Ok, I've never met Vin. I note the comments others have made. I respect his sadness that people have made comments that are hurtful, and he has a right to feel hurt. I certainly would if I faced similar comments.
That said, I have chatted with Vin in the main forums here, and (as I recall) in PM as well. I have said things that are far more familiar than should happen between total strangers in a forum such as this. When I did, he was a total gentleman, he responded with grace and humour, and was open. I don't know if we could have met but that is beside the point. He is sweet and considerate, and that is the image of him that I will retain, unless of course I can meet him and update that image!