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A good escort will act so as to let you believe that you are the center of his earth.  As a client, when I see such an ad, I run the other way.  As I am neither, I would fear that this guy would not be able to be let me delude myself that his is as into me as I want to believe he is.  

After many many years of hiring 2-3x a year, I only rebooked once and he was a disappointment the second time due to things taking off in his career including porn.  Finally found a guy and have rebooked him.   It is emotionally exhausting trying to figure out if  and how you fit into this guys  MO for want of a better term.  No matter how much you communicate, escorts, particularly on a first meeting have their game plan that they fall back on.  While they might flip or flop on an activity to accommodate you, they have a way they function.   Escorts have their quirks and often ignore when you ask.  One guy I found out too late wouldn't kiss, for his BF only.  Another would let you top him but no fingers.    While it is also exciting to try new adventures, there is a great comfort in finding someone where you know the connection exists and the meeting will be physically and emotionally satisfying.  

Since RM only allows premium members to write reviews I don't have that problem.   But I would only write negatively about objective criteria, not if there was not "connection" as long as I felt the guy was "showing up" and not mailing it in.  

The price for escorts will continue to fluctuate based on supply and demand.   The biggest issue is the total lack of transparency, no one actually knows what the market is.    You set your price based on the amount of business you want and how much business you are getting.   Too busy, you can raise your rates, not busy enough you may want to lower them.  It might mean that you do have to see more customers to make what you want.  But for many this is a what ever I have left at the end of the month type of expense and this will affect what they are willing to or can pay.  

Just been looking at RM.  Seems on the free public pics, no one is showing the goods, all covered up.  Is this a change in RM policy to full frontal only in the premium pics or just those I happened to look at?  Thought I used to see quite a bit of cock but apparently no more

Rates are an important consideration as is location and availability.   If their location is given then the assumption is they can host, even like mid town or the name of the community if not central.  But if they can't host than that should be stated and if uber required or whatever should be noted.  Also many escorts have regular jobs or just don't like 3AM or even 11PM booty calls.  So days and hours would be helpful.  No sense in asking if they are available when they have a regular prior commitment.  On general I thought that Daddy's site worked pretty well for my needs. 

Thanks for your work on this

On 4/18/2023 at 4:25 PM, RadioRob said:

I had considered this, but there were a few concerns:

• Anything related to health status is a slippery slope.  PHI has specific legal requirements for both gathering and sharing.  Since we would be collecting info from someone other than the provider itself, there could be potential legal ramifications involved.  
• As a person hiring someone, do you really know about drug use?  I suppose if you saw it on the table, or saw their arms marked up you could, but that was something I would suggest being put into the freeform text field for describing the encounter.  I'm not sure its something that would make sense in the item record itself.  
• Regarding safe sex...  that's a possibility.  I'm inclined to put it in the premium field as I'm not sure I would want that visible to guests.  

PHI, protected health  information only restricts health care providers, nothing to prevent a non health care provider from relating information that the provider has told them or that they experienced/observed.  Nothing illegal ( just talking about legal here) about you telling your neighbor that the guy upstairs has AIDS, 

I have not had a regular until now because no one checked enough boxes until now.   Not that they flaked out or didn't give service, just never clicked enough.  Had only seen one guy twice prior and he was less than stellar on the second go round.  So I have seen this guy 3 times and await the 4th.  He comes to town about every 2 months or so and that the the frequency.  Still checking out new experiences, up to no,  had hired maybe 4 times a year.  Not sure if I will be exclusive with this guy as often or what I will do ongoing.  

The City of Las Vegas, in Clark County, NV,  is only about 20% of the valley, and the Strip is not in the City.  Ironically one of the localities that the strip is in is Paradise, the other is Winchester.  As a tourist you will never be aware of those names.  Anyway Prostitution is illegal in Clark County.   The main concern here is trafficing of young girls.  The place I would be careful of is the adult book stores and their theaters more than anything else.  

  I have found that I ask some simple questions for local providers so it is not to fit into a 3 day visit.  Can you host if yes where in town are you ( general location)?  Any times you are or are not available and what do you charge.  I never make a counter offer to a provider.  You are in business, you set your rates.   Your business profitability is not my concern.  I actually hire an out of towner when he comes to town (Las Vegas)   He actually takes a room in a top hotel just for customers, he stays in a different top hotel.  I know he somehow gets free rooms but the details of all of this really are none of my concern.  And he charges a low rate as he is an older guy.

But the last thing I want to do is to state what you are worth to me.  And I find that when I have said you are too expensive, to offer a lower rate or ask me what I can spend is really a turnoff.  If you want 3 and we negotiate 2, I wonder if you will really be into offering your full attention or just dialing it in.  

I will pay up to $300 max.  But I have found that over $200 what you are paying for is more the body than the experience.  You can't put a price on the connection you might or might no make.  The body will only get you so far.  Hiring can be of a ,whim and I will take the first guy available at whatever or sometimes I will see if several guys are available and go with the cheapest.  But I never haggle with a guy over his rate, and really don't like i if I say your are too high and he offers a lower rate.  I fear he will try to give less of him self, a discounted service for a lower rate.  

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I recently hired a provider, mid 30s,  who was in porn, but is transitioning to more behind the camera.  He stopped the action to tell me he needed to inject.  He said he sometimes has a little trouble getting hard and then the anxiety sets in and forgetaboutit.  He did say that he regularly uses it when performing as he does need to stay hard for hours and it is easier with the shot.  

I list my age  on RM as mid 60's so I leave you guessing as to the truth.   Once past the initial agreement, which is usually a week before the date, I do identify myself as older, also admit to having ED.  Never had a problem with an escort.  But if he were to cancel, I would look at it being for the best, don't want to waste my limited opportunities to hire to be ruined on a guy who is so judgmental.  

I just hired a guy.  Almost fell through because he told me no kissing and no oral.  I told him that the I could live with the no oral by him, ( I really was more interested in giving anyway, but no kissing was a deal killer.  He reconsidered as he had been getting colds and felt that was the cause,  but I guess he needed the job.   But he apparently gets enough work to  pay his bills.  But the thing that puzzles me the most is that while a top, he provides a BFE experience.  Who doesn't kiss their boyfriend?

I am not sure who on this is being rejected for age, the client or the escort.  But as what definitely qualifies as older in almost any demographic short of a nursing home, I don't ever recall being turned down due to my age, unless they just did not respond to an initial request for contact as location and rates.  Several ads I have seen specifically say into older men.  As I have aged, I find myself seeking older providers.  I now don't really look at guys under 30!  Older men seem to be less impressed by themselves and are realistic about their no longer quite so great bodies and thus able to personally relate more than the hotter younger guys.   For many reasons I have rarely hired the same guy more than once, but one that I recently have and plan on hiring again is not that far from Social Security and my body is at least in as good shape as his.  

Looking for 10s is futile because unless you are a 12, they won't give you the time of day.  Every town has its place where the hot guys hang out and then there are the places for the rest of us.  

A whole long time ago there was a store in GV, I believe the Village Squire, which was one of the few places you could get anything sexier that BVD's   I was like 22, newly into the scene and quite naïve.  So I was trying on either some underwear or a bikini swim suit in the try-on room.   All of the sudden the curtain gets pulled open as the sales clerk came to "check to see how I was doing".  I was too taken aback to respond so he closed the curtain.  Not sure if he just wanted a peak or to do something.  Opportunity missed. 

If you are bottoming and the top has an average or medium PA, how aware of it will you be, what will you feel if much of anything? 

Sherman's Deli.  As a native and long time New Yorker,  nothing I had there, particularly the pastrami is fully spiced like in in NY.  Never find a Sherman's knish in NY either.  It wasn't bad, just very different.  

I don't get the opportunity too often but I do use an enema.  I have never had the pleasure of a prolonged bottom session.  I will use a suppository to initially clean out and then a few shallow enemas to get the rectum clean.  I try to do this a few hours before and also take an Imodium to prevent residual water leaking out.  Lots of water way up high, I never seem to get fully clean.  

On 1/9/2023 at 6:17 PM, buckguy said:

I was going through some books and found my copy of "Hustling". It's quick read--Preston was a fine writer with economical prose. Many of the specifics are dated (agencies, hustler bars), but his understanding of clients and his respect for the diversity and variation in sexual experience seem relevant. I remember Aaron Lawrence dismissing the book as "dated" (and, of course promoting his own book), but missing that Preston was talking about human interaction and broad business principles. I read Lawrence's book in a couple sittings and it was clear that he didn't respect his clients. Given that he veered off into crappy born and general attention seeking, I'm guessing he either made a pile with good investments or did something dumb like buy gold at the wrong time.

As I was reading about books I was trying to think of an escort who was very active many years ago and you had his name Aaron Lawrence.  I was wondering about his book but you made it obvious that there is no need to look for it now.  Do you know what happened to him.  He was so active, at least in persona

But there was no real loss avoided to the company.  No one is just going to hand 4 million over to anyone trying to cash that check.  They would have just re issued it. But they do lack class.  

Thanks for your input.  It was clear that it was for 90 minutes.  When the phone went off, I knew that we had been at it for close to the time but I did not know if he set it for like 75 minutes to ease into ending.   But there are some subtle but clear signals that our time together is ending, lets wrap this up.  I have hired more than enough guys to not only pick them up but have an eye out for them so to speak.  But here when the alarm went off, his vibe was lets get back at it, where were we.  If I was not hiring him again I really would not be concerned, but this might be an ongoing thing and I just wanted to be clear on this matter.     

Who is responsible for keeping tack of the time of a session?   I recently hired a guy.  When I booked and gave him a 30 minute time of my arrival, he said no problem as long as we were set on the duration, so I figured he would watch the time closely, OK.   I have hired many and some do keep more closely to the agreed to time than others, more in the time before and after the action starts, like 5-10 minutes of chat while getting ready,  dressing after etc.   I don't know about others but I have always felt that the escort was more in charge of the pacing of the session, particularly the 60 to 90 minute sessions that I book where the action will generally follow the usual sequence.    I saw him adjust his cell phone and place it bedside.  When it went off, at what I thought was probably but I was not sure,  the end of the 90 minutes, he turned it off and continued to aggressively play.   I did shortly end the play mainly because my time schedule did not allow for longer, but I got the feeling that he would have played even longer.  When somehow time came up , he said it was when the phone went off.  For me this is a luxury that I can barely afford and did not plan on and could not tip him.    

Now I have booked him again and while I do plan on giving him a few extra bucks if we go over    But what do you do when the escort obviously and knowingly  is just giving you extra time without mentioning it?  It is not like he said our time had ended,  what do you want to do?   Am I really supposed to pay him the rate for the unasked for extra time, not that I do not appreciate it.  It's not hours, but maybe 15 or 20 minutes.  

And what exactly is the penalty outlined in the NDA  for exposing (pun intended) the encounter?   And what is the benefit to the client?   If there is no action by him, then he can just dismiss it as gossip.   If he sues you in court, for disclosure  or slander, he is just giving credence to your allegations.  Court actions are public.   Headline Senator John Doe wins 1K for escort violating a NDA about their encounter on 1/1/2003