I'm sure my sympathy would have thrown me into the deep end of the pool, and I would have made a complete mess of things for the both of us. I wish I could have your presence of mind in such situations.
There is also the flipside. I have read accounts about straight and gay men who have regrets from their penises being too large.
While I am wholly supportive of quality-of-life circumstances justifying an individual's right to his/her end-of-life decision, I do not consider being dissatisfied with ones own penis size a valid justification.
My condolences to you and your family. When life renders such a particularly harsh and unfair tragedy, the grief is compounded immeasurably. The strength(s) you have exhibited while addressing your own difficulties will surely be beneficial and much appreciated by your family in these times.
Crotchety old man here. This scenario has failings in a few quarters: The host who was compelled to invite an additional guest should have first consulted with the other hosts; the first extra person invited should definitely have not invited an additional guest without prior approval; the second extra person invited should have declined the invitation and definitely should not have invited the third extra person. For me, a "relaxed" and "informal" dinner party describes the mood of the party but not the work and stress involved in developing the food and beverage menus and finalizing the guest list to bring everything together. The presence of additional guest(s) who are not well-known to the other guests neutralizes "relaxed" and "informal."
Edited: Corrected "neutralizes" for "naturalizes."
Certainly an attractive man, but he never "did it" for me in either the thespian or hormonal sense. Whatever his choice, I hope he feels good about it as a choice rather than a dictate.
You have to aim high to hit high. He should also be mindful of the taxes, utilities, insurance, housekeeping and lawn-care financials for his dream home, as well as the insurance and post-warranty maintenance expenses for high-end automobiles.
This is an important step toward minimizing first-contact awkwardness for me. In the future, when contacting masseurs, I might ask if genital therapy for the relief of stuffy nasal passages is one the services available.