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Wow....
 
Encouraging people to learn CPR and to call 911 when they're worried....is a “trash post”?
 
Hope you enjoy the delusion. It never ends pretty.

There have been a few times I've spent an entire weekend in a bathhouse... ?

You might want to look for someone who has over ten years massage experience with dozens of positive reviews and also has two decades of escort experience with well over 100 positive reviews. Now, where could you find such a man?????

I know i will prolly get ridiculed for making this statement so before i do let me qualify it first by saying There are so many ways of doing a session. Whether it is an escort vs. masseur keep in mind that you have every right to get exactly what you desire and should definitely “shop” around before making a decision. Having said that just remember that this shyt aint rocket science and sometimes you may not even know what you TRULY like or want until u have experienced it for the first time and then all of a sudden, something clicks and ur saying to yourself, “hey...i really dig that and wanna try that again!”
So here goes my very watered and oversimplified analogy of the difference between an Escort vs. Masseur ...
 
With an Escort - the client controls the session / with a Masseur- the client gives up control of the session to the masseur .
 
Now before some of you get ur “panties” all in a bunch on this , (lol) ? hear me out .
When i first started doing massage 10 years ago , i was so green . I was scared i would make a mistake . I kept trying to figure out what the client wanted . And after i had seen a number of clients it became apparent to me these 3 things:
 
1. The client wants to let go and relax and not think about much in a massage . They want you to give their body the attention it needs and deserves without having to be a director. They seldom want chit chat during that period . Just make them feel good
 
2. The massage client is quite often in a relationship or situation where they are neglected physically. ie- married to female , stagnant boyfriend, or maybe they have a job that is strenuous or where they are constantly having to make important stressful decisions all day and for the duration of the session they just want to let go~feel pampered and be self indulgent on a small quiet scale.
 
3. Sexual arousal is okay but is not paramount & often “my” clients are more interested in a little frottage or in some cases not even that. And it’s okay ? as long as they leave feeling better mentally and physically...mission accomplished. A release at the end doesn’t really even amount to what i would define as sex. Thats also a very physical way of releasing tension. So it does complete a very good sensual massage in a positive way .
 
Now this is strictly my own views and i know i am not nor do i pretend 2 B an expert in all things “massage” but i have been doin it a long time and i have asked many questions thru the years.
 
At one point i did post an ad on Rentmen. And this is how i came to my version of the differences between the two .
Practically EVERY client that contacted me from Rentmen had specific requests and interests and what they expected out of a session. And that is OK too !
But the client is still in control .
 
Now some will say, “Hey wait a minute, I want to be a sub and I’m looking for somebody to dominate me and tell me what to do!” And you might be thinking well the client is giving up control of the session in that scenario!!
Not so ... The client is still determining what he wants/gets from the escort. And if that client goes into the session and mrEscort X doesn’t perform in exactly that manner, guess what ? The client most likely will end the session early . Still the client is in control .
That’s not to say that a client wouldn’t walk out of a bad massage early also. But the only time I’ve ever had that happen is when a client came to me for a massage mistakingly thinking that I was an escort posing as a masseur . Anyways i dont give bad massages !!
Also, I do not advertise anymore on Rentmen so that clients don’t see me playing different roles and getting confused about the services that I offer.
I know some guys do both, and I am not in anyway suggesting that there is any thing wrong with that. But I prefer for myself the energy exchange between me and the client through the healing power of a massage.
I connect better in that situation. And I like to stay in control.
What can I say? I guess I’m a control freak. ??‍♂️
 
Now, have my massages sometimes resulted in some hot intense sex? Yes of course . But again I like when things unfold naturally regarding sexual contact. I’m not the kind of person that makes a laundry list of requirements prior to sex.
 
I also found out about myself very quickly after I first started doing massage, that I really enjoy healing another person’s body thru touch!!
 
When I started doing massage It was only by accident because I had lost (like so many others) my job when Bush Left office and I couldn’t find work. My self-esteem was very low from constant rejection for employment.
My friend who was already doing massage brought me into it . And Once I started doing massage, I felt better about myself because I was helping others feel better too.
 
Since that time I have massaged I think I Estimated about 5000 or more & I never looked back .
Personally, I’ve hired both. Escorts and Masseurs.
They both bring something of interest to me to the table. But when I make those purchases, I shop around to get exactly what I want. And so should you.
Don’t get too upset if it takes a few tries. Chalk it up as a learning experience.
I have found that some of the most memorable experiences I’ve had were completely by accident and when I tossed all my Pre-requisites to the wind & took a leap of faith.
With that i say to you ...Peace and happy hunting !!! ✌️?

My relatively rural location (compared to many of you) probably plays a role in my ability to find skilled Masseurs who provide some nice extras — including extended Prostate massaging/draining, oral (mutual) and me being topped.
 
My current regular go to Masseus offer ample fun extras and I am left relaxed and drained. FYI, for a successful massage, I need to ejaculate at the end. A good massage moves a lot of energy around and that swirling energy needs to exit through the root chakra,
 
Anyway, I have come to know my regulars and we talk in general terms about both our experiences as client & provider. Without fail, they indicate that I receive the senual/erotic/sexual extras BECAUSE I really appreciate and come for the massage they offer - I am not just there like some (many) to hurry through that or skip that for sex. They are not impressed with those who disrespect them this way.
 
I am older:), carrying some extra pounds and my body exhibits the ravages of the decades. Add to that, shining eyes, a great smile, compassionate personality and my providers take pleasure in using their skills to help me feel the best possible.
 
It has become a mutual connection and while sexual components are involved they are more aspects of energy flow. They look foward to our monthly sessions (I see my three regulars monthly) They take professional satifaction in the role they play in my body maintenance,
 
So, your mind set is important as is finding a skilled masseur who knows the body systems,
 
That said, I have also treated myself to Escorts when I travel. Those sessions are understood to be SEX - HOT, Great, Draining sex! Even here, one of the top 50 ranked providers used some light massage as we started to get me relaxed — In this memorable session, massage was used for a different result.
 
The key is RESPECT, whether with a Masseur or an Escort. RESPECT! RESPECT! RESPECT! - Follow this guideline and you will probably receive the best and the most that the provider has to give.

I go to Living Fresh. If Fan is available, she does a great job. They have the full setup, massage chairs and all. Bonus is you get to watch the masseurs and clients going to and from their sessions.

Over the years I have found the best solution, for me, to be a well trained Masseur who will deliver an excellent massage along with oral & anal. 90 minutes has ranged from $100 - $160.

masseur = man
masseuse = woman

Check out Allen Silver. There was a recent thread on him. He will be in NYC for ten days in May.
Google him, and you will find his web site. Highly recommended by many!

I get your frustration, @MidwestMarc, but you might consider editing your profile to eliminate the mention of massage. I read profiles as a menu of possibilities, but also a reflection of the provider's intentions. There are a number of actual masseurs who advertise on rent.men, and offer an erotic massage session as an option. OTOH, there are many "masseurs" on masseurfinder, rentmasseur, etc. who have very limited massage skills, but provide more freeform encounters.

Oy veh!

It important to remember 35 million people have died from AIDS and that 70 million have been infected.
 
Except abstinence, it is impossible to be 100% safe. In 2018 it was estimated that 380,000 people around the world were regularPrEP users, 59% of that group are in the US. Of the 380,000 only 7 have been infected with HIV.
 
7/380,000 not perfect...but still amazing!

Regular blood tests - at least for STIs - are part of the protocol, so this is suspicious why? 
Why is it not possible public health agencies consider it a boon to public health and part of their effort to stop the spread of HIV? If you don't want to take it, don't.

No, don't name beneficiaries as executors. Even if it's allowed, it's a bad idea.
 
It's not uncommon for lawyers to be executors if you don't have relatives who are contemporaries or younger.

I don't personally care about price, this is what I'm looking for. Only prompting from the client (me) being them reading the situation and 'taking charge.'
 
Also, for the inexperienced (me), massage is gateway intimate contact. If I knew how to 'shop' better or read advertisements better, this would make my life easier.
 
edit: I'd rather overpay for a massage then pay for a massage then be presented with a "pay me X for Y" -- I'd rather have my expensive massage fee cover it up front.

I don't personally care about price, this is what I'm looking for. Only prompting from the client (me) being them reading the situation and 'taking charge.'
 
Also, for the inexperienced (me), massage is gateway intimate contact. If I knew how to 'shop' better or read advertisements better, this would make my life easier.
 
edit: I'd rather overpay for a massage then pay for a massage then be presented with a "pay me X for Y" -- I'd rather have my expensive massage fee cover it up front.

Lake Michigan was covered with a blanket of ice shards this week as the spring thaw in the Midwest shattered the frozen water into a million pieces.
 
Captivating images of the shards were taken on Tuesday as the Coast Guard warned locals to be careful as the ice-covered lake began to break apart, according to MLive.com.
 
“No ice is safe ice especially this time of year,” Coast Guard chief Grant Heffner told the site.
 
“The ice is certainly deteriorating and breaking up.”
 
The shattered formation was caused by water moving underneath the ice and causing it to float in unique patterns.
 
The temperature in Lake Michigan reached 23 degrees below zero during the frigid winter. A total of 56 percent of it had been frozen.
 

 

 

 

You're always going to receive requests for (cheaper) massage appointments, regardless of where they saw your listing, especially if you mention massage in your ad, and even if you don't.
 
If you plan to escort for years then one solution is to spend some time and money training in massage. After that, list yourself on massage sites, and give massages (at the lower rate). 1. It's extra money. 2. It ultimately increases your escort business. How? If the client both likes you and wants more of you he'll hire you for the escorting appointments going forward. If he's satisfied with the massage, well you have a new massage client and that's good too.

I get your frustration, @MidwestMarc, but you might consider editing your profile to eliminate the mention of massage. I read profiles as a menu of possibilities, but also a reflection of the provider's intentions. There are a number of actual masseurs who advertise on rent.men, and offer an erotic massage session as an option. OTOH, there are many "masseurs" on masseurfinder, rentmasseur, etc. who have very limited massage skills, but provide more freeform encounters.

I get your frustration, @MidwestMarc, but you might consider editing your profile to eliminate the mention of massage. I read profiles as a menu of possibilities, but also a reflection of the provider's intentions. There are a number of actual masseurs who advertise on rent.men, and offer an erotic massage session as an option. OTOH, there are many "masseurs" on masseurfinder, rentmasseur, etc. who have very limited massage skills, but provide more freeform encounters.

My experience is that guys asking for a massage are usually just looking to pay less for an escort.
 
Kevin Slater

Or, BnaC, people WANT to fuck Democrats, Republicans not so much

This is a sensitive topic and a tricky question to answer because, well: America. Racial bias. Racism.
 
Science shows, different nationalities smell different. Period. Our ancestors didn’t all come from the same place. Bacteria distribution in the body varies per region.
 
Consider things such as diet, genes, and the chemicals produced by the skin or the bacteria that lives on the skin of someone with melatonin in contrast to someone who has very little melatonin. Not the same.
 
To answer your question. I don’t think anyone has a “weird” smell, it is just not my smell. I do not think it is okay to say “all [insert race] people smell like..”
 
However, different nationalities have different sweat glands, which affects intensity of odor and volume of sweat. Google eccrine and apocrine sweat glands and who they are more common in. I know what most people are trying to communicate when they say a race smells a certain way, as there are similarities in SWEAT odor per ones race. (ANYONE who played sports in high school knows this). But people are ignorant and don’t take the things aforementioned into consideration..
 
..so it just comes out as “(insert race) people stink.”

I picked up or got picked up by guys on the street when I was in my late teens and early 20s in the late 70s. Once I walked by a guy sitting on the steps in front of his apartment building. We made eye contact, smiled, he asked if I wanted to come in, and in a couple of minutes we were in his bed. Those were the days!
 
Harmless flirtation or a creepy vibe? Only the OP knows how he experienced it. How’d he know the OP was gay? Gaydar—or not caring.
 
If you’re uncomfortable in a situation, get out of it! Doesn’t matter how it would have been experienced by someone else, or how someone else thinks he would have experienced based on a description.
 
I’m extremely comfortable in a bath house. My husband (who has a lot of anxiety issues) is scared to death to go into one. To each his own.

Well some of you know but probably most do not. I have spent the better part of 2018 writing a book with a professional ghostwriter.
Its a big deal for me personally. I have been wanting to tell this story for a long time.
Due to my lack of education and skill level a professional was desperately needed. She is wonderful and has been an incredible help to me this past year.
My book chronicles my very open life through drug addiction homelessness and my healing.
Yes I talk in great deal about my work as an escort. It is probably one of the most powerful parts of my life.
Escorting has been life affirming and with my own personal set of challenges and victories this work has inspired me greatly.
Now that I have gotten the content down. I need to shop it to publishers.
I have joined an agency crowd source platform called "publishizer" and have rolled out a pre-sale launch
the way it works is if I can pre-sale over 500 books this agency will pitch my story to the big traditional publishing houses.
I only have 30 days to get 500 copies pre-sold!!! YIKES!!!
There are lots of ways to get a book deal but very limited for sex workers.
Yes I could self publish however I am compelled to go after a larger distribution to get sex work stories into more main stream audiences.
I could really use your help.
Every copy bought will earn you an entry into my drawing for a $500 gift card from visa.
I want to use some of my marketing budget to make it fun for those supporting me on this up hill road so I am giving away 500 bucks.
anyway !!
You can buy your copy here: https://publishizer.com/every-grain-of-sand/
Print and distribution date will depend on the contract I get most likely 1st week of April.
You can see lots preview videos land many other previews on my book launch page Here:
https://dpwichman.com/
Thank you so very much for your help!
You guys have always been so supportive of me.
Love David-SF
 
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