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From what I understand, if you just relax and let the rip current take you where it wants to go they will actually bring you back to shore about 50% of the time....they go in big circles. The process is sort of fascinating. If they don't, you just have to go parallel to the shore fora bit then you can easily swim back to shore. That said, if something was sucking me away form shore I would definitely be freaking out.

There is a HUGE problem with african american folks not knowing how to swim. I do volunteer work with a group home for teen boys...it took me over a year to get approval from DCFS to enroll all of the boys in swimming classes at the local Y and I had to pay for it personally out of pocket. The first day they went, only 7 out of almost 60 kids could swim enough to keep from drowning if they fell into a pool. These kids were panicking to even put their head under water. Reading this article made me freak out about the 5 or 6 times I took groups of kids out to the beach and how easily that could have gone sideways.

I am assuming they have scaled back their work in the USA with the current situation going on, but I have donated to and helped sponsor two refugee's with the Rainbow Railroad. For me, it was an incredibly rewarding undertaking...these guys were from a pretty awful situation and they ended up getting to come to the USA / get legally married / become legal residents of the united states. These guys really did face potential death in the country there were leaving, which is something I still have trouble wrapping my head around. The organization is really good and makes an awesome unusual birthday fundraiser.

I went on the hunt and pulled out the 6 books I have (all of these, plus a few more) and it was interesting. In particular Aaron Lawrence. I am honestly surprised that he shared some of that info when he was still actively escorting; there are just some things that I would think you need to not say until you are done using them psychologically on clients. As I have been reading these day planners and also this journal of sorts it is bringing me back to my late teens / early 20s in ways I was not expecting. I had forgotten there that I had a listing on M4M Escort World and came across an email form that site from Jeffry Hurant, asking me to join his new website called Rentboy.com and offering up a free 6 months. The internet really was a different time back then. I had also honestly forgotten how much time I spent at 24 hour diners...all of these books have receipts stuck into them from the Melrose Diner and they are always at 3AM.

So I was a (pretty good and very active) escort during college, here in Chicago, between 1998 and 2003. Indeed, I look back at that period and the only regret is that I did not do it for a few years longer. Recently I moved and came across some shoe boxes of, well, crap that I had sealed up when moving form my college era studio flat. In it was a treasure trove of that time...4 day planners, an honest to god pager, and my journal which covered every experience I had in detail. Down to the position preferred and money paid. I have a month off this summer and have decided to give amazon self publishing a try. I am going to recount four years of my life, going into detail about the hectic world I lived. Nightclubs, clients, so many condoms....and at least 20 experiences that still stand out in my brain. Is there anything that forum folks would be particularly interested in reading about? Thanks for any ideas!

I am always sad when a guy smokes.

I don't think that was on offer...and honestly, I get plenty of that as it is. A vagina really is designed to take a dick; now having experienced it I now understand how much more difficult a butt is to penetrate. I really am glad that I got to experience it.

Posting an update. I did indeed meet with him. Without going into detail, I will say that he is a super attractive guy, very smart, has a nice apartment in a great part of town, and was great to talk with. I get the vibe that he is genuinely nice and friendly. His muscle definition is impressive. If you are interested in meeting a FTM provider I can't imagine it getting any better than this chap. I can also now say that I have had vaginal intercourse. Until today I had always been really curious about what time spent with a MTF person would be like. I am a 'relatively' well adjusted gay guy who just does not have a lot of interest in penises that are not my own. It made me wonder if sexual congress with a man who happens to have a vagina would be really fun for me. After doing it....well, it was an interesting experience; it just was not something I feel like I need to do again. He was a great instructor, which I really appreciated. I'll stick with butts 🙂

My rule of thumb; I don't treat what I say any differently with strangers on the internet than I do with people in line at the supermarket. I think we all have memories of people telling us that M/M relationships are gross and all sorts of horrible anecdotes. Also, keep in mind that it's really likely that someday this provider is going to end up reading your comments and continued mean statements, along with other trans folks wandering around this forum. Your opinions are going to be hurtful to them; are you allowed to have them...sure...but you should consider if you want to make people fell crappy about themselves. You could just say 'Check to see if they have had bottom surgery and do some research on that; FTM guys who have gone that route are not my cup of tea.'

Hey guys. I recently reached out to this FTM fellow; got back a great response to my text. Seems like an awesome guy in general. I have not had experience with a trans man before and have always wondered what it was like. Has anyone met up with him before? That is not the best cover photo of him...he is HOT. SANTOS_FTM - Male Escort, Gay massage - Chicago | Rent.Men RENT.MEN SANTOS_FTM Gay Escort in Chicago, Illinois, available for Gay Escorting,Modeling,Erotic Massage. | Find all...

I just watched one of his men.com videos. he is so good looking and he has a great dick, but it's not even close to be 10" (let alone 13.5)...why in the world would you set yourself up to that expectation with your clients.

I appreciate the feedback....it made me hop back and reread my post and see it from your perspective. You nailed it, I am totally detached from the time I spent with that fellow; almost 30 years have passed since I last saw him and I can't come up with anything good to say about him. I was escorting when I was in my early 20s. There are some things I wish that I could go back and change about myself, and I wish that I could go back and give myself a healthy dose of advice about how your perspective as a person changes as you age. For Chicago standards, I did really well as an escort...and I think it was because I actually cared about 95% of the guys I saw. And I was one of the few who was sort of smart, had a nice dick, and always flawlessly on time. 🙂 I can count on one hand the number of guys that really made me feel crummy about what I was doing and this chap was literally the only one that I kept seeing over and over. Sex with any person, even if there is money involved, is a really personal activity. He was one of the few clients that totally made me feel like a human dildo. Looking back, I think I was just too immature to just tell him I did not want to see him anymore. Financially, he was also one of the few guys that I knew who literally had a standing appointment and always turned up for it, even if he was generally early and annoying. It also made me take a minute and pull out the box of day planners I still have from back then. One of the pieces of advice I carried forward from my dad was to keep a meticulous diary; flipping past them I can remember the majority of the guys that fill the pages, even if most of the college coursework notes mean nothing to me. I hope that nearly all of the guys I saw enjoyed their time with me. There is still one page that I come back to over and over from December of 1999. The appointment was for 8PM at the Four Seasons and was a referral from this odd pimp fellow that I knew; I walked in, the fellow had me drop trou and just stand there. Bright lighting, agonizingly long time, did not want me to touch myself, weird....and then he just told me to go home. The pimp told me later that my package was not big enough for him and he was upset that I did not get hard for him....still angry about that mischaracterization.

When I was escorting in the late 90s, I had so many regulars that I saw. Which was great, as you knew what you were in for in advance...but it was also awful, as you knew what you were in for in advance. A couple of guys stand out as being memorable because they always wanted exactly the same experience, over and over and over. And one guy in particular, I saw him every other Tuesday....and my close friend saw him on the other Tuesdays that I was not there and they did exactly that same thing with him. Arrival at my place 10 minutes before he was supposed to be, 20 minutes of him taking an enormous poo and getting douche water all over my bath, bad role playing that I was a cop pulling him over for going to fast in his 'brand new red convertible with temporary tags', followed by 'forcing' him to go down on me (he was shockingly bad at that....it felt like he had two full sets of teeth), followed by 'forcing' him to take this giant cheap dildo that he just happened to have in his bag. Then me inside of him for about 15 seconds until he blew. 50/50 chance there would be poo on the condom. That all happened in the course of 15 or 20 minutes, then started the agonizing 15 minutes of small talk about his life started, where I oscillated between boredom with the situation and sadness for him. He always ended the encounter by paying the fee plus a $4 tip. Like clockwork, $204. I always wondered why. 30 years later, he is one of the guys that I still think about, though, and wonder if he ever did get to live his life or if he is still a gay guy trapped in a heterosexual marriage, dreaming of someday owning a convertible.

Years ago I read an interview with him...at that point he was mostly a top in porn but was only a bottom when escorting. He said he basically did not want to mess around with topping anyone that had bad butt hygiene, so he would much rather just be a bottom so he could be sure there was no poop. Which is something that I could logically get behind.

Oh, glitter....it's a complete nightmare. A group of ladies wanted to come visit the gay clubs for a bachelorette party (I pity the clubs) and left with a huge amount of pink glitter coating the living room. I think someone had mixed it into gift wrapping or something....there was a trail of it leading out to the dumpster. The guest must have known...she sent me a note that said 'sorry about the glitter, I left an extra $5 on the table for the cleaner'... 6 months later the glitter is still showing up in the property, but also in my laundry area from the sheets, my car, even my cat had a fleck of pink glitter on it.