To the point in the title of the thread, I would say you were definitely discriminated at work. It takes time to train yourself to be constantly on guard, but it's worth the effort. At the very first remark about grey hair and dad bod, I would have asked if I should expect age discrimination from everyone here at (company name)? Any non-white friends--I don't ask friends for DNA information, do you? Driver license picture--you show me yours, I'll show you mine. I detest confrontation, but sometimes you won't get any respect until you release the bitch in you.