -- that he has other legitimiate responsibilities and priorities -- was spot on. Your response -- that a pro should be able to make you feel like he is the center of the world when he's with you -- is true, but think about what you're saying. You want the escort to center you *before* he's with you. As has been pointed out, this is not fair, and even if it were, it's not really possible for a guy that's in-demand due to that thing called time.
 
Some clients seem to forget, or not care, that we too have to eat, sleep, groom, medicate, socialize, call mom, workout to keep that rockin body you expect, run errands, do household chores, work on life goals, AND be emotionally present available for our already-scheduled appointments. Expecting an escort to *also* commit emotionally to the demands and small talk of the army of complete strangers texting and emailing him daily is disrespectful, especially when experience has taught him that 90% of them are flakes, weirdos, and/or pic collectors.
 
I think most mature, well-adjusted adults can understand that. And a popular, seasoned escort is not going to, and doesn't have to, waste energy on those who can't.

Not a “companion” but still going to throw in my 2 cents.
 
There’s more than one business model. Here are just a couple of examples. Either has the potential to have “great and lucrative experiences”.
 
There are those who advertise. This is the most common. Those advertisements may be on just one, or on many different sites. I suspect most of the companion responses your receive in this thread will come from this group.
 
For this next example I will exclude those being exploited. There are those who don’t advertise and depend on word of mouth. They are often very exclusive and cater to the high elite. The benefactor may only be interested in those providers who do not have advertisements and their pictures ‘out there”. A very high level of discretion is expected and required. There may even be a written confidentiality contract involved. The arrangement may not allow for any other clients.

First, I want to say how much I love how supportive the companions are of each other here on this forum! Second, I want to ask a question of the companions. I am a companion who hasn't been doing this long. I do this part time with school and work. I don't advertise. Its all been word of mouth or being approached in alternative ways. I have a small number of guys that I see and I'd like to keep it small actually. In a short amount of time I've had great & lucrative experiences and even been able to travel, but not advertising makes me wonder what great and lucrative experiences I may be missing. So Im wondering how valuable you think having an ad on Rentmen is in your own experiences because I think most of you on the forum do advertise. By advertising, I know I would be making myself vulnerable to the negatives that I have been able to avoid with word of mouth.... like dealing with the flakes, time wasters, the mentally imbalanced, the lower end etc. I think this is subjective and I suspect opinions will vary but in your own view, is it worth it?

Don't you ever get tired of being a victim? My gosh! Every single thread I click on, you are always complaining and negative about something. I'm Black too and I do not relate to this whole victim mentality. With all due respect, have you ever considered that maybe you have so much to complain about because your attitude sucks?
 

No jewelry but undies of course, candles which I loved, Jimmy Choo fragrance which was sweet even though I dont wear fragrances, I had a cold a couple of months ago and a client wanted to see me. I told him I couldn't because I had a cold so he brought me soup which I thought was incredibly sweet and I will never forget that. The same guy knew that i liked a pair of Jslides (shoes) so he surprised me and gifted me with the shoes and 2 boxes of RX bars; one blueberry, the other mint-chocolate, which I love... A guy also recently doubled what he normally gives me as a "Christmas bonus" he called it. Again, that caught me off guard and I thought that was sweet. There are some very sweet, respectful & thoughtful, generous guys with big hearts out there and Im grateful for each act of kindness that comes my way.

Im more preppy during the day , but after the gym and my night time shower, I tend to go to bed nude

Six hours round trip is quite the commute; my goodness. But since it was an overnight I'm sure he made it worth it for you.

My only issue is fake pictures.
 
If an escort wants to hide his face/identity for w/e reasons in an ad, that's fine, as long as the pics on their ad are real &
they're willing to share/text me a face pic.
 
Posting fake pics, however, is FRAUD. An unforgivable offense I'm not willing to tolerate.

Every situation is different but I would just treat it as I would any other compliment. I would smile and say "that's very sweet" but I wouldn't over-do it or over-think it, or give it any more extra weight than that. A sincere acknowledgment of the compliment will suffice.

I do see it it more often and I do get more of those kinds of offers. I've had a few "would have been" clients ask if I'd pnp, but I'm so turned off by drug users, that I don't even bother responding to them anymore. I don't use drugs and never will. I don't care how generous the guy might be.

Yes. For me it was when I got to go to Phoenix. I was excited because I love to fly. We'd laugh, and talk, and have playful sarcasm with flirtatiousness with each other. He was this BIG football player built client who looks really intimidating but he was obsessed with Will & Grace and I thought that was such an awesome juxtaposition. He had all of the DVD's, we watched movies & shows on Netflix. He wasn't good at cooking so he'd go get groceries for me to cook for us... He loved to laugh. He shared with me things that he was sensitive about, like how he's been judged his whole life by by how intimidating he looks and that has really bothered him because he really is like a gentle giant. It was like a 4 day slumber party with other components to it of course. I had such a great time. He was such a good person, that's what made it special.

Yes. For me it was when I got to go to Phoenix. I was excited because I love to fly. We'd laugh, and talk, and have playful sarcasm with flirtatiousness with each other. He was this BIG football player built client who looks really intimidating but he was obsessed with Will & Grace and I thought that was such an awesome juxtaposition. He had all of the DVD's, we watched movies & shows on Netflix. He wasn't good at cooking so he'd go get groceries for me to cook for us... He loved to laugh. He shared with me things that he was sensitive about, like how he's been judged his whole life by by how intimidating he looks and that has really bothered him because he really is like a gentle giant. It was like a 4 day slumber party with other components to it of course. I had such a great time. He was such a good person, that's what made it special.

I do see it it more often and I do get more of those kinds of offers. I've had a few "would have been" clients ask if I'd pnp, but I'm so turned off by drug users, that I don't even bother responding to them anymore. I don't use drugs and never will. I don't care how generous the guy might be.

I do see it it more often and I do get more of those kinds of offers. I've had a few "would have been" clients ask if I'd pnp, but I'm so turned off by drug users, that I don't even bother responding to them anymore. I don't use drugs and never will. I don't care how generous the guy might be.

I do see it it more often and I do get more of those kinds of offers. I've had a few "would have been" clients ask if I'd pnp, but I'm so turned off by drug users, that I don't even bother responding to them anymore. I don't use drugs and never will. I don't care how generous the guy might be.

I do see it it more often and I do get more of those kinds of offers. I've had a few "would have been" clients ask if I'd pnp, but I'm so turned off by drug users, that I don't even bother responding to them anymore. I don't use drugs and never will. I don't care how generous the guy might be.

I do see it it more often and I do get more of those kinds of offers. I've had a few "would have been" clients ask if I'd pnp, but I'm so turned off by drug users, that I don't even bother responding to them anymore. I don't use drugs and never will. I don't care how generous the guy might be.

This is so true! And one of the reasons I made clear that I declined that offer. Because while he doesn't "expect" anything in return, he does "hope" which would lead to disappointment. I was actually more opening the floor to hearing other companions' experiences with this.

Mocha
As charming as I find your adorable attempts at putting articulate sentences together ...(and they are adorable) I had to stop reading your comment after the second paragraph. I'm not sure why you think it takes days to get to Miami ...it takes five hours...so...I'll stop there because ....suddenly I'm reminded of a George Carlin quote...he says "never argue with an idiot, they will only bring you down to their level and beat you with experience".
That said, I sincerely hope u have a busy week so you can be happier. Happy Holidays from me...the "sell out" ;-) - Xo

He’s got MacArthur beat for returns

Hi Mocha,
You didn't call me a "sell out" in this post and you were only slightly patronizing, you must be in a good mood this week.
In any event, I went and it was great. ......Mmmm I'm skeptical by nature but he ended up being the real deal which I knew when I got the ticket and he was a nice guy!!! Thanks for the concern but as I mentioned I have great instincts that always serve me well which is why I went and I'll go again if invited. To address your note, I don't know why guys hire companions from from clear across the country ...but if I had to make an educated guess I would say "it's because they can" or "because they want to" ...but I suppose you'd have to ask them for more details on that. This guy was the second person to contact me from out of state..but the other was in Arizona which is right next door to CA. I stayed with that guy for a few days and it was great and I knew it would be great because...instincts!! Florida was unique for me because it was literally across the country. Your comment makes it sound like it's unorthodox but a number of other companions here on this forum besides me have posted their similar experiences. @jawjatech mentioned on the thread that he as a client has flown guys in a number of times and all were great trips....Soooo it may not occur regularly but it's definitely not that unusual apparently. Evidence of that is that other companions have done this quite a bit and I've now done it twice and I've only been a companion for less than a year...and not even consistently because I do other things and have another job.
 
 
By the way, didn't you make a really long announcement that u weren't participating on this forum anymore? I'm just curious, what pray tell happened to that?

Hi Mocha,
You didn't call me a "sell out" in this post and you were only slightly patronizing, you must be in a good mood this week.
In any event, I went and it was great. ......Mmmm I'm skeptical by nature but he ended up being the real deal which I knew when I got the ticket and he was a nice guy!!! Thanks for the concern but as I mentioned I have great instincts that always serve me well which is why I went and I'll go again if invited. To address your note, I don't know why guys hire companions from from clear across the country ...but if I had to make an educated guess I would say "it's because they can" or "because they want to" ...but I suppose you'd have to ask them for more details on that. This guy was the second person to contact me from out of state..but the other was in Arizona which is right next door to CA. I stayed with that guy for a few days and it was great and I knew it would be great because...instincts!! Florida was unique for me because it was literally across the country. Your comment makes it sound like it's unorthodox but a number of other companions here on this forum besides me have posted their similar experiences. @jawjatech mentioned on the thread that he as a client has flown guys in a number of times and all were great trips....Soooo it may not occur regularly but it's definitely not that unusual apparently. Evidence of that is that other companions have done this quite a bit and I've now done it twice and I've only been a companion for less than a year...and not even consistently because I do other things and have another job.
 
 
By the way, didn't you make a really long announcement that u weren't participating on this forum anymore? I'm just curious, what pray tell happened to that?

Mocha
As charming as I find your adorable attempts at putting articulate sentences together ...(and they are adorable) I had to stop reading your comment after the second paragraph. I'm not sure why you think it takes days to get to Miami ...it takes five hours...so...I'll stop there because ....suddenly I'm reminded of a George Carlin quote...he says "never argue with an idiot, they will only bring you down to their level and beat you with experience".
That said, I sincerely hope u have a busy week so you can be happier. Happy Holidays from me...the "sell out" ;-) - Xo

Everyone is different, but for me....receiving the plane ticket was deposit enough.