Ay, ay, ay...in bold above, my feelings encapsulated exactly. Kissing, to me, is the key to intimacy and possibly vulnerability. If we are not willing to surrender ourselves to either, what you will have in your hands is a collection of random hook ups instead of a string of human connections. Nothing bad with the former, but the latter, to me, is so much hotter! To Juan's eloquent point, for the human connection to happen, it has to be a 2-way street - client and compa gotta be willing to play, and to do so, listen to you partner, follow their cues