Mount N Do

I’ll bite... you find a distinction there? For real? Like do they cum differently if the funds are used for a vacation? Seriously dude, at least he ain’t holding up convenience stores.

Keeping emotional balance in such situations is learned behavior for most of us -- if you succeed, you open yourself up to many wonderful experiences. And you don't learn without trying and making mistakes. Whether you can learn without emotional scarring is so completely dependent on who you are and what your tolerances are that giving simple yes/no advice is pointless. The OP now has lots of warnings about the dangers; only he can decide what he's willing to risk.

I’ll bite... you find a distinction there? For real? Like do they cum differently if the funds are used for a vacation? Seriously dude, at least he ain’t holding up convenience stores.

What's the lesson?

I’ll bite... you find a distinction there? For real? Like do they cum differently if the funds are used for a vacation? Seriously dude, at least he ain’t holding up convenience stores.

It’s all about branding dude. Neiman Marcus doesn’t necessarily market to Macy’s shoppers. Range Rover ain’t gonna market to those looking for a Ford Explorer. You can choose to be something for anyone or you can protect your brand. With all due respect, most who frequent this board, know where you stand.

If I were an escort, I would rather get less clients @ a higher rate, than more (cheap) clients @ a lower rate. More clients @ a lower rate just means more work, & probably no tips, no dinners, dingy motels... yuck... not worth the extra bucks that may come from f'ing more guys.
 
Know your worth.

It’s all about branding dude. Neiman Marcus doesn’t necessarily market to Macy’s shoppers. Range Rover ain’t gonna market to those looking for a Ford Explorer. You can choose to be something for anyone or you can protect your brand. With all due respect, most who frequent this board, know where you stand.

I think it is possible to find what you're looking for on RM or other sites. It is definitely within the realm of possibility that a relationship grows then turns into what you're seeking.

After a year of numerous RM disappointments, I have found the ideal regular and am completely satisfied with him.

It’s all about branding dude. Neiman Marcus doesn’t necessarily market to Macy’s shoppers. Range Rover ain’t gonna market to those looking for a Ford Explorer. You can choose to be something for anyone or you can protect your brand. With all due respect, most who frequent this board, know where you stand.

Agreed. I feel like @KCRob's statement could/should be a whole thread of its own to call this behavior out.
 
I'm the OP of this thread, and I agree with providers having a list that they can put clients on but publicly sharing someone's phone number because they didn't set an appointment or keep an appointment is a real piece of shit move. If the person stole from you, was violent towards you, or threatened you in some way- I get it. Green light. Destroy them. But just because they are rude, or flaky, or disorganized, or their life suddenly changed is really unconscionable and is likely to land Mocha aka Jarrod Brandon aka Joey Bryant in some trouble of some kind somewhere along the way.

Another Mocha quote from another thread going back to 2016. Mocha aka Jarrod Brandon aka Joey Bryant has been outing clients for years. Buyer beware.

Who would contact you...never knowing if some minor infraction would get their phone number posted on Twitter. You seem hellbent on destroying your opportunities to get clients from this forum.

Do you seriously not see the difference between you voluntarily posting your contact information online, and having someone post yours without your consent?

It is not my “opinion” that you are publicly outing clients on Twitter using their names and phone numbers. That is a “fact” that you cleverly boast about doing “almost EVERY DAMN DAY”. And yes, it gets me upset that you seem to think this is acceptable behavior.

You admit you are outing clients “almost EVRY DAMN DAY”. Absolutely scary. Mocha, you put the fear in clients everywhere and give escorts a bad name.

WARNING: Mocha is posting client names and phone numbers on the internet! OMG! This is wrong on so many levels that you should NEVER work as an escort again! I just pulled up your Twitter and you made no attempt to “blur out partials of numbers”. That is a lie sir. All of the phone numbers are there as well as many names. These aren’t even people who robbed you. These are people who didn’t respond to your replies to set an appointment. And you are going to publicly out them and ruin their lives because you think they were somehow rude in not replying to you?!?! Shame on you, Mocha!

Bingo.
 
Those who can, do.
 
Those who can't, adjust their rates.

If you aren't getting a thing from the friendship, the answer is obvious. But the answer to the question of whether or not you are getting anything from the relationship may not be so obvious. Even though you find the relationship burdensome, you may have a stake in the relationship because it validates your self-image in some way, for example. Or the friendship is a useful distraction, etc. etc

almost my exact story from the past. Examine yourself for any codependent issues....I did and have that in check nowadays. Take care!

@Mount N Do I feel for you, having gone through something similar just recently. A young guy from the club I had a great relationship with, he seemed to have a lot of potential. When he fell on hard times he moved in with me, at mostly my urging (he would have stayed living on the road, in his car). Initially great, he was working, I was supporting him in ways that I thought would help him succeed, but as time went on he seemed to take my support for granted and worked less on making himself self-sufficient. He's off on his own now, doing things that I don't think will end up with him being able to support himself, and we don't communicate all that much. I honestly can't say if I would do this over again or not, given the choice. There were some great times, and some not-so-great; and if he were to come back needing a place to stay again, I don't know what my answer would be.

Ding Ding Ding, you’re toast my friend. Wise men know what they don’t know. Fools, deny what they know. Your question, indicates that you’re neck deep. I know-I was you, 14 months ago.
 
Here’s my story, do with it what you will. Met a guy 30 years my junior. Instant chemistry. Blew me away. Began seeing him exclusively (mostly) from the first day. Two months in, still denying I had “feelings”. Fourteen months and over 50k later, I’m in deeper than ever. What began as a business relationship, has evolved into a dysfunctional, co-dependent nightmare at times.
 
We have some sort of disagreement almost on a weekly basis. Mostly cause I’m insecure and jealous and cause he doesn’t want me to be insecure and jealous. He’s exclusive to me (for escort purposes only) and I to him. It’s one sided for sure. To his credit, he has NEVER led me to believe he was”in” love, however he swears he “loves” and cares for me. I believe him. No lie (for the skeptics).
 
Id be lying if I said I regret meeting him. He serves my needs in many ways and has changed my life. That said, if I were to start over, I would definitely, with the benefit of hindsight, avoid getting involved as I have. This will not end well. So if you sincerely believe you can still just “walk away”—- RUN
 
Good luck bud.

No. You can control your feelings. If you're developing a crush on him, it's because you're letting it happen. Having a crush on a provider isn't such a bad thing, but don't be a victim of your own feelings. If you don't want to have a crush on him, shut it down, now.

Shutting it down means you do whatever it takes to end it, including leaving. There may be a heavy behavioral component in managing one's feelings. It isn't all an inside job.