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Inspired by an exchange with a forum member, I decided to post this here to get some input from the members of this forum as to the general feasibility and sanity of this fetish/idea. I just wanted an affectionate encounter with an overnight in which we began with a dinner and I taught him how to waltz (both lead and be led). Realistically speaking, though, I don't know if:
1) the man in question would have the patience
2) if he would be good enough fast enough to viennese waltz properly to the sound of Lanner's Die Schönbrunner.
Yes, I know I sound like I am a bowl of sugared whipped cream and vanilla syrup. And yes, I am saying that deep down we all would like to feel like a Disney princess at least once.
How many of the members here (both providers and others) know the viennese waltz? Just out of curiosity.

Thanksgiving tomorrow and many/most of us will be gathering with Friends and Family.
 
KNOW that many diseases are invisible and the odds favor your meeting someone you haven’t seen since last Thanksgiving who is suffering from an INVISIBLE DISEASE! The list is long and goes way beyond RA.
 
SO, turn off the judgmental switch! Relax, have more drinks or wine IF YOU ARE ABLE, remembering many can not! It is time for us all to just be, let those around us be, help if asked and LOVE.
 
HAVE a great Thanksgiving everyone!

I learnt it eons ago, probably remember enough to make my way round the floor.
 
I really enjoy slow-dancing with a male partner. I don't care much about which kind of dance, but one in which we make "a vertical expression of a horizontal desire", as the old-time chaperones used to say. Dancing cheek-to-cheek, etc. Very dreamy if I have the younger man dressed in flimsy lingerie, maybe iwth heels, at the same time--but only a masculine lad will do for me!

I have met him. Happy to DM

Reading this thread makes me extremely jealous of our dear American friends Is there any chance an event like this can be (or is) organised in the Med somewhere in Israel, Turkey (ok this one is a reach as of now), Greece, Cyprus, or Malta?

Hi everyone, thank you so much for your replies I also have done some reading about it and it seems to have a bit to do with self esteem as well, which I think is my biggest problem, that even though I am just in my late twenties and have a normal bmi (most of the time). The problem is that I am pretty much textbook skinnyfat (apart from cleanliness I have really let go of my body), terribly shy, socially awkward and nerdy. That may have helped me into a comfortable career path that allows me the privilege of hiring providers every once in a while but does not help me at all in the realm of Casanova and sex positivity. Given this and the comments here on the thread maybe a good way going forward would be to focus on providers (and people in general) with outgoing warm personalities who are well able to entertain post-coitus and appointments with extended hours, to level out these bumps...

Thank you so much for your kind words. I am rather flattered. Yes, I agree. I really need to take greater care of myself (both mentally and physically) and not let work swallow me whole and suck the life out of me. These past few hours I've just been ranting here more than in all of my previous membership years combined. The days leading up to an important deadline on monday were particularly bad! But again thank you so much, Mr. BnaC Your kind words have made my day

Thank you so much for your kind words. I am rather flattered. Yes, I agree. I really need to take greater care of myself (both mentally and physically) and not let work swallow me whole and suck the life out of me. These past few hours I've just been ranting here more than in all of my previous membership years combined. The days leading up to an important deadline on monday were particularly bad! But again thank you so much, Mr. BnaC Your kind words have made my day

Reading this thread makes me extremely jealous of our dear American friends Is there any chance an event like this can be (or is) organised in the Med somewhere in Israel, Turkey (ok this one is a reach as of now), Greece, Cyprus, or Malta?

Agreed. I started seeing a therapist fairly recently due to an onset of anxiety that started this summer. We've barely gotten into true "therapy" yet, but just having the chance to talk with her about things and hearing her basic advice has been immeasurably helpful.

Yes, PCD seems to be associated with psychological distress. Stress affects us in many complicated ways. A good sexual therapist can help. If it's primarily stress driven, a general therapist can help. Additionally, activities and habits that help manage stress can be beneficial as well.

And yet, it's also I think pretty common (or at least stereotypically so) for men to have an urge to nod off after sex - probably moreso with age? (Back to the citation of "le petit mort" above.) Many times, after I cum, I do feel at least a short period of time where I could easily doze off. In a purely casual encounter where getting off is the goal, that may be the end of the session. If I'm with someone I really feel something for, I can usually fight the urge off after a few minutes.

It's French meaning sadness-ultimately from the Latin word "tristis" meaning sad. The Spanish word for sad is "triste"which is also derived from the Latin word
 
Gman

I completely agree. In fact I just sent an email to a therapist as well, though really because I am a bit close to burnout (lots of pressure and stress at work lately). And PCD and burnout also appear to be linked. I completely agree that seeking a professional is an essential part of self-care.

The reason I always check with any NEW man I am sexually engaged with -- IF you cum first, can you still finish me off? Unless I receive a robust affirmation, I CUM FIRST as I can continue and help my partner cum - how ever we decide to do it.

I avoid it by expressing part of what I am looking for when I hire is to talk after play time. If they aren't willing to do this, they probably won't be attempting to contact in a mental level which is super important for me.

I had a meeting with a provider last night; it was a fun encounter; afterwards, he suggested that we go out to dinner; we had a good time getting to know one another, laughing and talking; there was no tristesse (which is a new word for me!); I wonder if this is coming from a place of regret in missing the ongoing intimacy of a relationship?

for just a few minutes, I usually feel this way after getting off (by myself or with another)......sort of a sudden utter lack of interest in sex.......but it goes away after just a few minutes......