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Hot and super-sweet. Pix are accurate. Seeing him for the second time tomorrow.

I've had a number of very satisfying evenings with 5 guys. But they were with 5 Guys Burgers, and not actual humans.

This past Friday I worked with Adonis NYC to host some of their boys for an over night Friday into Saturday. We planned to do their AVN broadcast live and have some of the boys together from my house.
 
2 guys were committed to the show. 2 guys were camera shy. 1 former dancers was there as an assistant, and to capture some behind the scenes shenanigans. Tim and their tech guy were there to host and ensure the show ran smoothly.
 
The guys were supposed to take a helicopter out of NYC to my house. Weather screwed that plan and they had to drive out instead. That put a damper on the experience but we rebounded quickly.
 
Tim had surgery that morning. He was on crutches and in pain. The timing sucked, but positive attitudes prevailed.
 
When the guys got to my house, we sat around the table and I explained what I liked, what my vision for the overnight would be, the amount of cash that would be available for their time and openness. The tropical storm seemed to avoid my house by some stroke of luck and after dinner, they got naked and jumped in the pool.
 
We played some pool games and they tried out the trampoline. Ever seen dicks on muscle men bouncing around on a trampoline? It's magic, google it.
 
When show time rolled around it was a lot of fun figuring out how the guys would come on screen. I REALLY recommend checking out the video available for purchase on Adonis. There were some tech difficulties because of so many people being on my wifi at once, streaming video, but it worked out well in the end. I hope.
 
Both of the camera shy guys agreed to go on camera. One wore a mask. He's a pretty amazing dude, and one highlight of the weekend was a very famous neighbor of mine sending him instagram voicememos (from his verified celebrity account) commending him on his beauty, pointing out their proximity, and begging him to "swing by." Who knew gay celebrities use instagram to hook up. fun fun fun.
 
Anyway, once it was revealed that the boys and Tim were all in a house together, a delicious 4 some took place on my couch. I'll never be able to lay there again and watch The Golden Girls without knowing who's dick leaked precum on which throw pillow.
 
After the show, the guys were super horny, and more comfortable with me and each other. I broke out a pinata filled with cash that they could only break open with assorted bondage paddles and whips. That was a fun, unassuming way to introduce those toys to the weekend.
 
We moved onto a blindfolded sex toy demonstration. Each guy was given a blindfold and an elaborate sex toy to figure out. Cash prizes went to the guys who properly used or demonstrated. What a hoot.
 
I spread out a tarp and the guys let me body paint, and massage oil and make a mess on their beautiful bodies.
 
We turned in around 3 am.
 
I could hear the camera shy boys "hitting it off" in the room next to mine, and they allowed me to come enjoy the action. Sorry A list neighbor celebrity, masked man was taken that night by a shy boy from Texas.
 
I had a guest in my bed and we fell asleep as dawn broke around 6:30.
 
Not wanting to miss any action, and knowing the clock was ticking, I was up at 8am. I enjoyed getting to know the boys as they woke up one at a time.
 
Breakfast came at 11 and we settled the age old question, how many bagels can a man fit on his hard dick.
 
We played a riveting game of truth or dare where the most muscular man of all had to go in his speedo searching my neighborhood for my dog that ran away. He knocked on the doors of my wonderful gay neighbors, looking for the dog. I immediately got a call from said gay neighbor asking who the man was, and could he come back for yoga? I apologized for interrupting their brunch, and they said it was no interruption, and he was welcome back any time. The downside is that neighbor then spent 10 minutes in his backyard looking for a dog that didn't exist. I have since gotten 3 more phone calls from that neighbor. 2 inquiring about the man, 1 about the dog. lol
 
Another dare was a guy having to go get my mail wearing nothing but bondage ropes. He looked amazing tied up in red, and was totally prepared to do it, but I stopped him in the driveway when I realized EVERYONE was outside in their front yards for some reason.
 
Another was going on Grindr, and convincing someone to come pick you up, and take you to get a sandwich from the deli. Mission accomplished.
 
We went back in the pool, played some pretty macho games of chicken, and last man standing on assorted pool rafts. The masculinity, and playful energy was amazing as I got to just watch guys be guys. More naked trampoline bouncing ensued, with them allowing me to capture a slow motion video of cocks bouncing. Seriously, go google this. Yum.
 
The second to last swan song was a beautiful fuck in the outdoor shower.
 
The swan song was an 8 handed massage in my bedroom, followed by the draining of dicks in various holes and hands. Mostly theirs.
 
At 4pm, the car came to take them back to Manhattan and just like that it was all over. Today is back to real life with a smile on my face, and a bit less cash in the wallet.
 
Some takeaways
 
Adonis boys are respectful, polite and professional.
If you are comfortable asking for what you want, you will get what you want.
Money changes everything.
Sometimes it's REALLY hard to hide your humanity, and despite being professionals, real emotions and real feelings can creep into a client provider relationship. Stomp it out ASAP.
Tim from Adonis is a consummate professional, and if you're looking for an experience, that man can help make it happen.
Be careful what you wish for because you just might get it.

I don't know why I tend to forgive this one. It might be that he's too hot, my desperation, or the fact that I know some of them take some time to prepare as if it's a date with me. I love when they treat me like that even if they are unpunctual. I prefer that over a muscle guy showing up on t-shirt and sweatpants at my door just looking to hook up ON TIME, finishing ON TIME, and leaving ON TIME. If a guy gives me a little more time than expected, either if he showed up on time or not, I will be more willing to tip and treat him nicely.

A guilty pleasure when I hire is watching a man’s hygiene routine. I love watching everything from the shower to the q tips, to shaving, teeth brushing, doing the hair, lotion cologne, finger nail trimming etc. it’s a wild turn on for me to watch a super hot, sexy man get himself together. Bonus dollars if he’s got an uncut cock to clean.
 
What do you enjoy that’s..... unconventional?

I agree. I’ve never been into porn workers myself and I still find hot, quality guys who prefer the anonymity offered by other means such as seeking, grindr and Craigslist (RIP). The public porn lifestyle isn’t attractive to most. Once it’s on the internet it’s there forever.
 
It also seems to me that the very successful ones are the exception not the rule. Most seem to be teaser/scammers constantly looking for the next one-month subscriber victim. Whenever I’m interested in an OF page I look it up on the LPSG site, and almost every time posters complain about the lack of quality content.

I hope some of the OP posts are tongue in cheek. It’s was a transaction not a date. Thank him like you would any other service provider. A brief note, a good review, a tip and repeat business. Just remember he gave you a good time because it’s his job, not because he’s into you. If you come across as ‘in love’ he will either run for the hills or try to take advantage of you.

I would just like to say to all of you who posted here... Your Mommas would be proud of your good manners and keep it up.

He doesn’t advertise anymore, but for me, still and always: Apollo Phoenix. Mind-blowing biceps with a big ol’ cephalic vein, and triceps to match. Holding onto those huge guns on either side of your head for dear life as he plows you is just ... WOOF. Combine that with his cocky Long Island guido attitude and accent—priceless!

You’ve been given some good advice @nycboi. I’d just add that it also depends on what you like to do and have done to you.
 
The key in hiring is always to communicate clearly what you enjoy and what you’d like to do. Please also mention if there’s some specific activity you really want, such as deep kissing, getting sucked off etc.
 
As I’m a top only, I liked to see a guy late afternoon or early evening. Topping gave me a good appetite for dinner, and if I liked the guy I would invite him to be my guest (but specifying that it was “off the clock”). That time also meant I could get ready in a leisurely fashion - I always enjoyed getting ready for my date, shaving afresh, showering and changing underwear.
 
Now if you want to bottom, you should probably choose a date that gives you plenty of time to prepare. And if you’re sexually versatile, you may want to discuss whether he tops first, but say that then he has to bottom for you.
 
Remember that the guy is not a mind-reader so express your desires. And look forward to having a good time with an attractive man.

exactly why i leave it up to them as to when they want to get together. they know when they need $$ and as i've said plan their sexual activities accordingly.
 
i had one bodybuilder local that i saw for about a year. we would meet every sunday afternoon like clockwork. he was awesome! anyways... he would tell me that he would not touch himself from saturday morning on so "jr" would be raging for release by the time we got together. smart smart bodybuilder. man those were some fun times! i'll never forget the last time we got together. it was actually THEE most memorable session! we went to a pool party in the afternoon, grabbed some sushi afterwards and he confessed when we got back to my house that he started a tren cycle a week earlier. holy mother of god! that man was like a bucking bronco! i had to pull out every trick i could to keep him from "ending" early. so i edged him till he couldnt take it anymore and dear god.... i still cant believe the bed didnt break when he blew! whew!!!! good times!

Not as much as some, although I do Grindr sometimes. I've found a lot of guys on hookup sites flaky and things can get kinda complicated sometimes. With escorts it's easier to set expectations for the relationship.

I have been asked this before and it's honestly a touch insulting. Looks don't factor into my services at all. I have no issue providing for bigger guys, smaller guys, first timers, whatever.
 
The reason I demand money for my services is not because the client is ugly, but because of the consistency and convenience I provide.

Also my experience in SFO, guessing it has to do with a combination of 1) extra disposable income among Asian tech bros and 2) the racialized rejection many Asians face from gays who fit the status quo Sean Cody / Bel Ami litmus test of "hot" that conditions the (American) gay community to value one type of look.
 
So you get these beautiful Asian boys hiring to get a taste of that which normally rejects them.

Also, some young clients have fetishes that they may be reluctant to share with anyone other than a professional.

As far as the sleeping well...Well, it's difficult, because if you've just met you are both strangers. And even if you know each other, you don't live together. I have been on some overnights with clients who snore horribly. When I was doing overnights, I still had a full time job, and I needed quality sleep to get through a day of work after the overnight, so I learned quickly, to slip in the silicone earplugs just as we turn off the lights, and also take ambien or benadryl an hour or so before I estimate we will go to sleep.
 
Now, personally, I'm able to take ambien or benadryl and not be in a coma, so waking up early, or even for some fun in the middle of the night, was not a problem for me. If these medications tend to really knock you out, maybe work on the dosage. You can break ambien into pieces, and liquid benadryl is very easy to control, dosage-wise.
 
But when I didn't have to get up for work, I remember several overnights where we did stay up until 4 or 5 am fucking and talking and such. Once I flew to New York (not direct, I had to change planes). I'd never met him before. He picked me up at JFK at 5pm. We went straight to manhattan for dinner, then the hotel, then later we went to the Gaiety, then played till about 2am, then we called in another escort, he stayed till about 4:30 am, then we fell asleep about 5:30 am. Got up at 9, played a lot, went to that stupid shopping place on the pier in lower manhattan, then he took me straight to the airport and I flew home, again not direct. All of this was without drugs and was really fun. It was 21 years ago, we never met again, but we still email.
 
I'd say, if both of you are able to go without much sleep, if the next day demands aren't too great, and it seems as if the client would enjoy staying up most of the night, go for it. You're young. You'll be fine.
 
But, if you have demands on your time the next day, then yes, make the waking hours the best he's ever had, then put in the earplugs, take the liquid benadryl, ready the coffee for the next morning, and try to get as close to 7 hours sleep as possible.
 
Just be sure that if the client wants to cuddle-sleep, you fucking cuddle-sleep. Escorts who want to sleep separate from their client are asking too much. If that's the case, you should not be doing overnights.

Thank you, that is certainly a factor that could probably be considered separately, i.e.: prospecting couples. $300 for both sounds like a great deal. However I don't think there are many couples out there escorting, and for some reason (an this could be just me) I keep thinking that by hiring them, I would be the 3rd (a "stranger") in the threesome. I keep thinking that having two guys that are not a couple would give me a better sense of being an equal third part of the threesome and not a third facing a couple who I would see as a unity. Probably easier said than explained.

Absolutely yes. As a "previously" trained virologist, I think the paranoia of vaccine in this country has gone bananas. Even in this forum, which I believe represents a relatively more educated sector of the society, the hysterical fear of vaccine has reached beyond reason. Research has shown that most of the so called vaccine-induced illnesses are really not induced by vaccines at all, and vaccines by and large are exceedingly safe. The original poster asked if you would be willing to get vaccinated before the trials end. By clinical trial phase 3 or 4, the majority of safety studies have already been completed. So it should be reasonably safe to take such vaccination. Is it completely, 100% safe? Well, there is no such thing in life. You can sleep in your own bed and a giant sink hole could open up beneath your house and swallow you whole. The vaccine should be "safe enough."

I know the feeling. I started hiring after a big break up. It was a nice little period of me "living it up". I even found a regular who was my age that I got along with and we should chat about random stuff with over text quite frequently. But once I was wrapping up my "healing" phase by coming to terms with the factors of my break up and letting go of the hurt I was feeling, then my interest took a nose dive. Like, it was literally one day I met up with my regular, then the next I had zero interest. It's been that way for many months now. I still look and contemplate, but I never actually pull the trigger or go for it anymore.
 
Now I just look at hiring as a special occasion, mainly if someone interesting is traveling to my city or if I am traveling some place else. I may hire when international travel starts, but that is about it. Overall, I'm happy with the break I took and I've been able to focus more on being comfortable with just me. This quarantine helped force that as well.

I have a regular weekend buddy who I see about one weekend per month. Not sure we will be able to continue this cadence in the new COVID world because he is in NYC and I have an apartment in Philly that I will be vacating in early September.
 
My 'relationship' with him is more akin to Friends w/ Benefits - we enjoy watching movies/binge series together, playing video games, ordering great food in, getting stoned together, and just really good sexual chemistry. He's not very affectionate, we don't cuddle.... we've both had some rough patches in life for the last 4 years we have been seeing each other and we are good listeners for one another.
 
I started seeing another guy who was more like a BFE....affection, cuddling, great sex.....who I started seeing more and more.... and suddenly it was.... buy me a new phone, buy me a new computer, buy me new clothes..... Long term BFE providers may expect something more akin to being 'kept situation' and sometimes as much as I do wish I could afford that, I can't. I had a serious crush on the guy and he just was fucking me and acting like my BF for the money.... and mentally, I just couldn't handle it. I would not entertain another 'weekender' at this point and will make any other provider 'all about the sex' and position it to them as such.
 
Per everyone else's thoughts - I share in the belief, you need to mentally frame any 'on-going relationship' with a provider with some boundaries in your own head ideally so that you won't end up down or depressed. For me, I get a little sad because what I want is more 'good sex' and the companionship. If I can't find the companionship from a lover/partner, then I will get that from friends and keep my 'chemistry FwB guy' for the sexual needs. I don't want to give up what great sex I am having!
 
I'm currently quarantining in the VERY rural south with family..... there are ZERO provider prospects here..... heading back to Philly in August and already have a 4 day/3 night weekend planned with the FwB guy!
 
Hang in there and feel free to reach out if you want to chat with someone about how you are feeling.

For what it’s worth, I find it easier, and less emotionally risky, to treat every new escort experience as if it were a physical therapy appointment with a new PT, or a workout with a new trainer. Then it becomes an exercise of his pleasure-giving skills, and of my capacity to respond, and give pleasure back. I don’t pay my PT or my trainer to be my friends — but if they’re doing their job, and I’m doing mine, then there’s a chance that friendship can grow out of mutual respect, even if the relationship remains an essentially commercial one.

I often felt like that after hiring. It was a high followed by an even more intense low. This was the norm until I met the person who would become my first regular. I saw him for many years. Overnights, weekends, even longer. I would probably still be seeing him today if circumstances wouldn't have made that impossible. But the important thing in this, was that I finally met someone who didn't make me feel bad about myself afterwards, and that made all the difference.
After, I still saw escorts.. but less frequently. Again those bad feelings about myself afterwards returned. Just when I was about to give up, I met the escort that would become my second regular. We have progressed from an hour to overnight to full weekends. Once again I never feel bad about myself after seeing him.
 
Here are few important things to keep in mind though.
Do not allow seeing escorts to replace your real life experiences of making real friends and dating. To do so will definitely reinforce those negative feelings and self-worth doubts because you will not experience friendship and affection without paying for it. Unfortunately, it's way too easy to fall into this trap.
 
While escorts and clients can develop deep relationships of some sort, always remember that its almost always transactional based. You can be friendly, your companion may actually enjoy your company... but It's a job for your companion. When the $ stops so does the "friendship & affection".
*There are a VERY few exceptions to this (but it's so extremely rare) and should never be expected.
 
You don't pay people to be your real friends.
 
Most importantly, if the net effect on you is negative, definitely stop seeing escorts.

Have you considered pursuing a relationship with someone in your own age group who's not necessarily attractive? You can use that for mental and emotional support, while still hiring on the side.

It IS possible to find an escort you truly connect with, but don’t expect it to “just happen,” and don’t expect it to be any easier to maintain than a friendship, or a lasting love relationship, or even a solid professional relationship. Be prepared to sample a LOT of candidates (what fun, eh?) and try not to let your expectations get too far ahead of reality—enjoy these hot, beautiful guys for who and what they are, “in the moment”!

I actually feel like some beginner escorts could really benefit from like a brief class from a more experienced escort if mostly just about expectations, cutting off time-wasters, communication and pricing of services. Like some guys starting off are just wildly off on their per hour donations in my opinion.