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My father was on dialysis for kidney disease and I was his main caregiver. I was also working full-time. His dialysis unit had a full-time social worker. I can't remember how I connected with her- she might have called me - but she told me I needed to do everything I could to lighten my load. She had a lot of advice and connected me with all sorts of community-based organizations that helped out with his care. I was amazed to find out the resources that were available just for the asking.

To me, it's an expression of deep gratitude. She saved his ass and he wanted the world to know how grateful he was. Of course he suffered, but he preferred to shift the focus to his wife and everything she had done for him.

You should read Christopher Isherwood's early works, set in gay Berlin in the 1930's as fascism was sweeping Europe. - There are several -"Mr. Norris Changes Trains," "Good-Bye to Berlin" are the ones I can think of, but there were quite a few.

I'm a versatile fister, so I need to be squeaky clean and ready for anything. My principal is "If it seemed like it was too easy, it was." Sometimes, you can hose out a couple times and it seems like you're done. You're not. That's an "incident" waiting to happen.

I have a FB, who I haven't seen since before the pandemic, who is rather ordinary but the chemistry is amazing. I never tired of kissing that man - just out of this world.

I certainly appreciate a handsome face, but I'm really into muscle - hairy muscle especially

I love Super Bowl Sunday - the gym is always deserted.

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I'm a pig - I like it all - love men's holes.

I don't use PrEP for sex with my husband - he is pos undetectable. But I use the 2-1-1 approach for sex with guys outside our relationship.

I go for the pricey ones after they've been marked down. I don't care that I'm wearing last season's sweat pants.

My mother was the same. She was very skilled at sewing and made all of her own clothes. When my sister got married, my mother made the dress- she spent months on it. My grandmother embroidered it - full, floor-length skirt, veil, the works. My mother was so good that young women asked her to teach them how to sew. After the first couple of times, she wouldn't do it, because, she said, they didn't want to do things right and it frustrated her.

Straight folks and their weddings are like that. The dress is supposed to be a keepsake that is passed from generation to generation. A young woman who I worked with complained that her parents had only set aside $10K for her wedding so it really complicated planning.

Really nice sweatpants are $100+. Decent sweatpants are $40+ Cotton/poly blend are $20 - 30.

All those prestige labels don't interest me much. I love great clothes, but the only place they can have a logo is on a discreet label on the inside of the garment.

I think the most I have ever spent on a suit was $800.00. I have bought several items in a particular consignment shop I like. I don't have a thing for used underwear, so I've never bought any. I do want to buy a Burberry suit but haven't yet.

Please tell me you are not planning to die intestate.

My prominent San Francisco cardiologist would put them in the drinking water. During my first appointment with him ten or so years ago he said, "All roads lead to statins."

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I think the risk from statin use is way overblown and I am even someone who experienced ill effects from statins. It wasn't statins that created the problem but that I was on the wrong statin for me. Switched to a new statin and problem solved. It all has the same feel to me as the anti-vax hysteria, except that it should have gone away by now. My brother-in-law became convinced that his statin was affecting his mental status and stopped taking it for that reason. He doesn't seem any better or worse off since he stopped.

That's OK. Others will understand. I think it's funny that, upthread, you were all about designing your own sexual orientation and not being a slave to biological determinatism, etc., etc, and now you're saying that homosexuality is an abnormal phenomenon that should be studied.

You've said what it is but not how it happens. Big difference.

Yes, my statement needs a little qualification. It depends on the area. There was one field I follow that experienced a flurry of publication in the mid-90s to the early oughts and nothing significant since then, so that is the current state in that particular field. OTOH, I have biotech clients who are working at the bleeding edge and haven't published yet. In that area 2 or 3 year -old references are dated. It doesn't mean that the information is useless, just that the field has moved on. I don't have any feel for how fast-moving the field of gender and sexual orientation is. So it is hard to say what is current and what is dated. I have a friend who is a mental-health professional. When he was fishing for a topic for his thesis, he said he was thinking about something related to the cause of homosexuality. I said, "Why would you do that? Studying the 'cause' of homosexuality is premised on the idea that it is something abnormal or exceptional and it isn't. You don't see anybody studying the cause of heterosexuality." He agreed with me and kept looking.