agentgemini

Oh my, what a memory!
It was summer 1995 (I was in my early 30s and yes I was quite handsome and hot 😎), working for a couple weeks in Hamilton, Canada. One day I went to Toronto to spend the day. After typical tourist stuff I decided to walk through what I knew was the "Gay Street" (can't remember the name or where..) and I saw a Massage Parlor for Men. I walked up the external staircase a bit ashamed and when inside I asked to the guy at the counter about prices (I think 70 CAN$), and he told me there were two masseurs available. I looked at this gorgeous muscular stud and of course I knew it was him. When in the private room he told me his name was Frank, that he was Italian Canadian, and he told me to take off my clothes and lay on the table. He was wearing shorts and a tight T shirt and that's how he started to massage me. When I started to feel his semi hard cock against my arm he whispered to my ear that for 50 more CAN$ he would get undressed. Of course I said yes, and as soon as he exposed his gorgeous body and cock we forgot about the massage and I got an amazing passionate fuck. 
Unforgettable after 27 years.

Similar situation happened to me, perhaps even worse: I actually arrived at the guy's place, parked my car, texted him for the apartment number, and was told "Sorry I cannot host"
Tried to leave a warning on RentMasseur and it was rejected.

Yes, normally I wouldn't have booked a room.  In this instance it was someone I had wanted to meet for a long time but couldn't because of the pandemic.  Also I have family staying at my place so a hotel seemed the logical solution.   on RM he has near excellent reviews.  I take your point though and if nothing else I have learned a valuable lesson.

Yes, normally I wouldn't have booked a room.  In this instance it was someone I had wanted to meet for a long time but couldn't because of the pandemic.  Also I have family staying at my place so a hotel seemed the logical solution.   on RM he has near excellent reviews.  I take your point though and if nothing else I have learned a valuable lesson.

Trust me I have had a few and very recently one that has become rather popular on “Only Fans”
He couldn’t get to the airport apparently due to weather so decided to turn around and go home.   
Now while he did let me know he obviously didn’t make the flight.   
Upon trying to reschedule the visit I was met with “Well I am really to busy at this point”  So I obviously said “Well since your so busy reimbursing me for the ticket should not be an issue”. How many of you think I saw my 400 plus LOL.  
This is a prime example of someone who thinks he now “Famous” and has no regard for his clients or responsibilities.     
This however is the same guy that taken out to Dinner and Brunch on a previous visit chooses to pick his plate up and lick it clean in Public.     

Been there so many times, guy. I try to just chalk it up to a sometimes-shit-happens experience, not let it affect me in a personal way, and move ahead in hiring others who may turn out to be an amazingly good time and potentially become a regular provider for me. This isn’t necessarily advice as it is—after much trial and error—what happens to be working for me. Cheers 🙂

I have a slightly different take on this. A no show gives you the precious gift of time….and leaves money in your pocket for a better event. 

I try to be philosophic about it, but it does piss me off.
I don't have a job that gives me an abundance of leisure time, and a no show usually means no hiring for another week or two.
A no show is permanently blocked in my book, and liable to get a notice in this forum.

I almost 100 percent of the time have all my meetups at one of the casino hotels in Atlantic City because I have complimentary rooms at several casinos so when I schedule a meeting with a provider I always have that fear of a no show 
I do have a couple very professional and reliable regulars.....but once in awhile I like to try someone new who catches my eye 
Hence back in November 2020 I was messaging on RM with a provider named theoneandonly and we set up a potential meetup 
We ironed out the date, time, and his rate I even told him that I would cover tolls gas and parking 
Well you can guess what happened.  He was texting that he was getting ready to leave then that he got a later start but was on his way, that he was a certain number of hours away 
Then that was it and he went silent on me.....never showed up.  Left me with no backup guy at all 
Would never consider him again !!!!

There's nothing anyone on this forum can say that'll make you feel better.  We've all been there and it sucks.  Honestly it'll probably happen again to all of us at some point.  Just like if you fly enough you're bound to have a bad flight experience now and again.  Best thing you can do is move on to someone more reliable.

My sangfroid usually allows me to brush these things off, considering that the vast majority of my interactions have been positive. That said, a gorgeous blond who I flew out for a weekend to LA from Detroit and with whom I had a marvelous time failed to appear for a weekend in Philadelphia months later, with no response. The fare was around a little over a hundred bucks, so I shrugged and called Premier and ordered in a doppelgänger.

Once I get stood up by a provider, I NEVER give them a second chance. It's just my personal rule about this.
A while back I got stood up by a provider....and he texted me 3 days later to find out if I was still interested in meeting.  That was a new one on me. Of course I said yes and subsequently became nonresponsive.
 
 

I feel for you @agentgemini  It’s very frustrating when someone ‘no shows’. 
 
To answer your 1st question: this happened to me some years ago. I was left waiting on an overnight date in LA with a very well-reviewed muscleboy who was exactly ‘my type’. I was upset but stayed calm. I finally reached him by phone 4 hours after the time he’d set. He was very apologetic (but gave no reason) and begged for a second chance. A month later, I’d fixed another overnight from 6.30pm and I phoned him as arranged at 4pm with the WeHo hotel room number. He said he’d hurt himself and had to go to hospital. (I phoned him later on another phone to check how he was; he didn’t recognise my voice and instantly told me he was free to meet; I said I’d think it over) 
To answer your 2nd question: always have a Plan B. Because the well-reviewed versatile muscleboy had let me down once, I had the numbers of 4 other LA muscleboys with me. I phoned 3 and quickly set up dates. I saw a lovely guy for sex before dinner. Afterwards I had a well-muscled guy (later I discovered he was famous) for a great session before I slept. In the morning, I had the 3rd guy come and service me before breakfast. 
I had loads of fun with the 3 muscleboys and the 3 dates in total cost less than I’d agreed for the overnight with the ‘no show’. 

I moved on.

Life is short. Move on. 
Next time only work with an engaged provider.

I'm a client from the UK. I can tell you that the average rate charged by gay escorts in London has risen over the past year from £150 to £200 per hour. You can still find quite a lot of escorts charging £150, but I've found that £200 now is more standard. A lot have rates in between 150 and 200; I've spoken to quite a few who charge 160 or 180.
VG currently charges £130 for an hour on the premises, and £200 for an hour outcall (plus transport costs). So the rates at VG are still cheaper than the average rates charged by independent escorts. 
I should add that quite a few of the 'boys' working at VG also work as independent escorts - for example, Ostin from Russia who @Zippo5mentions, has a profile on RM and Sleepyboy as do a few of the other guys from VG. 
EDIT: Ostin is not my type (I prefer dark haired Latinos), but I know that he's very popular with a lot of clients.

I certainly am. 

I think he has, but he still apparently sees a number of regulars. Or at the very least is still in contact with them.

My most muscular meet-up was with Aaron Lazzaro. He had just completed a bodybuilding competition, so he was big and lean. Unfortunately, the experience was disappointing, but he was a nice guy.

Had a meeting for him Thursday at 8:30, cancelled at 8:11 lol... super hot and appealing to me and I may still try to meet but I can't stand a cancellation and it seems to be on trend for him

Aaron Lazaro now in Fl was great the first time, average and not worth repeating the second time.

Very hungry for muscle.

It looks like you have your own one figured out already. For most, having at least one article of clothing to be able to take off of them is best. What anyone does in a session like that varies widely with the interests of both parties.
 
I would personally never donate for a session like that, because IMO guys who are only willing to do this but not anything more are willing to explore their sexuality merely up to a point - a high price point. I'd much rather be with a man who could do this, but not limit himself to other things, too.

Hi. I don't think he is escorting anymore. I met him about 4 or 5 times over the years and we stayed in touch by WhatsApp. As far as I know, he had an accident or some sort ( I didn't pry as it seemed he did not want to discuss it). On his planet Romeo profile, I remember someone wrote in the comments section that he had an accident and that people should stop contacting him. Eventually, the profile was taken down. I have messaged him a few times when most of the world went into lockdown ( March 2020) but I haven't heard from him for nearly a year.
 
I hope he is okay. He is a nice, intelligent guy apart from being very sexy. I am also happy to be contradicted anyone else who may have more up to date accurate information.

Based on the information you provided us, I don't see anything indicating you are at fault here. The guy should not have flaked on you.
 
I don't ghost people. When they continue contacting me after I've asked them to stop or after I have stated I will call them when I am interested, I will stop replying. To me, that's not really "ghosting."
 
That said, a few suggestions for the future:
 


 
Suggestion: Know when to hit the "pause" button: This is hard when you want to get to know an escort, but limit the pre-appointment texts, emails, and/or phone calls to the minimum number required to determine compatibility and book an appointment. It is perfectly acceptable to say "We can talk about that when we meet on [insert day and time here] and I'll text to confirm the day of our date" and leave it at that. Even when the escort initiates communication, you can politely acknowledge it and hit that pause button.
 

Suggestion: Avoid investing too much in a first-time meeting: It is understandable that you'd want to avoid having a stranger in your home, so a hotel room can make sense. While it doesn't need to be a No-Tell Motel, a Hilton Garden Inn; Courtyard by Marriott; or Comfort Inn is perfectly suitable for the occasion. Also, dinner and drinks is a bit much for someone you have never met before. If you want to meet before going to your/his place, meet for coffee.
 

At this point, it is all on him. He should have communicated with you, making this:

completely unnecessary.
 
However, his not replying to the first communication is a red flag. At this point, one follow-up an hour later would be appropriate. If he didn't reply to that communication I'd cancel dinner because it was apparent the date was not happening. In my opinion, you were free to try making plans with someone else.
 

Not to this extreme, no. I did have an escort fail to show up to a playdate at my home and text me later to say he woke up with a stuffy head, went back to sleep, and woke up at 6:00 PM after having slept all day. He was typically very prompt, so this was plausible.
 

Without communication initiated by him explaining why he neither communicated with you nor showed up, absolutely not. Even with communication, the excuse had better be very damned good for me to overlook this behavior. It doesn't have to be "I died, was resurrected three days later, and just now could make a phone call" but it has to be pretty close. 
Two last suggestions:

Don't book a multi-hour session for a first meeting. You don't know whether you will want to spend that much time with him until you meet. One thing I've done is ask whether we could book an hour with the ability to extend should we both decide we wish to continue the festivities. Only two guys declined. One accused me of trying to negotiate a discount and the other was leaving for an out of town trip later in the day I wanted to meet. I did not go through with the first appointment and scheduled for another day with the second.
Don't get ahead of yourself. You don't need to tell him you want to be a regular before you even meet him. While I don't think this is a reason to ghost you, it could be a bit much for an escort to hear prior to meeting. It can also put you in an awkward position if you don't click with him.