youngboldone

Epigonos, my husband detests deviled eggs the same way you do. Anytime I prepare them for a potluck, he says the house reeks. I commend you for preparing so many when you don't enjoy them yourself. It's a lot of work (the peeling alone!).

Thanks for all the thoughtful replies. Having never attended, I don't know the meaning behind the deviled eggs comments (obviously an inside joke), however deviled eggs are one of my favorite foods, so that alone has me intrigued. I am shy around people I don't know, and I am a sentimental softy. I have strong opinions about things, yet I am the most non-assertive person you'll ever meet (not a great combination I know). So I recognize that I need to work on that assertiveness and develop a thicker skin at times. And I'm sure I've said things here that have probably offended others. Knowing what it's like to be on the receiving end, I am profoundly sorry if my words have ever emotionally harmed others. A lot of my reticence about attending stems from the fact that, even at 44, I am not a sexually confident person. Therefore, the thought of being in this kind of setting truly terrifies me. It brings back lots of unpleasant memories of being the wallflower at the bars/clubs that no one approached or talked to. But I don't want to limit myself on experiencing life, and these responses have me thinking I'd like to attend to see what it's like. The question now is whether my budget will allow that for 2018, also recognizing that the window of opportunity for getting a room is likely closing, if it already hasn't. I am taking a bucket list trip to Australia and New Zealand in February, so it may not be in the cards this year. Need to do some serious number crunching to see if I can make it happen.

When I first heard about this gathering a while back, I was intrigued and wanting to attend. I've also never been to PS and always wanted to visit. But since dipping my toe into the hiring waters last year and becoming more active on this forum, I have not received, shall we say, a warm welcome by many people. Some people have been downright nasty and condescending, and some have even gone so far to private message me with their nastiness. Keyboard courage I guess. Anyway, I was severely bullied in school and am still getting over the damage of that at 44. I don't need to put myself through more of that in person. There are a few really nice people here, which is why I stay and continue to post, but for the most part, this forum seems like a very exclusive club where, unless you're a seasoned, uninhibited, sex expert, you're not really welcome. Snark and sarcasm have their place, but they can be misinterpreted when you don't truly know who it is you're talking to. I prefer more genuine interaction. Based on the comments in this thread, it doesn't seem like that would be the vibe at this event. Hope everyone else attending has fun, though.

Jake Deckard - he will rock your world!

Would you mind PM'ing me after you meet? Based on what I've read about Victor as well as his thoughtful contributions to the forum, I'm pretty sure you're in for an amazing time. Enjoy, and have fun!

Trent, I do hope you will let us know how it goes for you. I'm hoping you have an amazing first experience. Is the guy you've selected Victor Powers?

Have been in contact with him a handful of times when he was in Cincinnati. Was looking to hire him as an escort because he's a damn hot daddy, but I've never followed through. He has always seemed "off" in communications. Every time, he has advertised for Columbus, but when I contact him he says he's actually in Cinci and sounds like it's a chore for him to come to Columbus. On all occasions, he has tried to get me to pay for at least half his hotel, and he even once made the comment, "Well, where should I stay in Columbus? Make sure it's a cheap hotel." I took a pass. I wasn't getting the vibe he would be focused on me as a client at all, especially since his rates were on the steep end.

Yes, I did, nycman. But I'm glad you're getting so much pleasure at my misery. You are a cruel human being.

I hope you have a great first experience no matter who you choose. My first time wasn't so great, and upon reflection I realize that it was partly due to me. So, lessons learned: communicate, communicate, communicate! Be very clear and explicit about your expectations for the session up front, and if something isn't happening during the session that you want to happen, speak up and ask. And above all, please play safe.

Why outcall with Luke instead of incall? Feel free to PM me. Thanks.

I am wondering whether they should be. I welcome discussion. Personally, I think it's a moral gray area.

GregM, I will also add that I recently kept an appointment with an escort who did reveal to me his poz status after I made an appointment with him. I went back and forth on that decision, but in the end, I knew it wasn't fair to the escort to back out on a standing appointment. I intended to pay him the full fee even if all we did was sit and talk for the two hours. He told me he was undetectable. Was he telling the truth? I don't know, but I figured if he was genuine and honest enough to tell me about his poz status in the first place, chances were pretty good he wasn't going to lie about that. I had loads of fear, but I went, and we had a wonderful time. We did everything but anal. I didn't feel comfortable doing that even with a condom. I didn't want to take the risk. To this day, I'm afraid I got infected from giving oral. Even though I know, statistically and factually speaking, the odds of contracting from precum are very low, there's still a nagging "What if?" in the back of my brain. When you are raised in a super strict religious household with a mother whose first response to your coming out was to cry and exclaim, "But you're going to die of AIDS!"....that tends to stick with you.

I didn't say that I assumed all clients are HIV negative, but again, the inverse holds true: if a client knows that they are poz, I believe they have a moral imperative to inform anyone they're considering having sex with so the other person can make an informed decision. As to the second part of your sentence, why WOULDN'T a client be concerned about an escort's HIV status? If you aren't interested in knowing that, then I would say you need to educate yourself. If everyone were more careful and cautious, the disease wouldn't still be spreading. And yes, I read several of the links. And yes, I feel more informed. And yes, the fear is still there. There will always be some fear surrounding this issue. After all, it's your life at stake. If you aren't at least a little fearful, I would say that's just willful ignorance.

And some to Columbus as well!

This may be taking the conversation in a tangential direction, but since the topic has been alluded to, it's gotten me thinking. I know that it's incumbent upon the client or really anyone going in to any sexual encounter to assume that your partner is HIV + and then act accordingly. However, it's one thing to assume someone else is poz and another thing entirely to know for a fact that they are before you consider engaging in sexual activity with them. So, what are the ethics involved on the escort side if the escort knows for a fact that they are poz? I would hope that, at the very least, they are advertising safe only and sticking to only safe sex with clients, and I feel they should also be disclosing this information to the client so that he can make an informed decision whether to meet. Part of me feels, however, (and I realize some on here are going to take offense to this but save your mean, vicious, retorts because this is my opinion and I don't care) escorts who know they are poz probably should not even be in this business. Granted, if you hook up with someone via Grindr, Scruff, Growlr, or in a bar, you don't know their status, but at least in those scenarios they aren't charging you money for an act that could potentially infect you with a fatal disease.

That's the kind of side effect I could live with!

My "massage" with MMB was awful. Complete waste of time and money.

In short, he was a huge waste of time.

I did go to see him. Wouldn't repeat. PM me if you want details.

Where did you guys find reviews other than what's on RM for CraigXXX? I tried searching Daddy's but found nothing.

I understand you completely. Am in a sexless marriage and have been given permission to open up the relationship and get my needs met elsewhere. I'm not rich, so I initially tried Grindr, Scruff, and Growlr. Absolutely NO luck on either Grindr or Scruff. I'm met some nice people on Growlr, but all they seem to want to do is talk. There's one guy in particular - figured out we actually only live about 3 miles apart. His situation is the same as mine: married to a guy, but they have an open relationship. He has initiated late night sex chatting numerous times, and then after he gets off, I don't hear from him for 4 or 5 days. Rinse and repeat. I finally asked him if he wanted to meet and actually have sex in person rather than over the phone. I've gotten a range of excuses. I've hired three times, and only one of those times has been what I'd call a home run. The other two were very lackluster. Ironically, the lackluster guys got me to cum, but the session I had the best time in, I didn't cum. Figure that one out. So hiring isn't foolproof, but the odds are certainly better I'll have a good time versus trying to woo one of these guys on an app to actually meet. I think, contrary to popular belief, technology has actually made hooking up MUCH more difficult!

KennF, if you have actual statistics and scientific evidence you'd like to share that will reassure me that having protected sex with an HIV+ person is no risk, I'm happy to receive that information with an open mind. Otherwise, please stop vilifying me. I am in no way stigmatizing those who are poz. In face, in spite of my fear, I went ahead with the appointment I scheduled with the escort. I even wrote him a glowing review afterward. I venture to guess not many others would have done that. So, what would you have rather I'd done to be more fair to the escort? Would canceling the appointment have been fair to him? Was I supposed to do anal with him just to show him I have no fear? Yes, I do have fear surrounding this issue, and that healthy fear has kept me alive and HIV free for 44 years. Please stop attacking someone who's just trying to find his way in a very scary world. You're not helping.

Okay, guys. Hopefully I'm not walking into landmine territory here, but I would like some solid advice. In the past year I have seen three escorts and one erotic masseur. In all cases, the possibility for anal intercourse presented itself. In the case of the masseur, it was with my porn star idol. I was only expecting an erotic massage and didn't think things would go into escort territory, but they did. I, unfortunately and to my eternal regret, was not equipped with a condom. The porn star didn't have one either. He wanted me to top him and told me "it was cool because he was on Prep, so no worries". Well, I'm not on Prep. I've never felt more conflicted in my life. For so many years, I had fantasized about being with this guy, and now here he was offering himself to me. I entered him with maybe 2-3 thrusts before I freaked, pulled out, and said I couldn't do it without a condom. In my other 3 encounters with escorts, I did not engage in anal with one because the connection didn't feel right, didn't with another because I knew going in that he was HIV+ and couldn't relax enough to really trust that it would be safe with a condom, and with the third, I bottomed for him (losing my virginity in the process), and he did wear a condom. Forgive my rambling, but I think what I'm trying to get at is should I get on Prep so that I will feel 100% protected going into future encounters? I would still use condoms even if I were on Prep, so that would be two layers of protection, correct? I'm worried about the side effects and long-term consequences of being on Prep. And yet, I want to be able to enjoy sex without being crippled by the worry surrounding it that has plagued me all my life. I want to be able to relax. Any suggestions?

Thanks, escortrod. Believe me, it wasn't easy to have that conversation. But after 11 years of no sex, only masturbating, and going the heteronormative/suppression route, I knew something had to change. I've always had a fairly healthy libido, but the intensity of what I'm feeling now in my early 40s has really taken me by surprise. I realize we don't live forever, and I want to experience lots of sex before I die.