AndreFuture

I'm soooo looking forward to this!! I was originally coming in on Thursday, April 12 and leaving Tuesday, April 17 but I've extended my trip to Saturday, April 21. I just booked my flights (yes, on Delta - the cheapest option was to fly to PSP instead of LAX/ONT, and it was cheaper by $100 than JetBlue, with better flight times). I arrive in PSP on Thursday around 4. I will have a car and am staying at INNdulge. If you arrive at the airport around the same time, I'm happy to cart your butt to your hotel. I'm also happy to offer rides as I'm able.
 
The last time I posted about my plans on this thread, I told you my schedule was full from the 12th to the 17th. My choice to extend my trip was mostly because I used to live in PS and will want to see some friends and enjoy the weather (and the continuing celebration of my 40th bday). My schedule remains full until the 17th, but I'm happy to accept appointments during the rest of my stay, albeit on a limited basis. If you'd like to plan some time with me, please feel free to contact me!

With those things I can smuggle a boy hidden in between my legs, and have fun in the process.

It's a bit amusing to see people use "sex work" as a synonym for prostitution, since the latter is a subset of the former. It's also fascinating to see how other people understand and utilize terms (e.g., "escort" being distinctly not sex work or sexually related, as though "cars" can be distinct from and unrelated to "automobiles").
 
I'm fine with whatever terms are used, even if inacurate, so long as they're used respectfully. I often use "provider" and to a lesser extent "sex worker" and "escort" in a general and professional manner; among other providers and on Twitter, I'll use "hoe" as reclamation and in reference to myself, but admittedly be put off if a non SWer used it for me (unbalanced power dynamics being what they are).

It's a bit amusing to see people use "sex work" as a synonym for prostitution, since the latter is a subset of the former. It's also fascinating to see how other people understand and utilize terms (e.g., "escort" being distinctly not sex work or sexually related, as though "cars" can be distinct from and unrelated to "automobiles").
 
I'm fine with whatever terms are used, even if inacurate, so long as they're used respectfully. I often use "provider" and to a lesser extent "sex worker" and "escort" in a general and professional manner; among other providers and on Twitter, I'll use "hoe" as reclamation and in reference to myself, but admittedly be put off if a non SWer used it for me (unbalanced power dynamics being what they are).

I didn't fully convey my thoughts on this:
 
The use of SW as a synonym for prostitution is often at the exlcusion of acknowledging SW is a broad umbrella and descriptive of a host of other professions that are not prostitution (as was previously mentioned). At least, that's what I've come across.
 
With the example I gave, it would be like someone using "automobile" to talk about their car, but insisting a truck and bus are not automobiles. Admittedly, humor is often context and culture dependent, but I personally find that amusing.

I was tired of being devalued by the food service industry, needed to focus on my education, and couldn’t manage enough time for that while making <$10/hr for skilled & demanding labor (wherein I was often sexualised anyway as an informal requirement of performing my job successfully).
 
I’d been quite sexually adventurous in my late teen years and found myself more comfortable with casual and semi-anonymous sexual encounters than most of my peers. A lot of my real-life flirtations were with older men, and I found them much less complicated to engage with sexually than guys my own age, who surprisingly had too many feelings and often couldn’t handle our sexual encounters being NSA.
 
By the time I was in college I was mostly back to sleeping with my peers, but I never lost my openness to sleeping with people that fell outside the box of whoever I was “supposed” to be interested in according to society’s standards. I had learned that the most popular, best looking guys were often the most clumbsy, unskilled lovers, and the guys who no one looked twice at were sometimes the most repeat-worthy in bed.
 
I knew all along that I would be well-suited to being an escort someday, but never seriously considered it until finances got so tight in college that I had to leave University and continue my education on my own. I was too afraid of being subject to violence (my parents had a fondness for watching Law & Order SVU in the house when I was a kid) to try it any sooner than I did. Too bad, because I probably wouldn’t have needed to drop out of University had I tried it a couple years sooner. But my self-education and my career were both ultimately successful and I couldn’t be happier with where my life is at, so I have no regrets. Maybe I was just the right maturity level to handle it by the time I started.
 
For a couple years I used it as a way to not really have a “real job”, and accordingly made just enough to live a very thrifty lifestyle comfortably. After a while I realized I liked escorting enough to pursue it as a career. I spent a whole winter holed up in a rural woodland cabin burning logs & reading Internet forums via solar-powered wifi to research how to treat escorting as a business: marketing, touring, managing finances, etc. I worked small cities in the southern states for about a year before moving to NYC, where my career really had the opportunity to take off. My lifestyle involved a lack of routine and a lot of travel in my early-mid 20’s, so my work being so portable & flexible suited my life exceedingly well.
 
When I first started out 8 years ago, I thought I would use escorting as a path to fund my gender transition surgeries. It ended up providing so much more for me than that, and now I’m not even sure I want anything surgical done & have tossed that idea out the window. Go figure...

I started escorting when I started experimenting with guys at around 19-20. I still thought I was straight
 
I did it off and on throughout college because of money and it somehow allowed me to convince myself that I was just gay for pay. After college I was a corporate drone and decided to drop everything and pursue piano and fitness in New York. Fast forward to today: I escort because it's fun! The money is very helpful, but now I'm all about doing things that I enjoy.

This is probably getting a bit ahead of where you are, but this isn’t entirely true. It is technically beyond your control, but the sharing of your copyrighted material is technically a violation. You have basis to file a DMCA complaint if your stuff gets shared, but once the horse is out of the gate, a takedown would only shut off the original source and your material is still out there. You could sue but obviously that isn’t within reach for most folks, and again, the horse is out of the barn.
 
One way to make any leaks work for you is to put a logo on your content - it’s what I do. That way, when something inevitably turns up on Twitter or Tumblr, at least there’s a way for people to know where it’s from.
 
On a personal tangent, the most interesting copyright issue I’ve ever had was when some dude tried to sell me my own video. The video was from the membership section of my website, and he reportedly bought it from someone else.

It’s partly going to depend on which payment processor you use, and which features you need to suit your membership vision.
 
Start with figuring out which payment processor you want - not all processors will work with adult content (paypal definitely does not) if that’s what you’re putting in your membership section. Also, if you plan to accept Visa and MasterCard, there’s an annual fee of $500 each. Once you’ve selected a payment processor, ask them about plugins. They will have a tech team that can advise you on which ones will work with WP and their system. Also, if you use one of their recommendations, they’ll often do the installation and setup for you, and they’re expert at trouble shooting.
 
If you’re not going to have adult content, most of this post still applies. You’ll have more options for payment processors and you won’t have the Visa/MC fees.

This is not as uncommon as you think - you're not alone.
 
Your post brought up a lot of questions for me, and I'd want some more information before I start to throw out my thoughts. I feel like that back and forth could take place over PM, if you're interested. It's ok if you're not, too.
 
But back to you not being alone. There are many people who have ED to some degree or another, and many men who can't cum ever, or with others, or only occasionally, or whatever.
 
The great news is that sex is much more than a hard cock and a cumshot. Any guy who's ever had trouble getting it up or getting it off - even once - has had to deal with the confusion, frustration, anxiety, what-the-fuck-ness, depression, anger and so on. If we have honest, upfront conversations with each other, we can take some of those negative feelings and look for some positivity - we can find ways to relax about it a little, find buddies to vent with, and explore all the other ways we can experience sex and sexual satisfaction. Even if you can get it up and get it off, it's really fun to try doing things that are sexual without thinking about whether or not you're hard, or even intentionally not cumming.

First of all, relax, and don’t put too much pressure on yourself. If youre having performance anxiety that is going to block your success. Second, try a good prostate massage session with someone who REALLY knows what they’re doing. Your ED will be completely irrelevant, and you can perhaps cum much more forcefully than you ever have in your LIFE! (Assuming you are new to prostate stimulation...) No hard-on required, and the prostate stimulation, if performed by someone talented, will really take control of the timing of your orgasm completely out of your hands...

I'll be attending again and staying at Canyon Club from the 14–18th. I still have some availability, especially towards the last few days.

It's a bit amusing to see people use "sex work" as a synonym for prostitution, since the latter is a subset of the former. It's also fascinating to see how other people understand and utilize terms (e.g., "escort" being distinctly not sex work or sexually related, as though "cars" can be distinct from and unrelated to "automobiles").
 
I'm fine with whatever terms are used, even if inacurate, so long as they're used respectfully. I often use "provider" and to a lesser extent "sex worker" and "escort" in a general and professional manner; among other providers and on Twitter, I'll use "hoe" as reclamation and in reference to myself, but admittedly be put off if a non SWer used it for me (unbalanced power dynamics being what they are).

It's a bit amusing to see people use "sex work" as a synonym for prostitution, since the latter is a subset of the former. It's also fascinating to see how other people understand and utilize terms (e.g., "escort" being distinctly not sex work or sexually related, as though "cars" can be distinct from and unrelated to "automobiles").
 
I'm fine with whatever terms are used, even if inacurate, so long as they're used respectfully. I often use "provider" and to a lesser extent "sex worker" and "escort" in a general and professional manner; among other providers and on Twitter, I'll use "hoe" as reclamation and in reference to myself, but admittedly be put off if a non SWer used it for me (unbalanced power dynamics being what they are).

I am waiting for my retirement to become a public advocate for sex work in all its wonderful diversity.

Sex worker is a term coined by Carol Leigh - the Scarlet Harlot - in the 70's as a way to politically ground the growing prostitutes rights movement. Since then it has become widely used internationally in both advocacy and health contexts, and I think is the word that the AP is supposed to use. I like the word and use it to refer to myself in what I do, but I wouldn't expect it to be used within my interactions with clients necessarily. Since I have no qualms about what I do, I have no concerns with what I'm called as long as the tone it is said in is respectful.
 
As a side note I do wish perhaps that clients and sex workers did perhaps bring a little bit of the politics of prostitution into their meetings. We are both experiencing a huge wave of criminalization together, and we are natural partners in fighting it. However, it always feels like a taboo subject to bring up. I suppose it isn't the hottest thing when the clock is running, but I wonder when and where we develop the relationships necessary to build solidarity together. Otherwise its just going to be sex workers who are out advocating against their own criminalization and the criminalization of clients second.

My physical therapist.
My plumber.
My therapeutic companion.
My candy.
My angel.
My bodyguard.
My driver.
My rider.
My pacifier.
My God.
My treasure.
My treat.
My mercenary.
My boy.
My man.
My Lord.

Escort, provider, companion, professional.

For some “shoppers” the tongue could be considered a major part of their decision process. I certainly appreciate the benefits that a large, flexible, and wet tongue can provide. With that said, in photographs like the ones you’ve provided here, I admit it does appear a bit juvenile, and looks more like these guys just didn’t know what else to do in the selfie, so they did the only thing they could think of at the moment and stuck it out. The one on the bottom though, his tongue looks like it could really cover some area! That’s a big, healthy tongue that could be put to great use!

All that has already been said definitely. Also a great client is someone who shows me their investment in our relationship by being friendly and affirming - a simple 'I'm so happy you are here' at the beginning of a session will really set us in the right direction. By being dependable as a regular and letting me know when I can expect to see them again, or letting me know if our regular schedule has changed whats up. By offering me a glass of water or a shower - which shows that they are considering me and my needs. Also clients who don't take increasing intimacy as an opportunity to undercut or barter with me, realizing that while we like each other more and more my bank account still needs the same amount of money in it.

I'll be attending again and staying at Canyon Club from the 14–18th. I still have some availability, especially towards the last few days.

I will be at Inndulge and still have some availability.
 
But I had to block off enough time to recover from my birthday spankings that weekend.

@BlakeBenz , I find unthinkable to commit any of the sins you describe. It cannot be very difficult to be in your good books.
 
As for this one:

....I think that client who try to take off a condom without consent should be punished by law in a similar way to rapists.

My favorite clients to do business with are respectful clients. Clients who are on time. Clients who do not ask for bareback repeatedly, because one ‘no’ should be enough. Clients who do not try to take the condom off when they think you’re not looking. Clients who do not open closed doors in my home without permission. Clients who use proper greeting/introduction when contacting me. Clients who do not make racist or other ignorant uneducated comments based on opinion. Clients who genuinely care about me. Clients who ask me what they can provide for our time together (I.e, drinks, snacks, etc.) and most importantly, clients who are just simply good energy to be around!

Unprotected oral sex is a vector for many STIs. The rates of infection and risk vary because some STIs are transmitted more easily than others. Further, some of those STIs can develop colonies in the throat, be fully asymptomatic, and not show up on blood/urine tests. That's why I mentioned throat swabs above. Lastly, there are treatment-resistant strains for many STIs and the preliminary data seems pretty clear that HPV is likely a major driver of the significant increase in oral & throat cancers in American men.
 
https://www.cdc.gov/cancer/hpv/statistics/cases.htm
 
http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/newfoundland-labrador/cancer-hpv-gardasil-vaccine-boys-mouth-throat-cervical-1.3812345
 
Despite all of that, as I said above, I strongly prefer sucking cock and being sucked without condoms. However, based on my gut and what I observe, I have insisted on condoms before or even stopped sexual activity if something feels wrong to me. It's all about your own personal comfort with risk and awareness of all the factors involved in your sexual activity.