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I hire because I'm in a sexless marriage, and this hobby allows me to stay sane and feel sexually fulfilled. It allows me to fulfill the fantasy of sleeping with the hot jock/muscled bodybuilder/hairy muscle daddy types that aren't normally interested in me. And since I've had so little experience in my life, hiring is allowing me to explore what I like sexually in a non-threatening environment (when I can quell my nerves about an encounter, that is). I'm learning as I go.

My husband and I will be on that cruise with friends of ours. Bucket list trip for us. Have you been to that part of the world before?

Sure wish Kurtis Wolfe traveled more. I would hire him in a heartbeat!

Where did you find written reviews for him? I've searched on Daddy's and cannot find any.

Definitely do the Blue Hawaiian helicopter flight. The best thing we've ever done on any vacation. You can purchase a DVD of your particular flight afterward. I will never forget flying between two rainbows. Breathtakingly beautiful!

Sure wish he'd come to Columbus. I'm sure I sound like a broken record by now, but I will keep trying. <sigh>

https://www.masseurfinder.com/members/luke462.shtml Based on the comments in the various threads here about Luke, I reached out to him a week ago. Lo and behold, he's traveling to my city this weekend (!), so I set up an appointment with him. Based on the limited communication we've had, he seems like a really nice guy. I scheduled 90 minutes with him because he's gotten such raves. So...based on the comments here, I am assuming the experience will be more than therapeutic. But we didn't discuss this, and (being the non-assertive guy I am), I didn't feel right asking him questions about mutual touch, mutual oral, etc. I was too afraid of coming off like a perv. Should I have brought it up? Are masseurs accustomed to people asking? He advertises on Masseurfinder in the "Relax" section. It's been my experience that those masseurs who advertise there offer more than strictly therapeutic touch. Just not sure how direct I should be with a masseur versus an escort? It's been intimated that Luke will go quite a bit further than just massage, but how do I find that out? Thanks for any feedback.

He is seriously delusional. And I personally find him unattractive. But there's a flavor for everyone, so good luck to him.

I've got foot worship and armpit licking covered.

I've been seeing your posts, Tarte Gogo, and thank you for the feedback. I will try your approach and see how it goes.

I agree. Saw it 4 days ago, and I am still obsessed with it. When I think about it or watch youtube clips or even listen to the Mystery of Love or Visions of Gideon, I weep. I don't think a movie has touched me so profoundly. It also has a profound message not to let life pass you by - to open yourself up, to take risks, to not squander your days. Probably the most beautiful love story I've ever seen portrayed on screen. I also have the novel but haven't read it yet. I'm glad it got 4 Oscar nominations this morning. It deserved so many more. It was robbed in directing, cinematography, and supporting actor. Both Armie Hammer and Michael Stuhlbarg deserved nominations. If Timothee Chalamet doesn't win for Actor, the Oscars have no relevance anymore.

Unfortunately, MikeyGMin, I don't have the kind of funds to be able to afford toads. I have to make sure they are princes before I commit.

I do see your point about not inundating them with messages. I guess I just don't view 5 or 6 brief back-and-forth messages that much of an intrusion. Where I disagree is about you not being the center of their universe. I think the truly great escorts would understand that, considering the steep rates they are asking you to pay, you should very much be the center of their universe for the duration of the time that they are with you, and they should be willing to put forth a minimum amount of effort to establish that your money will be well spent on them. Maybe I just don't have the amount of disposable income to spend on this hobby that most of you do. This is something I can only afford to splurge on a few times per year, and it's pretty much my only outlet for sex, so I have to do the vetting to ensure the match is going to be successful.

This is a great example of why more than one text or email is necessary. I, too, worry about sending personal details to a wrong number. So the first text is just to establish that I've reached the correct person.

Yes, most escorts have asked me to text, and on those occasions where I initially reach out via email on RM, they have unanimously asked me to switch to text. I abhor texting, but I do it because it seems like the only way most are willing to correspond. Texting takes far more time than emailing or simply picking up the phone to call them, so I don't get it, but I guess that's the way of the world these days.

I didn't mean to violate any rules, but in this case, I thought my query did appeal to two different audiences. Did you have any advice to offer about my actual question?

(I recently posted this in The Deli, but thought it was appropriate to post here, too, so I could solicit advice from escorts and get their perspective.) I'm looking for some honest, constructive feedback to help me in this area. In a past thread I was outspoken in my belief that it's better to correspond back and forth first with an escort to get a feel for whether we are compatible before actually setting up an appointment. Many people told me that was the wrong approach and that it was better to set up an appointment and then work out the particulars. Maybe escorts prefer this approach because the reasoning is that clients are less likely to cancel if an appointment is already on the books? Here's the thing. I'm not looking to hire purely for a physical bang and then out the door. Don't get me wrong. The sex is important to me, but what I am primarily looking for is a boyfriend experience that leads to the sex. I want an honest, genuine connection, deep kissing, affection. It's virtually impossible to determine from an ad alone if the escort can deliver this. To know for certain requires a willingness to correspond and even talk briefly on the phone. I need some help with this, though, because lately I have had rotten luck both ways. I have gotten blocked twice by escorts now in the past three weeks. In the first scenario, I tried it my way. I contacted the escort, told him I was interested in his profile and wanted to talk about what I was looking for to see if we'd be compatible. Things were going along okay (I thought) for about 5-6 brief text messages back and forth. I was ready to take it to the next step, so I asked if he'd be willing to talk to me on the phone for a couple minutes so I could elaborate on the type of meeting I was looking for. Silence. After a day or two went by with no response, I found I'd been blocked. So I decided to try it the other way. I contacted an escort to let him know I liked his profile and offered a date and time to meet along with desired length of session (which was a guess on my part because I had no idea if there was any chemistry between us). He agreed to the time. He didn't ask me about what I wanted out of the session, what my interests or desires were...nothing. So I brought it up. We texted back and forth three times, and then he blocked me. To say I am frustrated is an understatement. Neither approach seems to be working. Many guys on here seem to handle booking with ease and effortlessness. So how detailed are you when you initially contact an escort? Is it not expected that the escort will take the lead in determining what you want to do during a session? It just seems like most escorts don't want to take even the littlest amount of time to find out anything about you, which seems wrong considering the amount of money they are being paid for their time. Truly puzzled, so any help is welcome. I am open to new ideas of how to do this. Thanks.

I'm looking for some honest, constructive feedback to help me in this area. In a past thread I was outspoken in my belief that it's better to correspond back and forth first with an escort to get a feel for whether we are compatible before actually setting up an appointment. Many people told me that was the wrong approach and that it was better to set up an appointment and then work out the particulars. Maybe escorts prefer this approach because the reasoning is that clients are less likely to cancel if an appointment is already on the books? Here's the thing. I'm not looking to hire purely for a physical bang and then out the door. Don't get me wrong. The sex is important to me, but what I am primarily looking for is a boyfriend experience that leads to the sex. I want an honest, genuine connection, deep kissing, affection. It's virtually impossible to determine from an ad alone if the escort can deliver this. To know for certain requires a willingness to correspond and even talk briefly on the phone. I need some help with this, though, because lately I have had rotten luck both ways. I have gotten blocked twice by escorts now in the past three weeks. In the first scenario, I tried it my way. I contacted the escort, told him I was interested in his profile and wanted to talk about what I was looking for to see if we'd be compatible. Things were going along okay (I thought) for about 5-6 brief text messages back and forth. I was ready to take it to the next step, so I asked if he'd be willing to talk to me on the phone for a couple minutes so I could elaborate on the type of meeting I was looking for. Silence. After a day or two went by with no response, I found I'd been blocked. So I decided to try it the other way. I contacted an escort to let him know I liked his profile and offered a date and time to meet along with desired length of session (which was a guess on my part because I had no idea if there was any chemistry between us). He agreed to the time. He didn't ask me about what I wanted out of the session, what my interests or desires were...nothing. So I brought it up. We texted back and forth three times, and then he blocked me. To say I am frustrated is an understatement. Neither approach seems to be working. Many guys on here seem to handle booking with ease and effortlessness. So how detailed are you when you initially contact an escort? Is it not expected that the escort will take the lead in determining what you want to do during a session? It just seems like most escorts don't want to take even the littlest amount of time to find out anything about you, which seems wrong considering the amount of money they are being paid for their time. Truly puzzled, so any help is welcome. I am open to new ideas of how to do this. Thanks.

I'm with you! Nothing is more off putting than an ad with misspellings, poor grammar, and incorrect or lack of punctuation. For me, those errors tell me something about the escort's personality, mindset, and attention to detail. If they care enough about crafting a legible ad, chances are good they will care enough to give the client a good experience.

That's exactly the vibe I was getting, and I followed my instinct and decided to pass. Sounds like I dodged a bullet. A shame because he really is a hot guy.

Thanks, Robster. If my budget can allow, I will try to make it this year. Have a bucket list trip to Australia and New Zealand coming up, though, so I may need to plan on attending next year instead.

Thanks, Beancounter. Yeah, I checked out the other threads, but they didn't yield much. I will check out his twitter.

https://rentmen.eu/AsherDevinXXX Any feedback on this guy? He's super hot, but I can't find any feedback or reviews on him. I don't like to hire blind. Hoping someone can tell me something about him.

EVdude, have you seen Asher Devin before? He's advertising as an escort on RM and is back in Columbus for a few days, but I can't seem to find any reviews on him. I'm really horny but trying to make rational decisions and not decisions governed by my small head.

Epigonos, your version of deviled eggs sounds delicious! I also use Dijon mustard, regular mustard, mayo, a sprinkle of sugar, and a heavy dollop of sweet pickle relish, and paprika to garnish.