Rudynate

I'm so glad you said that. I also avoid, as much as possible, using the word "race." I was doing some deep thinking about rooting out unconscious racism and I realized that it is built into our culture by the very notion of "race" and the language that is used to talk about it. This lead to the realization that to get rid of racism, you have to get rid of "race". And the only way to do that is person by person. That's when I stopped using the word. To me it's as objectionable a word as any of the epithets that are used against people of color.

You made it sound as though you did. If you're grouchy, something needs to change. I get grouchy when I feel I am in a rut.

You aren't taking your own advice- making peace with "fading out." At this point in my life, I'm more concerned about being relevant than I am with whether or not 25 year olds find me attractive. I continue to grow professionally and I'm launching a major new marketing initiative. Thats way more fun than killing time in gay bars.

I think hanging out in bars is a totally nowhere thing to be doing. I went in a bar a few years ago for a meet-and-greet. I didn't even like being seen there.

Like the ones in the photos upthread. Every single one is a pic of a gorgeous man who would look infinitely better if he weren't wearing a baseball cap turned backward.

I like it when an escort "cold calls" me. I admire the entrepreneurial sprit of it. The one who last cold called me, I intend to hire when I have the space in my schedule.

Loathe backward ball caps.

You should find a better class of people to hang out with. Problem solved.

I'm fond of nearly every man I've ever hired and I'm glad to see them. But for me, when they are out of sight, they are out of mind. I haven't asked any of them, but I imagine they like it that way too.

Of course, if one is not going to be frustrated and depressed by physical aging, he may need to change the way he looks for sex- different venues, different type of partner. Sometimes, when I'm over in the Castro, I sometimes notice older men through the windows of bars, staring into space and trying to look nonchalant and I always think, "He must have something better to do."

Why does one need to "fade out?" I wouldn't equate acquiring an internal locus of control with fading out. Look at all those powerful, influential old guys in DC-Mueller, Dowd, Kelly, etc. You think they've come to terms with "fading out?" I doubt it.

Seems a touch spiteful.

I do think that a lot of young gay men are obsessively focused on their looks but as they age, they acquire some perspective and develop wider interests. That doesn't mean that they don't take good care of themselves, but looking good becomes one aspect of generally living a balanced life.

I enjoy visiting old cemeteries and reading the stones. I'm always struck by how many people in the 18th and 19th centuries lived into their 80s and 90s. My mother's family has a family plot in a tiny country cemetery in western New York. No Revolutionary war veterans, but quite a few from the war of 1812 and an astonishing number of them lived to a ripe, old age.

Congratulations!! I'm 66 and the doc raves when I see him about my outstanding health. I went to the optometrist for an eye exam a couple weeks ago - same thing. I walk into the exam room , he looks at me up and down and compliments me on my outstanding physical condition. I have some semi-serious problems: I have a clotting disorder for which I take a blood thinner and I have heart disease for which I take a statin. My peskiest problem is allergies and asthma for which I take a variety of medications. The last several years, I have seriously gotten into bodybuilding and it seems that I am becoming healthier because of it. I have spinal disease from which I used to have a lot of pain. Since I've been lifting a lot, I don't have any pain.

I had an experience recently with a very dominant escort- he really showed me who was boss. The experience wasn't choreographed. It was just what he does. Nontheless, I never perceived that I was powerless or that anything was happening that I hadn't signed on for.

But nothing happens without the sub's consent. In other words, the sub controls the scene- play acting.

It is well known that they have history with each other.

It's all play acting. Some are just better actors than others.

he's a member on here and posts from time to time.

Very true. When our cleaning lady has been here, we walk in and the place looks like a suite in a luxury hotel. It's wonderful. But we manage to mess it up again by the time she comes again.

Very true. When our cleaning lady has been here, we walk in and the place looks like a suite in a luxury hotel. It's wonderful. But we manage to mess it up again by the time she comes again.

There are also some scorching hot providers who are only interested in"right now" bookings. My life is rather highly scheduled and I can't really imagine suddenly having an afternoon free to spend with somebody like that.

There are also some scorching hot providers who are only interested in"right now" bookings. My life is rather highly scheduled and I can't really imagine suddenly having an afternoon free to spend with somebody like that.

I have met rvwnsd and can attest to the fact that he is indeed a very nice guy.