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He was my first hire—sweet guy, hot AF, but the sub/dom thing doesn’t do it for me.

By the time I saw his ad there was no contact phone number. I just emailed him again via RM, we’ll see if he responds. He’s always struck me as a sweet guy, as well as incredibly hot; but his ad DOES say he’s experimenting with escorting, so who knows ...

Hi all, I’ve been following Alex Mecum’s IG for a while, and before Christmas was intrigued to find out that he was escorting. I got in touch through RM, and had an easy and pleasant exchange with him about his availability in NYC after January 2, and his rates, but when I tried to set up a session for this weekend ... [crickets chirping]. Anybody been with him? Is he worth a follow up? https://rentmen.eu/alex_mecum

Whoa. No experience with him, but I get to Paris occasionally, and as of now he’s at the top of my To Do list!

There’s a guy I see regularly who is really good about keeping in touch—checks in with me every week or so, sends me hot photos, etc. As a client, I appreciate that level of attention, and I respond by hiring him more often than I might otherwise. He’s a big ol’ sweetheart, and we both enjoy our sessions; but I have to say that I also enjoy being the focus of his savvy business model!

This has been a really useful thread for me — thanks, guys!

[sprains finger in frantic rush to buddylist]

Oop! Meant to post this in “Ask an Escort” ...

Escorts: how far in advance do you like clients to contact you about a meeting? Or, to put it another way: how far in advance is TOO far?

This about sums it up for me: https://www.t-nation.com/powerful-words/oil-bags-rise-of-the-idiots.

Um, no. A particularly clumsy and outrageous use of synthol or some other “site enhancement” oil. Pretty common among bodybuilders, and can be really effective if used selectively and smartly, but THIS—this is just ... no.

The correct URL is https://rent.men/KenMaster, but the ad is gone.

Thanks for sharing this, yours is a voice we need to hear. It strikes me that this attitude in younger folks has always been at the heart of sex work, and it’s wonderful to see it now going mainstream.

Obvs, but it’s something I prefer not to do on a “first date,” for a lot of reasons.

I really want to hire https://rentmen.eu/BruceBeckham and https://rentmen.eu/KyleStrong one of these days, but they can’t host, and neither can I.

All this. The one guy I see regularly presents as a big, straight gym bro-type, but he’s actually quite versatile—perfect combo for me. I didn’t connect with him on rent.men, so I had (and have) no idea what his real orientation might be, or what he claims to other clients, but what little he says about his private life leads me to believe he’s straight. I love not knowing this for sure—I find the ambiguity erotic, and it sustains the fantasy.

Hubba!

Huh. I only really know the NYC scene, so can’t say how it differs elsewhere, but a number of guys I’ve met here have reached out afterwards, kept in touch, let me know about travel schedules, etc. But that applies to visitors as well as to local providers; so really, I’m inclined to think that the tendency to “cultivate” good clients is based more on individual provider personality and business philosophy, and less on geography. Interesting question, though, and I hope we’ll see other responses.

The quote has been investigated here: https://quoteinvestigator.com/2012/08/02/gandhi-customer/, and yeah, almost certainly not by Gandhi. But back to the topic at hand: Eric is exactly right about the “regularization” process, at least as it applies to me. I sort of woke up one morning and realized that I’d been seeing the same guy every 2 or 3 weeks for the past 6 months, and that, without planning it, or discussing it with my provider, I had become a “regular.” In some ways I feel like I’ve been (and am being) groomed for the role. Usually it’s my provider who gets in touch, asks me how I am, sends me a couple of jaw-dropping photos, and the next step is an appointment in our favorite seedy motel. My experience with escorts is limited, but this strikes me as a slightly unusual business model. Of course, I’m sure my guy appreciates the steady income; and for my part, it turns me on when he takes the initiative—so I am more than willing to be groomed!

Good hair, tho.

I was talking about his body, but what I said about the size and quality of his muscle might apply to his dick as well!

I’ve seen Avi Dar a number of times. On the pro side, he’s huge as f**k, in great, ripped shape whenever I’ve seen him. And he is certainly 5’8” as advertised, or pretty damn close—NOT 5’5”. I’m 6’ and he’s not that much shorter than me—not that we ever spent much time in height comparison. The only downside is a purely personal one, of chemistry—he OUGHT to drive me insane with lust, but we just don’t seem to click. Shame, because he’s really sweet, and up for pretty much anything. I recommend him highly!

What FigureSkater said. I didn’t exactly “fall” for my first escort, but I did think about him a little obsessively, and it took two (not terribly satisfactory) additional sessions with him to get him out of my head. In retrospect, “imprint” seems exactly the right term for it.

I haven’t seen him yet, but he has told me that he would charge extra to travel to my place in the Bronx.

Thanks for all the useful feedback, guys! Unexpectedly, I see that https://rentmen.eu/gianluigivolti is going to be in London while I’m there. Taking into account the somewhat mixed reviews, I just can’t resist the hotness, and I’ve set up an appointment—wish me luck!