LaffingBear

I see this is an older, resurrected post. Original question, I'd probably err on the side of caution if an initial search returned reliable evidence of violent crime arrests. I really dont trust, and would never pay, for one of the online background check services.

CA does, or did. 1999, I was employed by a hospital, and whenever lab work was needed, did it at work. I went to a dermatologist for a possible cosmetic fix, but he asked about stubborn razor-burn, told me it was staph, asked if anything else going on, diagnosed a very mild case of molluscum contagiosum. Advised an HIV test, and then said "I dont think you should do it where you work. Try the County Health Service." I did - smart, sensitive advice. Different era... they gave an ID number, and I called in for anonymous results.

Like some others here, I'll share my desires for arrival, attire, etc. with an escort beginning with visit 2. I'll admit to something of a fetish. In addition to security precautions, I like seeing how a guy appears, moves, the reaction of others around him. So I prefer meeting in public, like a hotel lobby. Skimpy or super tight clothing isnt one of my turn-ons, so thats no concern. The Grand Hyatt at Grand Central in NYC was a frequent destination for years, and the massive lobby, with mezzanine overlook, was one of my favorites. After decades of a "no first visit at my place" policy, I've changed a bit. But I inform the guys that they'll never find my home or parking in my suburban community, so we meet at the Starbucks that's a 3-minute walk from my door. My most recent hire last week showed up in jeans and a tee-shirt, and was turning heads when I walked up to him. Great hire, I arranged a repeat three days later, and remembering our conversations, he arrived in a tank top for the second visit. He'd scoped out my neighborhood for an electric car charging station, and now knew where I lived... but I still walked out to meet him.

If you need a fashion model to model fashion, try a local agency, or one of the many agencies listed online.

I have no techniques for sting-avoidance. Depending on the device, photo research may be challenging. My latest effort involved looking at the source code, searching the code page for "jpg", and then researching from there. This was only after I couldnt right-click to search image or save image. Oddly, while a right-click search google image search produced nothing, going to google images desktop and pasting an image url produced results for the same image. Only purpose of image search really is to privately confirm or allay suspicions. Its really not proof. Videochat is more reliable. And, it might be more efficient to just proceed to video anyway..... with the understanding it will eliminate a few genuine guys along with the fakes. And, when I'm uncertain, I'll insist on meeting at public place, rather than door to his place or mine. At least its an easier setting for "never mind" or even "get lost, you lying ass"

Its a challenge for me, as a suburbanite, to hire locals. I'm 30 min outside the city, longer in traffic. Local rentguys wont come here, even for outcall fee supplements. Bridge & Tunnel mindset, I guess. So, Ive done most of my hiring when traveling to other cities - in-calls at my hotel. Was also lucky to have a generous employer for years, who would cover hotel expenses for conferences in local city to avoid commute traffic, etc. I hired a local masseur, and with no other option, I went to his place. Scary dirty. Massage provided in his bedroom on his bed. Mattress on floor, unmade... given a small bath towel to lay on. Like a college apartment shared by guys, empty beverage cans, open bags of chips, some dirty dishes scattered around room. Clothes laying everywhere. Bathroom after was even more terrifying... a catbox that hadn't been cleaned in weeks, disgusting toilet, black mold in the shower. Hot, friendly, genuinely super-nice masseur. Great massage that got steamy. Seen him out and about, and you'd never infer he lives in a sty. Would love to be a regular, but never again to his place. And he still won't come to my suburban locale. Only other issue related to escort in-call was a guy I'd seen multiple times, long appts, hotels and eventually my place. Once spent a night at his place, and while it wasnt super clean, it was ok. Except, he had a pet iguana. About two feel long, maybe more. Uncaged. No such thing as toilet training. Nocturnal.... so heard it rustling around as I lay in bed. Awoke to surprise turds on bedroom floor. That was different.

I swore off any fast food with a drive-thru in 1992. And I've stuck with it - I haven't had McDs, BK, Arbys, Wendy's, KFC, Popeyes, Long Johns, Taco Bell, White Castle, etc. in 25+ years. One exception.... I moved to CA 1993, everyone swears by In & Out. Refrained a dozen years, eventually tried it.... no big deal, for same reason as @Funguy .... dried out, well-done doesn't appeal to me... so no challenge avoiding that. I never order pizza from the established chains. My favorite pizza is either Whole Foods brick oven in the store, or the newer Pieology chain, which is like Chipotle for pizza. I enjoy some local taqueirias. I like Barbacoa at Chipotle. I like the fries at Five Guys. And theres a barbecue place in the food court of a casino I frequent that sells great ribs and decent brisket. Poké places are popping up everywhere in my region, and I love poké, so that will probably become a favorite. I loved Kai poké in Woodland Hills when visiting there last month. I dont know if it qualifies as fast food, but the newer Urban Plates chain is pretty excellent. --------------- Edit: I thought this thread looked familiar, but the little indicator that I'd already responded didn't appear on the list. Apologies for duplicate info.... at least I didnt contradict myself.

It is to me. How different are the escort specific threads from yelp? Certainly, the Lounge posts about life in general, or the politics section comments, dont differ much from what can be found on Facebook.

I agree with everything @big-n-tall stated above. I'd add that consideration of screen size and physical-view attention span can also be a factor. On phones or tablets, at a busy time, new posts can quickly migrate down the list to page two. I rarely go looking for new threads past page 1. I suspect I'm not the only one.... I've seen older threads "bumped" or repositioned by updates, and subsequently generate alot of buzz. It's a social media spin on "location location location. "

As I reflect on my rentguy history, Ive hired one-hour, overnight, full-day, and longer. Never two-hours. And, Ive never even noticed an advertised rate for anything other than the hour-rate. I just asked "how much for XYZ." I only hire for one-hour first time. If I wanted another visit, two or three hours, I'd ask him "how much for a two hour?" And then I'd defer to my standard - its either worth it to me, or not. For me, its better to explain what I want and let him quote a rate. My longer session desire might be dinner, hang out a while, some play, sleep together, a little morning fun, goodbye. I know from chatting with rentguys, there are overnight clients who want non-stop sex sessions, lasting hours. No judgement of them, but I don't. He can factor my desires into his rate.... because once he quotes a rate, I won't haggle. Theres a new rentguy I just met, and I'll be exploring longer sessions. I have no idea what his longer session rates are.... I'll find out what his rate is for what I want.

I understand that. But I'm guessing that, in the situation you describe, you aren't the first person to check-in, take occupancy of the room. And, perhaps you never really occupy that room at all. I'm skeptical that any hotel would let you prepay the room, but take occupancy, without a credit card on file for incidentals For your solution to work, you could prepay the room on your credit card, but you'd need to have the escort check in first, or at least concurrent with you, and use his credit card for incidentals.

I've traveled with platonic companions several times. One, with whom I'd traveled multiple times, complained on one trip.... I'd never snored on other trips, but did that trip. I've hired a guy who snored. It kept me awake. That guy was also a furnace - he generated heat, and kept throwing off the covers. He was fun and friendly about it. But I admit, as a lifelong single person, I sleep fitfully whenever there is someone in my bed anyway. I've gone back to my hotel with a guy from a NYC bar who snored so badly, it was incredibly annoying, and I was poking him all night long... I actually considered waking him and throwing him out. I wouldn't let the issue prevent me from hiring. If you have a concern, make light of it as you go to bed.... just tell him "if I snore, just poke me, or roll me over." Most people stop snoring if they change position.

I am familiar with that arrangement when a 3rd party pays, but doesn't check into the room himself. I dont know a hotel that will let you in without credit card on file. Therefore, I doubt one could checkin without the host and rentguy. I suppose you both could stop at the desk when one leaves, closing out the credit card and having the remaining party provide a new card. Seems rather cumbersome and awkward. Personally, I wouldnt let a rentguy remain beyond my departure. Also, I'm extraordinarily, situationally, cheap. I wouldn't flinch at taking an escort out for a very expensive meal, or to buy us overpriced snacks in some gourmet shop. I've bought escorts clothes/gifts if we're out shopping. But I might faint if my guest incurred a $7.50 charge for a Nestle Crunch from the mini-bar. 35 years of travel, often business travel at the expense of my employer or client, or complimentary stays at casinos, I have never once ordered a pay-per-view movie. There are never incidental charges on my folio for items I believe to be a rip-off. (Except BS resort fees, which are a blatant scam)

In west, many hotels have discrete signs due to ongoing drought conditions. Some variation of: "Help us conserve water. Please hang up towels you will re-use; leave towels to replace on floor." I comply, but leave towels to be replaced on tub rim.

Just finished watching on bluRay. Thought it was good. Great cinematography, music. Although the three story lines became apparent early on, took a bit of time to feel engaged. Little character development intended, so it differs from most war, battle dramas. My first film exposure to Dunkirk was Mrs. Miniver, and that's certainly minimal. I'd heard of Dunkirk, of course, did some cursory reading.... I think this movie does an admirable job of presenting the scope.

Me too

But the idea is much more fun. Imagine a restaurant kitchen.... one setup of fresh greens, a separate of wilted, brown lettuce. "Ordering... two coupon salads!" "Fire two halibut specials - its a coupon!" as the cook reaches for the slimy, smelly fish they forgot to refrigerate last night. Or the hostess who greets the coupon-holder, whose been waiting longer than other arrivals. "We're sorry. You have a coupon. You'll be seated as soon as there's an opening at Jan's station.... she doesn't wash her hands, and we're waiting on her test results."

LOL. That never occurred to me, and I doubt its a realistic concern. But I think its the stuff of a great SNL sketch. And an idea I'm going to share with family & friends who own various restaurants.

I feel exactly the same. If they quote a price higher than I'm willing to pay, I politely decline and move on. If they subsequently reduce their asking price, I interpret it as a bad sign.... might be any number of reasons, most of them bad. I have referred price-lowerers, who I suspect to be inexperienced, to rentmen, and this site. Some have expressed gratitude.

OK. I agree the morph makes him look more attractive to me. But I dont see any of those physical attributes as "masculine." However, will refrain from further comment that only hijacks the thread.

How does one look masculine?

What's "a book?"

If it was about anything other than a rentguy.... go for the unknown. New restaurant, new food, new gallery, new neighborhood, new show, etc. Rentguy.... go with tried and true.... assuming if Id seen him multiple times, he floats my boat. Even with recommendations and reviews, a new rentguy can simply be a poor match for sny given person.

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Defines social media in general.... some of the best and worst with a sprinkling of fucked-up wackos.