geoduck_007

I'm sitting here in a San Francisco hotel room feeling really awful about the experience I just had with one of the areas' best reviewed (on this site!) providers. I was coming into town to do some networking and had wanted to reach out to a provider that had received consistently good reviews on this forum. I felt confident in reaching out to the and was anticipating the meet-up when it all just felt like a nails-on-the-chalkboard experience.
The provider was a prolific texter. He asked for "stats" and; while not uncomfortable, provided him with pictures and details as far as what I wanted to have happened, and to my delight, there were no issues in our back-and-forth's.
Upon coming into town, he asked to move the date to accommodate going back to Los Angeles for Thanksgiving. Luckily, I had that flexibility and; recognizing that scheduling around a holiday can be awkward, was good with that. 
Then, I started to receive what I deem the "flake texts". Reconfirming the time and place a multiple of three times, Asking for confirmation each time. I'm sympathetic to that - some of the best providers on this forum have attested to flakes, and I've always lived up to my commitments and his reputation was solid, so I always responded positively that it was still correct, still a yes. He asked if he could do a workout in before and maybe 5 minutes late at tops. Again, this was not unreasonable and I said yes.
Time comes, he arrives, on-time and polite. We go back to my hotel room and then...everything just stops.
He's not verbal. Not emotional. He just STANDS THERE.
It really threw me for a loop. Not that it couldn't happen with any escort, (or course it can and it did) but this one had SO.MANY.GOOD.REVIEWS.ON.THIS.SITE. I couldn't do anything to engage him for 10 minutes, arouse him, get him to talk. He was as stiff as the 100+ year old wainscotting around the room.
I was so mortified I asked if I could take a pause and have a glass of water and he said nothing. With his back turned to me for a good two minutes, I just gave-up. Told him it was me (it so wasn't! And I wanted it so bad!) gave him the full rate for 1 hour after 15 minutes and he left in 30 seconds
Sad story over, but now the dilemma: for a provider so well thought of on this forum and so well regarded, do I have any recourse? It was like trying to arouse an Easter Island monolith. He never offered once to do something, anything; or, make me comfortable or even try anything. It feels like I'm challenging the reputation of someone who has been exceptionally well received on these forums over years and I feel like it might come out petty if I were to say anything here (Or; god forbid, rent.men)
Do we let sleeping dogs lie after $350 for 15 minutes; or, should we be honest and say something (in the appropriate time/place)?
 

I'm sitting here in a San Francisco hotel room feeling really awful about the experience I just had with one of the areas' best reviewed (on this site!) providers. I was coming into town to do some networking and had wanted to reach out to a provider that had received consistently good reviews on this forum. I felt confident in reaching out to the and was anticipating the meet-up when it all just felt like a nails-on-the-chalkboard experience.
The provider was a prolific texter. He asked for "stats" and; while not uncomfortable, provided him with pictures and details as far as what I wanted to have happened, and to my delight, there were no issues in our back-and-forth's.
Upon coming into town, he asked to move the date to accommodate going back to Los Angeles for Thanksgiving. Luckily, I had that flexibility and; recognizing that scheduling around a holiday can be awkward, was good with that. 
Then, I started to receive what I deem the "flake texts". Reconfirming the time and place a multiple of three times, Asking for confirmation each time. I'm sympathetic to that - some of the best providers on this forum have attested to flakes, and I've always lived up to my commitments and his reputation was solid, so I always responded positively that it was still correct, still a yes. He asked if he could do a workout in before and maybe 5 minutes late at tops. Again, this was not unreasonable and I said yes.
Time comes, he arrives, on-time and polite. We go back to my hotel room and then...everything just stops.
He's not verbal. Not emotional. He just STANDS THERE.
It really threw me for a loop. Not that it couldn't happen with any escort, (or course it can and it did) but this one had SO.MANY.GOOD.REVIEWS.ON.THIS.SITE. I couldn't do anything to engage him for 10 minutes, arouse him, get him to talk. He was as stiff as the 100+ year old wainscotting around the room.
I was so mortified I asked if I could take a pause and have a glass of water and he said nothing. With his back turned to me for a good two minutes, I just gave-up. Told him it was me (it so wasn't! And I wanted it so bad!) gave him the full rate for 1 hour after 15 minutes and he left in 30 seconds
Sad story over, but now the dilemma: for a provider so well thought of on this forum and so well regarded, do I have any recourse? It was like trying to arouse an Easter Island monolith. He never offered once to do something, anything; or, make me comfortable or even try anything. It feels like I'm challenging the reputation of someone who has been exceptionally well received on these forums over years and I feel like it might come out petty if I were to say anything here (Or; god forbid, rent.men)
Do we let sleeping dogs lie after $350 for 15 minutes; or, should we be honest and say something (in the appropriate time/place)?
 

I'm sitting here in a San Francisco hotel room feeling really awful about the experience I just had with one of the areas' best reviewed (on this site!) providers. I was coming into town to do some networking and had wanted to reach out to a provider that had received consistently good reviews on this forum. I felt confident in reaching out to the and was anticipating the meet-up when it all just felt like a nails-on-the-chalkboard experience.
The provider was a prolific texter. He asked for "stats" and; while not uncomfortable, provided him with pictures and details as far as what I wanted to have happened, and to my delight, there were no issues in our back-and-forth's.
Upon coming into town, he asked to move the date to accommodate going back to Los Angeles for Thanksgiving. Luckily, I had that flexibility and; recognizing that scheduling around a holiday can be awkward, was good with that. 
Then, I started to receive what I deem the "flake texts". Reconfirming the time and place a multiple of three times, Asking for confirmation each time. I'm sympathetic to that - some of the best providers on this forum have attested to flakes, and I've always lived up to my commitments and his reputation was solid, so I always responded positively that it was still correct, still a yes. He asked if he could do a workout in before and maybe 5 minutes late at tops. Again, this was not unreasonable and I said yes.
Time comes, he arrives, on-time and polite. We go back to my hotel room and then...everything just stops.
He's not verbal. Not emotional. He just STANDS THERE.
It really threw me for a loop. Not that it couldn't happen with any escort, (or course it can and it did) but this one had SO.MANY.GOOD.REVIEWS.ON.THIS.SITE. I couldn't do anything to engage him for 10 minutes, arouse him, get him to talk. He was as stiff as the 100+ year old wainscotting around the room.
I was so mortified I asked if I could take a pause and have a glass of water and he said nothing. With his back turned to me for a good two minutes, I just gave-up. Told him it was me (it so wasn't! And I wanted it so bad!) gave him the full rate for 1 hour after 15 minutes and he left in 30 seconds
Sad story over, but now the dilemma: for a provider so well thought of on this forum and so well regarded, do I have any recourse? It was like trying to arouse an Easter Island monolith. He never offered once to do something, anything; or, make me comfortable or even try anything. It feels like I'm challenging the reputation of someone who has been exceptionally well received on these forums over years and I feel like it might come out petty if I were to say anything here (Or; god forbid, rent.men)
Do we let sleeping dogs lie after $350 for 15 minutes; or, should we be honest and say something (in the appropriate time/place)?
 

Well, it appears that he has just deleted his rent.men profile (in the last 90 minutes) so I feel there's nothing that can be done. The honest advice you offered is sobering, and while I'd like to think I did my due diligence, I suppose I really didn't and now I'm out the cash and (figuratively and literally) embarrassed myself with sharing this experience.

I'm sitting here in a San Francisco hotel room feeling really awful about the experience I just had with one of the areas' best reviewed (on this site!) providers. I was coming into town to do some networking and had wanted to reach out to a provider that had received consistently good reviews on this forum. I felt confident in reaching out to the and was anticipating the meet-up when it all just felt like a nails-on-the-chalkboard experience.
The provider was a prolific texter. He asked for "stats" and; while not uncomfortable, provided him with pictures and details as far as what I wanted to have happened, and to my delight, there were no issues in our back-and-forth's.
Upon coming into town, he asked to move the date to accommodate going back to Los Angeles for Thanksgiving. Luckily, I had that flexibility and; recognizing that scheduling around a holiday can be awkward, was good with that. 
Then, I started to receive what I deem the "flake texts". Reconfirming the time and place a multiple of three times, Asking for confirmation each time. I'm sympathetic to that - some of the best providers on this forum have attested to flakes, and I've always lived up to my commitments and his reputation was solid, so I always responded positively that it was still correct, still a yes. He asked if he could do a workout in before and maybe 5 minutes late at tops. Again, this was not unreasonable and I said yes.
Time comes, he arrives, on-time and polite. We go back to my hotel room and then...everything just stops.
He's not verbal. Not emotional. He just STANDS THERE.
It really threw me for a loop. Not that it couldn't happen with any escort, (or course it can and it did) but this one had SO.MANY.GOOD.REVIEWS.ON.THIS.SITE. I couldn't do anything to engage him for 10 minutes, arouse him, get him to talk. He was as stiff as the 100+ year old wainscotting around the room.
I was so mortified I asked if I could take a pause and have a glass of water and he said nothing. With his back turned to me for a good two minutes, I just gave-up. Told him it was me (it so wasn't! And I wanted it so bad!) gave him the full rate for 1 hour after 15 minutes and he left in 30 seconds
Sad story over, but now the dilemma: for a provider so well thought of on this forum and so well regarded, do I have any recourse? It was like trying to arouse an Easter Island monolith. He never offered once to do something, anything; or, make me comfortable or even try anything. It feels like I'm challenging the reputation of someone who has been exceptionally well received on these forums over years and I feel like it might come out petty if I were to say anything here (Or; god forbid, rent.men)
Do we let sleeping dogs lie after $350 for 15 minutes; or, should we be honest and say something (in the appropriate time/place)?
 

I'm sitting here in a San Francisco hotel room feeling really awful about the experience I just had with one of the areas' best reviewed (on this site!) providers. I was coming into town to do some networking and had wanted to reach out to a provider that had received consistently good reviews on this forum. I felt confident in reaching out to the and was anticipating the meet-up when it all just felt like a nails-on-the-chalkboard experience.
The provider was a prolific texter. He asked for "stats" and; while not uncomfortable, provided him with pictures and details as far as what I wanted to have happened, and to my delight, there were no issues in our back-and-forth's.
Upon coming into town, he asked to move the date to accommodate going back to Los Angeles for Thanksgiving. Luckily, I had that flexibility and; recognizing that scheduling around a holiday can be awkward, was good with that. 
Then, I started to receive what I deem the "flake texts". Reconfirming the time and place a multiple of three times, Asking for confirmation each time. I'm sympathetic to that - some of the best providers on this forum have attested to flakes, and I've always lived up to my commitments and his reputation was solid, so I always responded positively that it was still correct, still a yes. He asked if he could do a workout in before and maybe 5 minutes late at tops. Again, this was not unreasonable and I said yes.
Time comes, he arrives, on-time and polite. We go back to my hotel room and then...everything just stops.
He's not verbal. Not emotional. He just STANDS THERE.
It really threw me for a loop. Not that it couldn't happen with any escort, (or course it can and it did) but this one had SO.MANY.GOOD.REVIEWS.ON.THIS.SITE. I couldn't do anything to engage him for 10 minutes, arouse him, get him to talk. He was as stiff as the 100+ year old wainscotting around the room.
I was so mortified I asked if I could take a pause and have a glass of water and he said nothing. With his back turned to me for a good two minutes, I just gave-up. Told him it was me (it so wasn't! And I wanted it so bad!) gave him the full rate for 1 hour after 15 minutes and he left in 30 seconds
Sad story over, but now the dilemma: for a provider so well thought of on this forum and so well regarded, do I have any recourse? It was like trying to arouse an Easter Island monolith. He never offered once to do something, anything; or, make me comfortable or even try anything. It feels like I'm challenging the reputation of someone who has been exceptionally well received on these forums over years and I feel like it might come out petty if I were to say anything here (Or; god forbid, rent.men)
Do we let sleeping dogs lie after $350 for 15 minutes; or, should we be honest and say something (in the appropriate time/place)?
 

Forgive the headline - I don't mean to be dramatic, but I'm down in San Diego for work this week and reached out to three different escorts on RM about a potential meetup within the last week, and I got:

One e-mail response back with a request if I could host, which I agreed to and then he never responded by e-mail or phone after a week of attempts;
One who was upset I called him on his RM phone number while he was driving and asked to call back when he wasn't driving (my clairvoyance is not as keen as his); and
One who was annoyed by phone when I asked about what he specialized in/liked to do. (Ambiguous ad, hot photos. Wanted more info...)

It seems like for two months its been like this - reach out and ask and get rejected as if you're trying to date them. Maybe its the 'gentleman' I've been interested in hiring; however, it just seems counterintuitive that one would advertise their services and not reciprocate with courteous interest or helpfulness.
 
Maybe its' just the reality of the "business" in that it operates in a grey area and we get-what-we-can-get. I don't know. Maybe it's just bad luck.
 
Would any of the seasoned commentators be willing to offer some commentary or sage advice? I'm flummoxed at this point.

Forgive the headline - I don't mean to be dramatic, but I'm down in San Diego for work this week and reached out to three different escorts on RM about a potential meetup within the last week, and I got:

One e-mail response back with a request if I could host, which I agreed to and then he never responded by e-mail or phone after a week of attempts;
One who was upset I called him on his RM phone number while he was driving and asked to call back when he wasn't driving (my clairvoyance is not as keen as his); and
One who was annoyed by phone when I asked about what he specialized in/liked to do. (Ambiguous ad, hot photos. Wanted more info...)

It seems like for two months its been like this - reach out and ask and get rejected as if you're trying to date them. Maybe its the 'gentleman' I've been interested in hiring; however, it just seems counterintuitive that one would advertise their services and not reciprocate with courteous interest or helpfulness.
 
Maybe its' just the reality of the "business" in that it operates in a grey area and we get-what-we-can-get. I don't know. Maybe it's just bad luck.
 
Would any of the seasoned commentators be willing to offer some commentary or sage advice? I'm flummoxed at this point.

Wow. I knew this forum would come through with polite, concise, and appropriate commentary.
 
I'm inclined to text (a low risk activity); however, none of the gent's indicated that that was their preferred method (in fact, there was no method at all - I'm always happy to follow their instructions for the right guy)
 
It's probably bad luck. I've had a really long streak since a weekend in Toronto in May when two RM escorts gave me a lackluster time and I became gunshy. Thought I might be able to get back into the swing of things here...
 
I'll get back on the horse.....

He's actually in Las Vegas right now. Wrong Timing.
 
I appreciate the feedback from everyone. I might have been too earnest in my approach.