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I think some escorts are glad to meet for all sorts of reasons outside the bedroom. And some may be good listeners who are glad to provide a sympathetic ear. Friends are wonderful, of course, but sometimes people do feel the need to turn to someone else - maybe someone impartial, someone new, etc. 
I've told the story out here of the guy who has been my only "regular," who I also consider a friend even though I do hire him as an escort - and the time a few years ago that he made a last-minute visit to help me through a very emotional time. He was incredible to me, and helped in all sorts of ways beyond the usual. (And no, we didn't have sex that day, though he did offer a therapeutic non-sexual massage, which was awesome.) Yes, he's someone I knew previously and had already established a nice relationship with, but he still didn't need to help me the way he did. I couldn't be more grateful. 
I think that if one is looking for a session that is more a cuddle/talk/get your feelings out kind of thing, just tell your escort of choice that's what you're looking for, and if they feel they're up for that kind of meeting, why not? And certainly if you're just looking for an hour or two of wild sex to put your energy into something other than grieving, that's perfectly valid too. As long as you know that you *may* find yourself just where you left off afterwards. But that doesn't mean you can't enjoy the time fully. Carpe escort. :-)
 

Those were the days… this whole online thing just doesn’t…. Cut it. I miss the Meat Market days. When you could evaluate the goods and interact. Oh…. 😭 so sad. 

Those were the days… this whole online thing just doesn’t…. Cut it. I miss the Meat Market days. When you could evaluate the goods and interact. Oh…. 😭 so sad. 

Oh man! I remembered a night of a good 18 years ago in Berlin, I was staying at this gay hotel which had a gay (with few rentboys, but I didn't know it until I went downstairs) bar underneath, and this super hot big muscular stud came into my room and fucked the hell out of me for 80 Euros...😍

Ski trips!
First, learning to ski sucks. You’re first trip isn’t going to be much fun.
Lots of falling and frustration. Just accept that. Trust me it gets way 
better, but the first trip is rough. 
Wherever you go, make sure there’s a great spa. You’re going to need it. 

I think the best "ski spa" in the world is at the Fairmont Banff Springs:
https://www.fairmont.com/banff-springs/
Sunshine mountain there is a great place to learn to ski as well. 
Lake Louise is too hard of a mountain on which to learn. 
Unfortunately, there’s not much else to do in Banff and zero nightlife.
The spa at the St Regis in Aspen is very good.
https://www.marriott.com/hotels/travel/asexr-the-st-regis-aspen-resort/
I’m not a fan of the hotel, but there are tons of other places to stay in Aspen. 
Buttermilk mountain is the place to learn skiing there. 
Aspen nightlife is fun and there’s always something to do other than ski. 
Jackson Hole is much too hard for a beginner, town is far away and painfully
straight (even for a ski town). Telluride is boring as fuck. Vail…just don’t. 
There are no gay bars…in any ski towns…anywhere…I’ve looked. 
Ski instructors are much cheaper in Europe. The conditions are never as
good as the Rockies, but the atmosphere is unbeatable. Of course, the
problem is you have to get there and the snow will be iffy in December. 
Hope that helps. Have fun!
 

Don't make broad generalizations about 'all gay people' or you are just perpetuating the same problem but in reverse.
I came out at 20yo and didn't meet many bisexuals.  It took time and experience and meeting people to gain a greater appreciation for the full spectrum of humanity sexuality. 
We older gay and bisexual men may be frustrated with the alphabet soup of the modern sexual spectrum, but it is just a continuation to change society to accept that sexuality and gender go far beyond the binary definitions foisted on humankind by cis gender, straight white men.  Show some compassion and empathy.  The fact that you are here shows you are a thoughtful human.
Even this dialogue makes me question myself... Am I looking for a gay community or for a community of the like-minded?  I gave up Catholicism for lent one year and never went back.... A joke, but it did leave a void.  Maybe I should explore secular humanism instead of the LGBTQ community. 

I have a different take on that.  I truly believe that being straight, gay, or bisexual is a genetic trait.  I identify as gay.  I didn’t wake up one day and decide to be gay.  I think the same is true for heterosexuals and bisexuals. Bisexuals may choose which gender to sleep with at any given moment, but I think their  attraction to both sexes is as genetically based as mine to men.  
 
With that said, I agree with your comments about bisexuals being unfairly treated with derision and sometimes ridicule.  If we’re expected to accept everyone’s choice of their gender fluidity on any given day, we should accept that some people are naturally attracted to both sexes without question.

Go ahead and do it. It’ll be very satisfying. I hired while going through a break up. I even cried a little while in the act. It was great. I felt awesome. I eventually felt “hell yeah. Life is good and fcuk him (my soon to be ex)!”  

What if I started a GenX Gay Meetup Grouo? Do you think folks would be interested? I think a lot of gay Gen Xers need connections and opportunities to meet up. It would be focused on culture, art, dinners, music, dancing and night outs. Instead of being alone at a gay bar a group of Gen X gays would be a presence. 

No more?
 

@xax, the original poster - may I just say that no matter what you decide to do, know that you have all of us out here that feel terrible that you're going through a bad time. We've all been through bad breakups (I will assume) and we all know that feeling you describe. We can give you advice on whether to see an escort or not, but I think more importantly we can tell you that we have your back, and that we wish you the best. 

No wonder gay men fear getting older more then the rest of the population. I used to see older gay guys out in Weho at the clubs and feel so sad for them. They just looked so lonely and sad. So yeah, that became my biggest fear. Loss of identity and no longer being welcome in the community. Sex and sexuality is a big part of our identity and the community was built on that for better or worse. Bars, clubs, circuit parties, and many other gay stuff. Anyone who doesn't fit in will be excluded. Age is a big factor in that of course. Unless you're a celebrity or it's your house that they're using.  
I went out recently to Weho on Saturday night. In the past I remember getting so excited by the prospects of who I was going to meet and maybe hook up with.  Except this time all I could feel was that it's too late and I'm tired. Ha. Clearly I've aged out of that. 
As time goes by I've lost interest in all that juvenile stuff. Well, sometimes I'll go out to a bars once in a while. Friends and family are my community and identity now. It's still weird though since I spent such a big part of my life escaping family for the glitz and glammer. I don't even recognize the club kid that I once was. 
 
 

There no gay bars or clubs at any ski resort in Colorado. There is no gay unless you go to a gay ski week or weekend. You can Google those; they hold events at local venues so it is gay for that event. I know Vail has a gay ski week. 
 
As for Colorado, some of my favorites are those some bit of a way from Denver: Steamboat and Crested Butte are among my favorites. Both have airports near them. Both have a range of accommodations and restaurants. The great thing about  them is that they don’t get the Denver weekend crowds.
 
You can also look at organized trips. Get Out and Trek (GOAT) organized them thru Feb 2020. Then the Pandemic hit. They might organize something in 2022. 

I’ve used escorts to get over the pain of a breakup in the past and I think 
it’s helpful as long as you go into it with your eyes wide open. This hobby
is not a substitute for love. Never has been. Never will be. At best, it’s a 
a nice distraction for an hour or two. 
I wouldn’t suggest bringing all your breakup baggage to your appointment 
with the escort. You’re going there to escape that, not unpack it. If you need 
to unpack it, you should talk to friends or see a therapist.
An escort can put you on the road to recovery, but you still have to drive the bus. 

"Real straight guys" don't have sex with other guys. 
This is not a realistic pursuit. 
Oh, and "every straight guy has his price" is a load of BS; it's just something that many sad, pathetic gay men convince themselves of because they want to cling on so badly to their fantasies of fucking straight guys (for whatever reason, this seems to be an unhealthy obsession for a lot of gay men).
 

Must you bring this subject again...
you forgot to mention your desire for a blue collar guy penniless and with a baby mama.

That video of his loose butthole says otherwise. 

Yes Townhouse is still alive and doing really well. It was full on a recent Saturday evening. But… I have never seen any Hustlers or RBs there….  It is mainly a Piano Bar and hangout for the Gray Gentlemen Gang (50+).  I am 49 but look like in my 30s ( so I am told ). I feel like I have fallen into No Man’s Land. Too old for the hip happening places and too young looking for Townhouse. 🤷🏽‍♂️ 
 
All the best Trade is online.  Haven’t been to Prague for 14 years…. So don’t know. But Berlin was 4 years ago… the RB bars exist but nothing I liked… all online there too. 

Confirmed limitations - no kissing no anal 
Oh well 

Yes Townhouse is still alive and doing really well. It was full on a recent Saturday evening. But… I have never seen any Hustlers or RBs there….  It is mainly a Piano Bar and hangout for the Gray Gentlemen Gang (50+).  I am 49 but look like in my 30s ( so I am told ). I feel like I have fallen into No Man’s Land. Too old for the hip happening places and too young looking for Townhouse. 🤷🏽‍♂️ 
 
All the best Trade is online.  Haven’t been to Prague for 14 years…. So don’t know. But Berlin was 4 years ago… the RB bars exist but nothing I liked… all online there too. 

I'm sure they exist, but it's 2021, so they are NOW called "Entrepreneur Bars".....  so you might not recognize them ?  🤣

Yes us Old farts dont deserve any "Alegria".......😩

Thanks for those. Comments: Guess height and length/girth are not correlated (🤪); and guess u need to be a hot twunk to get serviced (told me he don’t do that). Oh well. 

Exchanged texts with him. Too many limitations. 😫 He’s so hot…. Oh well. 

Thanks for those. Comments: Guess height and length/girth are not correlated (🤪); and guess u need to be a hot twunk to get serviced (told me he don’t do that). Oh well.