Eric Hassan

you're saying you want to get in bed with me. which is exactly the arena i'm talking about when i say analog privacy

there's privacy in analog, mikey.

for me, context matters. i've had regular clients come to town and when they've found out i'm not available, they'll ask me if there's someone else i recommend instead. or, i've been at the end of an enjoyable session and i'm asked for recommendations on other folks to see. i don't mind these requests - i've made it a point to get to know and get close with some working guys, and i can often make a good recommendation without hesitation. i'm happy to refer people to my buddies when appropriate, and often talk up guys i'm particularly fond of if i get the feeling my date would be interested. i do mind the request when it's someone new who is clearly checking me out and i don't quite make their cut. if someone were to ask me for a recommendation after a "bad" session, i would not enjoy that request. i don't view other escorts as competition - they are my inspiration, my colleagues - so i'm happy to support and refer, but if you're asking because we didn't work out, you're barking up the wrong tree.

yes, the big advantage to whatsapp is the cost control. i don't mind using it all for setting up work appointments. when it comes to upmost privacy though, i don't think anything owned by facebook is a good idea. no matter what they tell you.

In my previous career as an occupational therapist, I spent some time working in a hospital in Brooklyn. I was responsible for the NICU and I led the outpatient department. I would walk in to work and look at my schedule. I would see that I had a few outpatient appointments in the morning, a new baby to evaluate in the NICU, and the some paperwork time and more outpatient work in the afternoon. Inevitably, Mrs. Jones would be late for her 9am appointment because her ride was late picking her up and one of the other clients had a panic attack on the bus. So she was there at 10. It wasn't her fault, and I couldn't justify not providing her with therapy, knowing that she had been up since 5am and had made the journey that was usually only an hour, but today was 2 hours. But someone else had a 10am appointment and they were on time, so I somehow had to see both of them. That meant I ddn't get to see the baby in the NICU until the afternoon, which bit into my paperwork time, and then I'd get to the NICU and the baby would be crashing, so I couldn't see him. I used to get so upset because it wasn't the schedule I had planned on and I would complain over and over that my schedule was all fucked up. Then, suddenly I realized that I was spending all of my time thinking about what I had planned and how it all should go that I missed the fact that my schedule - my actually schedule - wasn't what was written down, but what was happening - in real time, in real life, right then and there. It's the same with escorting. Regulars don't happen because you choose someone you think will make a good regular. It doesn't happen because you discussed it. It happens because it happens. What a "regular" is can vary and there is no standard. Often times, regular arrangements aren't discussed in such frank terms - it just happens. Being present with what's happening is key. Allowing a relationship to grow and flourish and find it's own rhythm is a beautiful thing. You challenge that natural beauty by trying to predict and control and define. I like the quote above (attributed to Gandhi, but really ... I doubt that) because it's a good reminder of the importance of grace and gratitude. It's not an invitation to blindly accept abuse or poor treatment. Being nice doesn't blanketly invite others to use you or treat you poorly and it says something about you as a provider if you're going to argue with being nice.

I have WhatsApp, and it says it's end-to-end encrypted, but it's FB and I don't trust FB. I keep it for folks who are from other countries because of the cost/access benefits outlined by others above. I don't love when folks from the US use it in lieu of SMS but whatever. I personally use Wickr - it's got end-to-end encryption, disappearing messages (you can set a burn on read timer for any time you choose from 1 second to 6 days), doesn't ask for a phone number or email to set up an account, is free (for the personal use - there's a business one for multi-user teams, not necessary). It's got a desktop app and a phone app; you can use fingerprint ID to unlock on devices with that ability. I also like Telegram for many of the same reasons, though I don't love that you specifically have to set up an encrypted connection.

my best friend always says the best name for a pet is "after you" so you can say "i named him after you"

What I read here is that you think that escorts are being paid to do a job and that the rate we ask is fair for us to do that job without needing or expecting a tip. I agree with you. At the end, you stated "stop deluding yourself that they actually care." I just want you to know that I care. I do this work because I care about other human beings and this is work that matches well with my skill set and passions. There might be some folks who don't care, and that's OK - there are TONS of us who do.

I would never voluntarily commit to a monogamous relationship. And while I love the idea of being taken care of, I wouldn't feel fully expressed or happy if I were to stop interacting passionately and intimately with many other men.

the word that struck me was "most"

i always have music recommendations - i make a monthly playlist called ""the songs next door" and put it out on spotify on the 8th of every month - you can search spotify for "the songs next door" or my username - erichassanxxx to take a listen. i've been listening to grimes (particularly art angels) and gang gang dance (particularly saint dymphna - one of my favorite albums) in the past couple days. also, the field dropped a new album last friday that is stunning!

I started escorting full time in April 2015 - so just about 3-1/2 years. I did less regular work for about 7 years before that (maybe twice a year, arranged by word of mouth) but I don’t tend to “count” that time.

I make a playlist every month on Spotify – it’s just a mishmash of the songs that I’m listening to at the time. I often put one of those mixes on as background music with a client.

I'll be there again this year! Staying at INNdulge again - arriving Thursday the 11th and staying until the 21st. This year, David and I are not going to get in a motorcycle accident Looking forward to seeing everyone!!

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i've not tried either product. i've spent years learning to edge and delay my orgasm - adding delay gel might mean i don't cum again in this lifetime!

her song "chinese" has been one of my favorites for a long time

there's no hard and fast rule here, and there may be times when it's not bothersome. the best indicator is how you feel - if it feels disruptive and/or you feel ignored or left out, that's a problem. unless that's what you're paying for.

Happy birthday to one of my favorite people!

I don’t remember how I found out about them. They’re great. Short inseam, good pockets. They do a great job accentuating my crotch. Yes on the tanks - because I know how they fit and my size, I just google, find the cheapest outlet, and do it to it.

I hate to break it to you but wearing underwear isn’t going to prevent an inguinal hernia; the hernia is from a weakness/vulnerability in your muscle, not from freeballing. At most, they’ll reduce a small hernia and make it appear to stay in place. It’s quite likely working out is slowly making it worse, even with underwear on.

plain black tanks (you can get anvil tanks for 4 bucks), a jockstrap because it turns the boys on, and shorts from two tags - they’re australian so they take a bit to arrive but they’re comfy and reasonably priced.

It might seem easy to you to just open the RM email but it doesn't always work that way on our end. I get hundreds of messages a day - all over social media, text messages, etc - from friends, family, clients, etc. The RM system is slow and if I get emails pushed to my personal email, they can arrive 20 minutes to 2 days later. It's really not convenient, and personally, I am going to follow up with text messages before emails. That being said, I think it's entirely reasonable to prefer email first - for exactly the reasons you stated: a way to establish if you're even going to have an appointment. One thing that you did state is that you don't expect an immediate response and you don't use email to set up something last minute - that's very helpful and thoughtful on your part. What I think you do, and would like others to consider is getting right to the point - tell me you're interested in meeting, and what day/time you are thinking. Too often email content goes back and forth 5 or more times just trying to get to that point, and it's incredibly frustrating to email over several days to find out that he's looking for a day when I'm not even in town. Thanks for letting me use your post as a PSA.

I want to go back to the OP with my response. I've read the follow-up posts about PrEP, safety, access, etc. What I think was misssed (and @Wolfer - please feel free to tell me if I'm speaking too much for you or getting it wrong) was that his boundaries were not respected. There may have been opportunities for clear communication that were missed, and it does seem like the situation quickly turned to PrEP and safety - skipping completely over the crossed boundaries. I want to make it clear to this community that protecting yourself in sex is a personal choice - that you have the right to choose what works for you, the obligation to communicate your choices and boundaries clearly, the responsibility to manage the consequences of your choice, the right to expect your partners will honor your boundaries, and the right to enjoy sexual encounters on your terms. PrEP is not an excuse to bareback. PrEP is not an excuse to shame those who choose condoms. PrEP is not a pass to act like a dick. PrEP is not an excuse to ignore the preferences of others. Nobody "has to" or "should" be on PrEP. Using "I'm on PrEP" or "you should be on PrEP" to get your way during sex, or to shame/guilt someone else is inexcusable. The science is clear about the efficacy of PrEP but you know what? Some people don't care. Some people don't believe it. Some people don't want it. Some people will use it and still want to use condoms. I'm concerned that the prevailing conversation about PrEP is a battle about the morality of barebacking and I think fighting about who is right in the world of sexual safety re-traumatizes folks routinely. I'm a PrEP user and advocate because it makes sense to me. I think PrEP is a useful tool, and one of many ways we can help insure the health and safety of our community and world. All of that said, I'm sorry, @Wolfer that your boundaries were not respected, and I hope that we learn from this and get better about listening to others and either choosing to respect boundaries or stay home and fuck our hands.

Thanks for the kind words - the guy in the photo is Mickey Carpathio - he's a good friend of mine, and we've had some really fun times both personally and professionally. He and I enjoyed doing our scene together, and if you get a chance to watch it, you'll see how much we love each other. If you want to see it in person, we enjoy spending time together, and have blown some minds, for sure!