oldNbusted

Perhaps you were updated to Firefox 69 today...

Baby Fed might just beat FedEx tonight...

Yeah, it's one thing for ads to expire, that happens all the time, but if you know the URL, you can still view the ad. But my understanding is the guy actually has to push a button for the ad to be hidden as you describe. Very few people seem to do that, so it's curious to hear of multiple people doing it in the same time frame.

If a pic helps jog any memories.. http://www.daddysreviews.com/review/haze_dc

Maybe there should be a forum rule that you have to take the plunge before you can bump your own thread for the 4th time. :cool:

I'm sure the people who fired him will just say he didn't pray hard enough...

I look forward to this every year, to see how things that seemed to have happened yesterday are now considered to be a generation ago. Background at https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mindset_List The new list is at The Mindset List: Class of 2023 Edition

Later home media editions of the film have a commentary track titled "The Greatest Movie Ever Made" the hilarious premise of which is the film was intended as a serious work. Sadly, to be able to appreciate the commentary fully, you do have to watch the movie, er, 'straight', as it were. Then you can watch again with the commentary. I promise you, it is worth it. But only if you are a philistine. There is a more recent school of thought that Showgirls is a satire. The director, Paul Verhoeven, has a history of satirical films that many people took seriously, such as the original Robocop (1987) and the film adaptation of Robert Heinlein's novel Starship Troopers (1997) (which would be fitting since the book also has a history of being massively misunderstood.) Maybe I should start a thread in the Movie subforum...

I love Ultramarine...the band. https://ultramarine.uk.com Every Man and Woman is a Star is highly recommended... https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJrp9xw-ls3jpZWv4p3pAl1p31kSGkF83

The greatest work of art of the 20th century!

I'm not so worried about the guys I've met, at worst they have seemed a little careless, so I'm mostly worried some third party is going to get my info off their phone or computer.

There have been several seasons so it's mostly repeats.

Candids are the worst, here is Matthew in 2010: As for the topic, when it comes to intimate apparel, comfort rules.

After being told he needed a condom, the guy said said he didn't need a condom. I am puzzled that anyone would find that respectful, I would have (and have) walked away at that point. And then the gratuitous parting shot. This is one of those situations that looks worse the more closely you examine it, not better.

My reading of the OP implies the guy attempted penetration without a condom without consent. Do you read it differently? Regardless, once the OP said no penetration without a condom, that should have been the end of that conversation. Anything else is disrespecting the autonomy of others. Saying “please be responsible to the community and get on prep” is trying to guilt someone into doing something that is a strictly personal choice and is emotional blackmail. Frankly, it was none of this guy's business if the OP was on PrEP or not. However, if it was going to be an issue for him, he was free to bring it up beforehand, like an adult. The guy comes across as feeling he is entitled to bareback sex because he is on PrEP. That is grotesque to me.

I cannot even imagine how working guys meet with total strangers without appearing to be on edge. So I can hardly blame anyone for taking precautions. I can say this, I would be more comfortable with a gun than a video camera (this has happened to me).

"PrEP" and the "community" are red herrings, the only question is what codswallop he would have unleashed if the OP was on PrEP and had still insisted on condom use. The guy is just trying to emotionally blackmail someone into bareback sex. No means no, this guy can fuck off.

I think you can get this on a button, to serve as fair warning. I think she should have said something a lot sooner. When I realize someone is like this, so it's not just a bad spell for them, I usually smile and say "You're a bit of a whiner, aren't you?" and chuckle a bit so it doesn't come across as me being mean but the point gets made. Most people handle that fine. It's the rare special person who says "Why yes, I am!" and doesn't moderate themselves.

Didn't get it on either...

Team Confirm.

The question in the subject arises from the experience in the OP, so I'm gonna address them separately. When I started out, reading stories here, I realized I needed to establish an answer to this question, so I didn't get trapped in a cycle of trying to make a decision on the fly, for each situation. For people I've not yet met, I decided to go with zero times. What I mean by that is when I send someone a message, that is the end of it for me unless I hear back. If I never hear from them, I don't give any thought to why that might be, as that is pointless, and I do not reach out to them again. I would extend this to cancellations. Their reasons why do not matter. I've never had anyone cancel or attempt to reschedule, but I wouldn't even respond. Having said that, if they had the wits to reach out to me again later, I would be happy to continue trying to work out a meeting. I will say no one I hadn't previously met has ever reached out to me later. It's only happened once that a guy I had previously met, who then later declined to set a meeting with me, then even later reached out to me again, which I regarded as completely acceptable. You present as a considerate and intelligent person, certainly more than I am, so I'm pretty sure you didn't do anything wrong here, so I believe you should consider your experiences just as valid as anyone else here and go ahead and share who it is. With the preface that it doesn't matter why, I'm going to apparently be the contrarian and say this guy doesn't want to meet you. It seems likely that he is also aware of the forum, and so might have a policy of not explicitly rejecting anyone because it's a small world. For most people, two, maybe three cancellations, and they would drop it and move on, and not realize they had been turned down. I believe if you were to send the message you propose, the guy is going to say to himself finally! Let me ask you a question and it's not intended to embarrass, perhaps it's more a credit to you being a thoughtful person, but about how many total cancellations/reschedules are we talking here? It certainly sounds like you've alredy gone above and beyond on being persistent. Personally, if I got even a second cancellation from someone I had a good meeting history with, I would simply say to them, hey, this has happened a couple of times now, so the ball is in your court, it is now up to you if we meet again. No way I would bother to say this to a guy I never met, I would just drop it and move on.

Anybody we know?

Since I don't like about 9 out of 10 people, I can't imagine doing this...

It matters to me in that I do not like smooth sheets at all. I used to have a set of oxford cloth sheets, I wish I could find some from a reputable brand, they were the best. Currently LL Bean chamois flannel in the winter and linen in the summer. As for a sleeping platform, the firmer the better. One time I moved and slept on the floor on some of that padding meant to put under a camping tent, it was great, soft beds make my back hurt.