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Jeremy Gittins is still around. Probably not as dishy these days.

I'm no size queen.....but 4.8" erect ?? That was the average ? When I look back at the thousands of guys I fucked over the years, I've rarely seen one that small. When was this the average ? The 1800's ?

Daisy was always my favorite. Judy Cornwell brought such warmth and kindness to the character.

Happy to know she's still around. Keeping Up Appearances was always one of my favorite Brit-coms.

Although I agree that would definitely be great. Building codes can make this difficult to offer depending on the space. Closed rooms have requirements for light and air in NYC. A space with a wall that doesn't reach the ceiling doesn't count as a separate room, so it avoids certain restrictions for subdividing a space with many windowless rooms. Air conditioning systems can be centrally located far more cheaply than running individual ductwork to multiple individual closed rooms. So there is also a cost consideration when this more elaborate kind of system can cost many thousands of dollars more.

I just don't see anything so exceptional that I'd pay $ 500 an hour for this fellow's company. He's pleasant looking, but he's no porn star. Good luck to him. But I'm not impressed. For $ 1000. he'd have a lot of work to do to make me feel like I got my money's worth. Pass.

I agree with your sentiment here. This refuting of the "straight-acting" personality is another product of this trend in gay society to suppress mainstream culture, and elevate those who have traditionally lived in the margins. Although I think we can all agree that people who don't "fit in" should not be persecuted, and have every right to live their life in a way that makes them happy, the rest of us shouldn't be forced to celebrate them as our own heroes. You don't need to tear down everyone's history, to make room for your own. Masculinity has absolute biological preference. So let's stop pretending we don't know what "gay acting" and "straight acting" means. You can certainly support people's rights for self determination, without pretending to not see the differences. This new social justice ideology of blending everyone as "the same" is ridiculous and anti-intellectual. We can all live together if we simply learn to be tolerant of our differences instead of pretending they don't exist. If a provider advertises as "straight", we know he means "straight acting". Most of them aren't actually straight. It's all a performance and marketing. I know I personally admired the big tall masculine guys on the sports teams. I used to swoon when Tom Brady lived nearby and he'd say hello to me at the local coffee shop when I'd bump into him there. Yes, I would be more likely to contribute more to the fantasy of a chance with a "str8" guy than I would with an obviously gay guy. It's always what we CAN'T get so easily, that we want more and will pay more to get it.

No one is denying any of that. What we are saying is you can't FORCE everyone to NOT see what's in front of them. That's all. Anyway...the conversation is about straight providers, and masculinity, not transgenderism.

I disagree. No one is judging transgender people for being transgender. Most people who have posted comments here are simply saying that they are a separate community category and should be treated as such. I think part of the problem that makes transgender people commit suicide is the PRETENDING to be what they're not. If you spend your entire day lying to everyone, and pretending to be something else, you're definitely going to be pretty depressed after a while. What everyone is suggesting is that you call an apple and apple. I know a lot of feminists are pretty disturbed by men involving themselves in women's movement, by calling themselves women. Trans people should be identified as trans people. Simple. I don't need to walk in someone else's shoes to know that. I think persecution more often comes from getting in other peoples business than minding your own.

The most common suggestion that people have is that they would like to see on the website a list of WHO is working at the spa and WHEN they are working there. Individual masseurs are often recommended here but with no way to know what hours they are available. I know in Thailand, some of the spas have individual pages for each masseur with an automated calendar showing their bookings. Some even have photographs of the masseur. I think that is something that would put you ahead of most spas that have very random availability with the guys.

Agreed. They used to diagnose you as schizophrenic when you made up your own reality. Now it's celebrated as your right and everyone is supposed to follow along with your nonsense. I agree that trans people absolutely have a right to live happy lives and shouldn't be ridiculed, abused or neglected. But these people are in a category of their own, and that's where they will be best understood. Not trying to PRETEND to be something they are NOT.

The only reason Escorts are able to extort money out of people is the sense that you won't go to the police and admit that you hired an escort in the first place. This is why I always suggest that on a first meet. Ask for a massage. Massage work is perfectly legal, and priced more cheaply. If you like the guy after a simple massage session and you know they also escort, then you have a relationship already established and any sexual connections in your future are a matter of two consenting adults agreeing to meet for some fun. Don't let this event freak you out about trying again. Just change your strategies and never have them meet in your apartment or hotel room. Always meet outside to confirm that it's the same person you were engaging online. Good luck.

I've been to 3F studios many time and MMX studios above. Both businesses do a lot to support young men in the industry with a safe / clean space to practice at a reasonable cost. 3F studio is destroyed MMX is seriously damaged. I have donated to both in their recovery efforts. There are many providers who use the space.

MMX sent me an email claiming the fire was caused by the dryer down at 3F studios. Not an electrical fire as previously assumed. I've seen this before. One of my client's entire house burnt down because they didn't clean their lint trap. A maintenance issue that no one ever takes seriously. I hope Aaron is able to rebuild. Bumping up his gofundme page for anyone feeling like supporting Aaron's role in helping the young men in the massage community.

My doctor recommends condoms and being selective about one's sexual activity. Saying, the long term liver damage and bone deterioration of Truvada is not worth the ability to go raw-dog with a hot bottom boy. I do understand that Descovy supposedly has a better reputation about deteriorating your insides after long term usage. So if you are afraid of condoms or have that weird latex allergy, then Descovy seems to be the way to go.

Back to the subject at hand ...I think @José Soplanucashas brought up an interesting point about desire. He is insisting that if a trans has the desire to be a woman everyone should play along and pretend that dude is a woman. So likewise if a client wants to believe his provider is "straight" and the provider presents himself as masculine,,, then he's straight ! Doesn't matter that he's fucking dudes up the ass. Just believe. 😉

Being a realist doesn't make one a trans-phobe. The Journal of Critical Realism would support my position. https://doi.org/10.1080/14767430.2018.1493884 An acrimonious debate has emerged about transgenderism. Trans-activists defending the full spectrum of the latter have advocated a form of identity politics based upon individual self-definition. However, gender-critical feminists (within another current of identity politics) have disputed the legitimacy of these bids for self-determination, especially when considering men who are claiming to be women. These contrasting positions are examined and their political implications explored. The focus of the paper is on the intransitive aspects of sex and the transitive aspects of gender. The former, with rare exceptions, is a binary whereas the latter is open to social negotiation and variation. The article argues that the gender-critical position is broadly aligned with critical realist philosophy, though the counter view is represented in order to clarify this point of reflection. It ends with a discussion of the ‘trans debate’ and the public policy development emerging in its wake.

I would imagine that for most everyone the first time isn't going to be on script. Navigating any human interaction takes experience and there's always unexpected events. You either take the session as your provider wishes, or you spell out a "blow by blow". After a few meets you will find someone who checks all the boxes. This sounds like a good start, even if it wasn't perfection. Better luck next time !

In fact, some "undetectable" gay men are sloppy about taking their HIV therapy medication and this creates a "viral rebound" effect. The HIV infection becomes active and infectious again within a few weeks of forgetting to take their meds. Science article attached below. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7046528/

No one has their own truth. Facts are facts. You may be a dude who wants to live like a woman, and I have no problem with that fact. I do have a problem with people creating a false reality and expecting me to play along. Feeling like a woman doesn't make you a woman.

Let's see how many immediately deny the science - Although much research has commonly used heterosexual samples, both lab and field studies on romantic partner preferences amongst gay men, consistently highlight a commonplace desire for masculine over feminine traits in potential partners. (Bailey et al., 1997; Clarkson, 2006; Laner & Kamel, 1977; Sanchez & Vilain, 2012; Tayawaditep, 2002). Sanchez and Vilain (2012)

Everyone is so elegant. I always love watching these clips and seeing how charming Hollywood used to be.

Wasn't that a Red Hot Chili Peppers song too ?

I hope it wasn't unlicensed electrical work being done. Because that could be a very unfortunate outcome with the insurance