mike carey

Oh, the appalling heat! A positively tropical 15°C here today, good for July. (At midnight it's 2°.)

To restate, or complement PK's response, you are conflating two questions. 1) is the friend racist, and 2) if so, what should he do. Yes, he was looking for advice, but only on the second question, he's decided on the first. You don't need to know what the racism was to provide advice on what to do. You can offer either an unnuanced answer, for example, 'He's a friend, look past it'. or 'He's racist, dump him', or a nuanced one, such as posing hierarchy of responses depending on the severity of the racism involved. To do the latter you don't need to know where on the severity spectrum this instance lies. It's certainly easier if you can pin down the 'how racist' question and offer specific advice, but an answer that simply says that it depends how racist covers it. If you wanted to be specific in the absence of knowing exactly what had happened, you could offer a range of examples and what your reaction would be to each.

Well, I thought of piers, wharves and jetties, but the track you took didn't occur to me!

Thank you so much.

But I can't be definite about that.

And 'an'.

No, there isn't much of that. The demand isn't there as the clients can find providers legally, so they don't look on the streets from what I can tell. (And I'm not in a red-light area.) Thanks for your kind thoughts, I've worked through it, and I'm fine so far.

I couldn't agree more. That said, I think back to Chinese take-away when I was a kid, and I know that my mother loved the fact that she only had to set it out on the table rather than cook it all. It's a different world, and if I can bring home a meal I wouldn't take the time to cook, that's a bonus. It's not the same as a dining out experience, but it's still different to cooking for yourself.

@Benjamin_Nicholas, I'm reflecting on your twitter comment that certain characteristics of your online persona lead to 'a shit ton of email' from people wanting certain experiences, and wondering whether I was one of them even though I had not actually posted any comments. I think I'm traumatised. Or I could be open to that.

Some gentlemen allow the number of photos to grow. One well-regarded gentlemen was in the sixties (images, not age) but shifted most of them to semi-private. I don't judge them for that.

I surprised myself by saying double check mark rather than double tick, which is what I would call it. I must be acclimating. (That would be acclimatising.)

I'm sure the same thing is happening there, but here one of the features of the lock downs has been the number or restaurants, some very good, that are doing take-away and delivery. In the ACT they are allowed to provide wine with the take-away. I'm ashamed that I haven't taken sufficient advantage of this service as I can afford it.

It's not unique to Las Vegas or the US. There is a perception here that the police have quotas to meet, mainly for alleged traffic offences. It's not just revenue based, either, the police seem to have statistical targets that they need to meet to demonstrate that they are out enforcing the law, and also junior police demonstrating to their supervisors that they are doing so. It's messy. Thankfully, sex work is not illegal here so that's not part of it. By way of contrast, I had a burglary/home invasion a couple of months ago, and the police attended at the time. I had five officers attend the next day to ask more questions and door-knock in the area, two forensic officers turn up to see what they could find (nothing as it happened) and two detectives come out to conduct a recorded interview a few days later. They had recovered some of my property, but this was not an exercise in running up statistics.

The key thing from my perspective, and which I infer from Chris' comments above, is the insight that a former* sex worker has from that experience. If it gives them insight that is a plus, any therapist who lacks insight is likely to be unsuccessful. * I suspect a lot of sex workers have that sort of insight and bring it to the bed where they meet you, if you're open to receiving it in that setting.

Appointing an agent may be a very good idea. What the landlord will do depends on their scale (so, whether they have a lot of properties nationwide so they can afford to stiff you in one location). A smaller scale landlord may be more amenable to negotiation. And if your not in a mall, you are likely to be better off.

When you open your messages and look at the page for the provider that you contacted, if there is a small icon to the left of your message that looks like a double check mark, that indicates that he has opened it. I can't remember what the icon looks like before they do that (a sort of curved arrow, I think).

The question that @purplekow asked related to what he would or should do if he discovered that a lover was racist, it was not whether what that lover did or said was racist. It doesn't matter in the slightest whether anyone else agrees that the person was racist. If he thinks they were, whether anyone else agrees with his assessment is immaterial, he neither needs or wants someone else's assessment that, 'That's not racist.' Turning the question around from PK's friend, his question was, if you find a friend or lover is racist (in your subjective assessment), what do you do about that. The question does not ask us to assess his lover's alleged racism, it asks us what we would do if we were is a situation where we perceived a lover to be racist.

I think it makes valid points despite it being in the Post. It will become known that masks protect society from the people who wear them more than the other way round, so wearing one will likely become a signal that 'I care about your health'. I have seen news reports that purport to show Speaker Pelosi wearing fancy masks that match the rest of her outfit, and of people in Paris seeking to make style statements with the design of the masks they wear. I haven't worn one yet, but I can see that in some circumstances I would, and as I have posted in other threads I have bought some surgical masks and also ordered some cloth ones online (including pride masks). If we're going to wear them I see no reason why we would not make the same fashion statements that we do (or don't) with other items of clothing.

Or perhaps in Guaraní!

I agree, I booked a package through a travel agent here when I did it in 2003, I forget how much it was, which included flights to and from BsAs, hotel (Sheraton I think) and transport and guide for three of us. You get a different perspective from the two sides, and as I remember, the grand perspective from the Brazilian side impressed me more. I wouldn't have missed either. We were based on the Argentine side and did a day trip to the Brazilian side. As I recall, that included a more-meat-than-you-could-eat lunch. We did a jet-boat trip on the Argentine side from a bit downstream up to the falls.

As others have said, it makes no sense that it could be safe to eat something cold, but if you want to heat it, you need to heat it to 165°F (74°). I read the advice to be precautionary in case the times in the danger zone had exceeded two hours (or one hour above 32°), or on the presumption that the person reheating the food didn't know how long it had been stored at those temperatures. The notion that the safe time suddenly halves at 32° doesn't pass the common sense test, but it does illustrate the point that higher temperatures in the zone are more dangerous. If you know its history, heating food as little or as much as you want shouldn't be a problem. (The Australian guidelines have the danger zone from 5-60° and the temperature for reheating at 75°, but it specifies that temperature for high risk foods, not as a standard for all foods. The article I read didn't define 'high risk'.)

Well, warmer than it was here today. By about 1.5 degrees. At least it's been sunny here, after the fog lifted. I was in those islands some years ago, and turned the television on in the middle of the weather report. I almost had heart failure when they said it would be 10 degrees. Then I realised it was a Canadian station.

No pictures of cute critters unless you count the black cat in the feature image for the page (or the dog in the thumbnail for the previous episode on the right of the page), but rather an engaging set of talks on the theme of What we can learn from cats. As it says in the web page this was presented at the Melbourne Writers Festival in 2018 and was broadcast this week as part of a week of ABC programming featuring issues about mental health. The first segment starts out with a child wanting a cat, 'forcing' his reluctant mother to check out a newly born kitten in the neighbourhood, and having the story take an unexpected turn before their new cat is old enough to bring home. https://www.abc.net.au/radionational/programs/bigideas/what-we-can-learn-from-cats/12353946

This is posted as part of the ABC Radio National's 'Fictions' feature but it was aired as an account of the experiences of a paramedic in these times. It sounds authentic but it fits into the style of short audio pieces that they post in Fictions. It certainly sounds like a realistic representation of the sort of situations a paramedic would face. https://www.abc.net.au/radionational/programs/lifematters/corona-tales-%E2%80%94-d-is-for-danger/12336230

@xyz48B, I agree with all of that. I somehow doubt that latinx will come into general usage because it's contrived and awkward, especially in spoken usage, but also because most people are unlikely to see a reason for making the point that the word was invented to make.