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Exactly my point. Too many people hide behind this weak argument and are afraid to take ownership of their life's choices.

Exactly my thought. Even simple observations such as the commonality of homosexual activity by formerly heterosexual men while incarcerated or the history of homosexual relationships in the Navy (when sailships spent many months at sea) ..should dismiss any argument for "born this way". Clearly social influences and environment have a strong affect in your choices of sexual partner(s).

From Berger and Luckman: " Society determines how long and in what manner the individual organism shall live… Society also directly penetrates the organism in its functioning, most importantly in respect to sexuality and nutrition. While both sexuality and nutrition are grounded in biological drives… biological constitution does not tell him where he should seek sexual release and what he should eat.”

Xyz constantly responds to my posts with commentary that has nothing to do with what I just said. I scored 100% on my Scholastic Aptitude Test for grammar...so its unlikely that both of us are getting the same disconnected responses because of our language skills.

Constant responses that are disconnected from the conversation, would indicate there is some reading disability or cognitive issues.

Very nice explanation Tygerscent. Unfortunately a lot of gay men live in denial of their subconscious decisions made throughout life in who they find attractive . Somehow the "guilt" of homosexuality goes away when you can claim it wasn't your fault ...you were born that way.

Well...no. That's still a theory not a scientific fact. That is the subject of my conversation. I am saying the prevalence of bisexuality and the flexibility of people ...especially younger people shows that "born this way" is probably not accurate.

Correct. That's why I never do that .

The point wasn't about it not working for ME. I was saying "born this way" is not the case for MANY people. Gay men and women are very caught up in this idea that sexuality is congenital and this makes them very dismissive of those of us who aren't so inclined toward an absolute preference toward one gender or another. For my part, I've had relationships with both men and women over the years...so my choice in a long term partner was made after much experimenting. Haven't missed out on anything. I lived in NYC in the 90's. I've been places and seen things other people only fantasize about.

An old saying : If you can't find what you fancy.....fancy what you find. Maybe some realistic expectations and more focus on personality than looks will make you happier in the long run. People hire fantasies. Real life isn't always as pretty ..but its more fulfilling

Difficult to communicate with ...so assuming ESL.

In my youth I would go to sex parties and have sex with more than 40 people in one night . I think my max for ejaculations was seven in one evening. Now in my 50s I can still do three over the course of an evening. Its all about your testosterone levels ..which vary dramatically from person to person. Obviously mine are ridiculously high.

Bravo.

Yes. I don't remember the high heel section. The other problem that your comment calls attention to, is that over the years the favorite source of IQ test would change and the metrics ( although similar ) 130 to 160 being high ranking, makes it impossible to compare notes with other people. I remember when I took it, 140 was considered "genius level" and other tests it was 150 and some 130...so hardly standardized when you can't even interpret the test scores from one year to another or one school district to another.

I agree that it may no longer be about nationality but I doubt it includes BDSM unless you lived next to a dungeon !

There's a LOT of O.F. promoting ( teasers ) on Twitter. I don't do Only Fans....so this makes it easier to reach out for potential private ( in person ) "shows".

Well....Not everyone is a size-queen. But yes...it is the new normal for guys who have a little extra attractive offering... whether that be model looks, a sexy six pak or extra sausage meat on the menu.

I'm pretty sure most people when referring to "boy next door" they still mean All American and straight up. Not kinky Jews in leather bondage gear !

Depending on what year you took the test ...150 was the line for "genius". If you struggle in some categories that score was unlikely. You needed to be fairly diverse in your aptitudes to get there.

Well...that's on YOU. I've explained myself .

And some choose a lifestyle that best suits their Kinsey scale position. People are born on a sexual spectrum....and most find partnerships on one end or the other and some go back and forth trying to decide which suits them best. ( See Hollywood's various mood-changing Lesbians )

That may be used as some "code" for conservatives to turn their nose up at non-traditional relationships ...but I was the one who used the term and I am far from conventional. My history of adult relationships was as open minded and unconventional as you might get. So it was hardly stated with any bigotry. I am making a point that is hard for many homosexuals to swallow ( pun intended)...that many of us DO indeed choose our pathway in lifestyle when we aren't so solidly predisposed in our sexual attractions to one gender or another. "Born this way" works for some homosexuals but not everyone on the LGBT spectrum .

Even with your explanation, I still don't understand how four concurrent inquiries are implicitly selfish. If you booked four and cancelled three....then yes. Of course that's selfish....but not inquiries....that just shopping around, which everyone does.

Well...THIS is about as good as it gets. *Yum* Who's the model, I wonder. He's definitely worth stalking on Insta. 🤣

I looked better at 44 !! 😂