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It may not be fair to speculate, but is it any wonder why he was so careful to keep his private life "private?" IME, predators tend to be very controlling people, and they really like to control what others say about them. Hiding under the premise of "privacy" helps to tamper rumors. One can only imagine the trail of gropes and forced tongue lashings that Spacey has left behind. I can see a lot more men coming forward with their stories.

I know a few people who have survived sexual harassment, including a few rapes. "Complete sense" is not a requirement for me. I can't put myself in their shoes, so I'm not the one who needs to fully judge the details.
 
Rapp claims Spacey's "act" always bothered him. In show business, it would be very unusual for a teenage boy to rat out on an older actor. Most friends advise, "keep your mouth shut!" I'm sure plenty of actors engage in predatory behavior among other show folk. I don't think we're going to see a groundswell of individual confessions. Rapp said it was the recent brave women who inspired him to speak out loud.
 
I saw Rapp in Rent 7 times. I was an early addict of that show. Rapp and Adam Pascal made my heart flutter. Loved them both.

I believe Rapp is quoted today, saying he was picked up "like a bride" and taken to Spacey's bed when Spacey laid on top of him once there. I don't believe Rapp went willingly to Spacey's bed. No matter what the details were regarding two male thespians alone in Spacey's home, Spacey crossed a serious line by trying to seduce a 14-year-old boy into having sex, even if the 14-year-old was a willing accomplice, which it seems Rapp was not.

In many top spas, if a customer complains about an experience turning sexual, the service provider will most likely be fired or suspended immediately. In the spa where I worked, naked massage customers were always covered with a luxury sheet during a massage. No one was allowed to lie on the plush massage beds uncovered. There will always be men and women who attempt to break the rules, no matter gay or straight. In a professional environment, especially high-end, the rules tend to be very strict, mostly because there is a lot of money on the line. Lawsuits can be a serious problem in this realm.

When I was in my later teens, performing in community theater, it was pretty common for older gay men to "grab crotch," and prey on the younger boys. I was warned to watch out for certain men at cast parties, especially the parties that served liquor. The "grab crotch" guys did it as if they had some sacred right to do it. Add alcohol and cigarette breath to their assault, and perhaps you can imagine the dread I felt.
 
As a teen, I never liked having my package grabbed unprovoked. It wasn't sexy, because it was irritating. Even as an adult, I prefer a more gentle hand. I was not into guys older than I was. It took many years of maturing before I could figure all this out and decide how I wanted to behave and how I wanted to be treated.
 
I could see the "grab crotch" men of those days hating what's going on now. It puts them in their place and warns them. Lay off, and keep your fucking hands and tongues to yourself.

When I was in my later teens, performing in community theater, it was pretty common for older gay men to "grab crotch," and prey on the younger boys. I was warned to watch out for certain men at cast parties, especially the parties that served liquor. The "grab crotch" guys did it as if they had some sacred right to do it. Add alcohol and cigarette breath to their assault, and perhaps you can imagine the dread I felt.
 
As a teen, I never liked having my package grabbed unprovoked. It wasn't sexy, because it was irritating. Even as an adult, I prefer a more gentle hand. I was not into guys older than I was. It took many years of maturing before I could figure all this out and decide how I wanted to behave and how I wanted to be treated.
 
I could see the "grab crotch" men of those days hating what's going on now. It puts them in their place and warns them. Lay off, and keep your fucking hands and tongues to yourself.

When I was in my later teens, performing in community theater, it was pretty common for older gay men to "grab crotch," and prey on the younger boys. I was warned to watch out for certain men at cast parties, especially the parties that served liquor. The "grab crotch" guys did it as if they had some sacred right to do it. Add alcohol and cigarette breath to their assault, and perhaps you can imagine the dread I felt.
 
As a teen, I never liked having my package grabbed unprovoked. It wasn't sexy, because it was irritating. Even as an adult, I prefer a more gentle hand. I was not into guys older than I was. It took many years of maturing before I could figure all this out and decide how I wanted to behave and how I wanted to be treated.
 
I could see the "grab crotch" men of those days hating what's going on now. It puts them in their place and warns them. Lay off, and keep your fucking hands and tongues to yourself.

When I was in my later teens, performing in community theater, it was pretty common for older gay men to "grab crotch," and prey on the younger boys. I was warned to watch out for certain men at cast parties, especially the parties that served liquor. The "grab crotch" guys did it as if they had some sacred right to do it. Add alcohol and cigarette breath to their assault, and perhaps you can imagine the dread I felt.
 
As a teen, I never liked having my package grabbed unprovoked. It wasn't sexy, because it was irritating. Even as an adult, I prefer a more gentle hand. I was not into guys older than I was. It took many years of maturing before I could figure all this out and decide how I wanted to behave and how I wanted to be treated.
 
I could see the "grab crotch" men of those days hating what's going on now. It puts them in their place and warns them. Lay off, and keep your fucking hands and tongues to yourself.

If the cock goes limp in the steamroom, it's a good time see a doctor. Could be a sign of a heart condition.

Famous actors and actresses are notoriously cheap. They tend to believe they deserve everything for free because they're "famous." It should be your pleasure to service them. They are often flooded with free gifts and perks, so it's easy to get spoiled and feel entitled.

It may not be fair to speculate, but is it any wonder why he was so careful to keep his private life "private?" IME, predators tend to be very controlling people, and they really like to control what others say about them. Hiding under the premise of "privacy" helps to tamper rumors. One can only imagine the trail of gropes and forced tongue lashings that Spacey has left behind. I can see a lot more men coming forward with their stories.

I believe Rapp is quoted today, saying he was picked up "like a bride" and taken to Spacey's bed when Spacey laid on top of him once there. I don't believe Rapp went willingly to Spacey's bed. No matter what the details were regarding two male thespians alone in Spacey's home, Spacey crossed a serious line by trying to seduce a 14-year-old boy into having sex, even if the 14-year-old was a willing accomplice, which it seems Rapp was not.

I'll take a pass on that. Never found the guy attractive at all. Bad skin. Bad hair. And from what we can see on House of Cards, his body isn't much to look at either. He has talent. I guess if you like fucking talent...

It's bad enough when the media uses the term incorrectly. It's very destructive when fellow gay men fall into that trap. In the professional world of psychiatry, there's a cut-off point for prepubescence. There is absolutely no evidence that Kevin Spacey is a pedophile, and we gay men should not stand by and let the media distort that fact. Certain media sources love to pin being gay with being a pedophile. We need to call them on their bullshit agenda and expose the fuckers for what they really are.

It wouldn't surprise me that Spacey either saw Rapp's performance or knew about the moment captured in the photo. I could see Spacey using that moment as a device to launch his "attack," making everything sort of seem normal, in a theatrical sense. Once Rapp fell to the bed with Spacey on top of him, things could have transitioned to weird very fast. A lot of us don't remember what are brains were like at 14, and most of us don't have any experience being seduced by an adult Broadway actor, when as a teenager, we're trying to build a career of our own in the theater business.

It's bad enough when the media uses the term incorrectly. It's very destructive when fellow gay men fall into that trap. In the professional world of psychiatry, there's a cut-off point for prepubescence. There is absolutely no evidence that Kevin Spacey is a pedophile, and we gay men should not stand by and let the media distort that fact. Certain media sources love to pin being gay with being a pedophile. We need to call them on their bullshit agenda and expose the fuckers for what they really are.

It wouldn't surprise me that Spacey either saw Rapp's performance or knew about the moment captured in the photo. I could see Spacey using that moment as a device to launch his "attack," making everything sort of seem normal, in a theatrical sense. Once Rapp fell to the bed with Spacey on top of him, things could have transitioned to weird very fast. A lot of us don't remember what are brains were like at 14, and most of us don't have any experience being seduced by an adult Broadway actor, when as a teenager, we're trying to build a career of our own in the theater business.

Usually, when you find one, the other ain't too far behind.

I know a few people who have survived sexual harassment, including a few rapes. "Complete sense" is not a requirement for me. I can't put myself in their shoes, so I'm not the one who needs to fully judge the details.
 
Rapp claims Spacey's "act" always bothered him. In show business, it would be very unusual for a teenage boy to rat out on an older actor. Most friends advise, "keep your mouth shut!" I'm sure plenty of actors engage in predatory behavior among other show folk. I don't think we're going to see a groundswell of individual confessions. Rapp said it was the recent brave women who inspired him to speak out loud.
 
I saw Rapp in Rent 7 times. I was an early addict of that show. Rapp and Adam Pascal made my heart flutter. Loved them both.

This just in: Netflix is halting its current production of House of Cards, which began taping a week and a half ago. The powers that be want to review the Spacey situation a bit more closely. Personally, I wouldn't mind if Season 6 opened with Frank Underwood's fatal heart attack. Claire could continue the story and be just as devious as Frank was, if not more. A whole new cast of characters could be introduced. The show could thrive with a few more seasons. I hope they consider this an opportunity instead of a loss. The supporting players are really good and they don't deserve to lose their jobs because Spacey is a horse's ass.

I believe Rapp is quoted today, saying he was picked up "like a bride" and taken to Spacey's bed when Spacey laid on top of him once there. I don't believe Rapp went willingly to Spacey's bed. No matter what the details were regarding two male thespians alone in Spacey's home, Spacey crossed a serious line by trying to seduce a 14-year-old boy into having sex, even if the 14-year-old was a willing accomplice, which it seems Rapp was not.

Looks like Spacey's career is over. Nobody will want to be associated with him now. Can only imagine the men who will come forward soon to out all the gay predators in business. If this truly is a watershed moment, the shit will hit the fan. Corey Feldman is very close to going public on Hollywood's pedophilia ring. Nobody is going to ignore him now.

I believe Rapp is quoted today, saying he was picked up "like a bride" and taken to Spacey's bed when Spacey laid on top of him once there. I don't believe Rapp went willingly to Spacey's bed. No matter what the details were regarding two male thespians alone in Spacey's home, Spacey crossed a serious line by trying to seduce a 14-year-old boy into having sex, even if the 14-year-old was a willing accomplice, which it seems Rapp was not.

That is certainly unfortunate. I've endured my share of altered realities in my stupid youth, and I've lost quite a few loved ones to hard core addiction. My younger brother shot himself in the head to end his misery. In my honest, most sincere opinion, the perfect high for this gay man is a drug-free, full-on healthy, natural life. If I'm in pain, I want to feel the pain and work my way through it. This gay man can't be around drugs users and addicts anymore. If for any reason you have a desire to be in an altered state, we can't be friends.

I do the same thing. It amazes me how many men don't seem to know, or understand, or care what the word "respect" means.
 
"Mutual touch" is a general indication that the guy is OK with you touching him. Sometimes it needs to be said because a lot of guys don't want to leave the "touch" door wide open, for a variety of reasons. How the "touch" is defined is a very personal decision. You show respect by asking about personal boundaries. A lot of guys respond nicely when you show them respect. They can become very generous when they realize you're not just a selfish taker.

I wouldn't concern myself with what others think of me or my questions. Someone on the internet is bound to be disagreeable at some point. You just ignore them. I tend to think there is no such thing as a dumb question. Just dumb and unkind people.
 
Don't think it's a good idea to judge your own looks, either. It's not easy to second guess the sexual turn-ons of others. Some of history's most talented seducers were not considered model types.