pubic_assistance

I am very well aware. I don't understand your ranting about "my insecurities" I simply asked what kind of people are hitting you up. Inquiring minds want to know. As I got older, the types of people who would hit me up changed. I can't get just anything I want anymore. That's why I hire from time to time. Mostly I get Latino twink.boys and 30ish Asian chicks. Neither are interesting to me.

I would say pursuit of a long term relationship might be disappointing unless one of you is open to changing geography. As far as the profession. That's on YOU. There is no reason that you can't have a relationship with a masseur as long as your jealousies don't take over your brain. What you can certainly maintain is a nice romance and ride it out as long as it sustains a mutually enjoyable experience for both. I think we all do better finding the love of our life by trying out as many mini-meets as possible.

I agree, the young actor is a handsome young fellow...but Americans find physical attraction to men under 20 to be cringey. Most young men are sexually mature by 16, but Americans consistently consider anyone under 19 to 20 to be "children". So we are not to see them as sexually attractive. Let's say the young actor WILL make a handsome man SOME DAY. 😉

Mismatching statements. If he were a restaurant, then we'd expect to pay more for a "fantastic experience". In fact most every fantastic experience is going to cost more than a mediocre or average experience. So, I hardly think $500+ is a "high rate" compared to the number of mediocre providers charging $400.

@pubic_assistance, I don’t have influence anymore… Strange behavior.

Forgive my misunderstanding. I was under the impression you had more of an influential relationship with this person.

Then maybe you didn't understand my point. Because it was very much, directed toward the narrative that you shared. A bisexual man raising a homosexual son should know better than to direct his son's sexual partner to "dump him". If my son took up with a buddy of mine, then I'd be comforted in knowing he was enjoying the company of a good person and happy knowing he was being offered mature mentorship in his sexual explorations. I would be the one to step away. Not deny my child access to a positive role model.

OK. But maybe a little research will change your mind, because it is an often referenced psychological analysis of homosexual behavior. "Born-this-way" is political/ not scientific

Yes. I appreciate hearing other people's experiences as mine is, of course, anecdotal. I would, however say I find the subject fascinating so I have had more than a few conversations on the topic..and I know a LOT of bisexual men with children. When I have the opportunity to chat with gay men I always try to wind the conversation in a direction to inquire about their relationship with their father. So my opinion is not based on a gigantic research project but it is based on 30 years of observations within my own social circles. Which in NYC are somewhat multicultural and economically varied. I suppose it is possible to be bisexual and make the same mistakes your own father made. I know my boys had all the love and affection a child could get because I suffered a distant father myself.

"Proposotioned" by WHAT ?

Blowbuddies is a little TOO "diverse" for MY tastes. I'm not into bears or daddies and the venue tends to start there and descend quickly to just old and fat. I spent the hour pushing people away because I was the only fit man I'm attendance the night I visited. Tried again years later and left quickly, having suffered the same result. If you LIKE hairy bears then it's probably fun for you. There is a lot of activity as people seem to get down to business pretty quickly.

Yes @Lucky. As much as you think people with differences in philosophical viewpoints are stupid, there ARE people who can respect that people are just different. Different viewpoints borne from different life experiences. In this case, I grew up middle class with aspirations to be able to enjoy the services that I observed were afforded the upper middle class. As I grew older, the world has changed and even the "uppers" are subjected to help-yourself attitude in retail. But i didn't work this hard to do self service, so I don't. I won't bully anyone to get it but I do admit to acting confused that I should be expected to do so. 😜

It's rare for a homosexual to have a bisexual father. If this story is true (if)...then you've uncovered a sexual unicorn. 99% of the gay men I've met in my life have fathers who are emotionally unavailable either through extreme layers of machismo or cultural norms that distance the father from parental roles. I would expect a bisexual man to NOT make that mistake with his children, since that bisexuality is often a remnant of his own earning for a male intimacy he was denied in childhood.

Lol. Someone would have to be pretty naive to think a well known pop star is doing massage on the side.

Do people still use A4A ? I haven't used that to hook up since the early 2000's. And the pro section ALWAYS seemed more full of con-artists than actual pros.

Do people change their sexual tastes over the years ? My preferences haven't budged since the 80s.

Well...the "ugly American" is one who demands that Europeans comply with their own American standards. In this case the idea of self-service is already an ugly American invention so my expectations were the opposite. (Also I wasn't demanding all....in these instances I just act like I'm mentally disabled). Blind, elderly and stupid people still get help. 😉

I don't even pump my own gas. So I refuse to pack my own groceries. I was in London this summer and jumped into a market from some fruit. They ONLY had a self check out (with a little glass gate that wouldnt let you out without scanning your receipt). So when I want service, I just act like I just got off the short bus. I deliberately fucked up the scanner over and over until someone came and took care of my order for me. Then I looked around and said where's the bag ( they charge for bags ). The attendant wanted rid of me by than and didn't bother charging me for the bag. I made him hold it while I place my grapes inside. 🍇 'fuck 'em. I'm not getting paid to work in the store.

I keep profiles "buddy listed" that I found interesting ( and some who've been vetted here ). Since many of these guys travel around. I check the list to see if anyone I've spotted before is visiting the same location where I am too. Saves time digging through a lot of useless profiles. I believe i have about 50 profiles tagged as "worthy of a try".

I am happy that they avoided the myth that Diana was an innocent victim. Her mental illness contributed to much of her unhappiness. Not to say the royal family are the easiest or that the marriage was the best. But she was far from innocent. I also like that they are portraying William as being conscious of her troubles while Harry is oblivious. As adults, the two have different memories of the same events. Leading to much tension between them and their wives.

CDC is not indicating an uptick in cases in the US. ( see chart below) indicating a low point in the infection rate in the US.

Yes ! I have a building in Harlem where a bunch of Puerto Ricans live. No matter how many times I've told them to NOT dump grease and paper towels down the drain or in the toilet...the sewer backs up at least twice a year. Blocked with grease and paper towels. They just don't care.

I've noticed over the years that a masseur offering a two hour erotic session will respect the two hour schedule while an escort will typically assume the session is over once everyone's dumped their load. To prevent this habit from cutting into your two hours, you need to be very specific about your desires for what happens after your orgasm. Whether it's bringing them to orgasm to cuddling to having a glass of wine...you need to give guidance, since some guys go for half an hour, drop a load, zip up and leave.