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thanks for resisting....

and just in case that didn't help, "happy ending" is a massage where the masseur jerks you off at the end.

at last count here in the forum (going back to Hooboy days), "erotic massage" has 328 definitions and "muscle worship" has 891 definitions....
 
EDIT: "muscle worship" now has 893 definitions and "erotic massage" is down to 327 since somebody now feels they received a "sensual massage" instead

It's very easy to be left behind without basic life skills. Don't count on too many parents to give kids those lessons... How to write a check may be archaic..but useful. How to manage your debts and put spending limits in place. How to file and pay taxes. How to write a resume....the importance of returning calls and texts with more than>> sup?<< or too many IDK or IDC ..answer in plain English...How important it is to be on time...say please and thank you.
I run in to so many people who haven't a clue to make good life choices....The Forgotten American is alive....and in debt!

I was thankfully blessed with good family because even from a young age I was always pushed to do things even when I did not want to. Most of the skills on the list I got from being in boy scouts and the rest I got from a young age. I was payed to do chores and when I wanted to buy something I had to pay for myself with my allowance. I was forced to open CDS and savings accounts and talk to the banks tellers by myself. When I got my first job had to pay back my school loans and pay rent at my own house. Every time I would be so upset and feel wronged, except when I went to boy scouts, because all my other friends and cousins didn't have to do this but now I am glad I did have that type of upbringing.

The Chicago Board of Education was 39 years ahead of you. I took the Consumer Education coursework as part of Contemporary American History. Our "textbooks" were Time, Newsweek, and US News and World Report.

I have actually taught a class like this to high school seniors. We actually went to a credit union and had a bank representative explain the different types of accounts and why it's important to know how much money you have in each (avoiding overdrafting, etc). The credit union also does car loans so we explained what is involved in buying a car, car insurance and looking at used vs. new cars. We toured an apartment community and explained the costs of renting, living with roommates vs living alone, and what is on an apartment lease and the the rights of both renters and landlords. We did a budgeting class where we looked at what income is needed to have a certain lifestyle. We did sexual education including information on where to get birth control and STI testing. We gave lost of condoms away of course. And then we even did a basic cooking course where each student had to successfully make their own grilled cheese sandwich.

I have written before about volunteering in the Kansas City school system. Fresh out of law school, a friend and I wrote a course on law for the school system’s “Family Life” class which I went on to teach for nine years.
 
The class was all practical, hands-on knowledge for the students real lives:
Criminal Law-mostly things like what are my rights when the police stop me (Do I have to open my car trunk?)
Employment Law-things like getting paid on time and overtime and discrimination
Family Law-I am pregnant, what does my boyfriend owe me for support?
Contract Law-things like I signed up for the “Columbia Record-of-the-Month Club” and I want to stop.
Everything was very practical and the students were all very attentive and engaged because it was real life for them rather than abstract Constitutional law.

I'm going to sound grumpy and uncivil, but too bad: this is just more of the usual bootstrapping mumbo jumbo.
 
This is more valuable and necessary than much of what's covered academically in high school. Note I don't say elementary school; basic reading and math skills are vital for everyone capable of attaining them, which, hello, isn't everyone. Seems to me that you should show more respect for people's differing abilities instead of writing off everyone you perceive as inferior to you, especially given views we have debated elsewhere over whether abortion should be legal.
 
As for the home: some homes function with a parent or parents who work at night or work two or more jobs just to keep afloat. Some parents themselves don't have these skills or knowledge. And some parents actively discourage such knowledge, like the father of a college housemate of mine who didn't know anything about checking accounts because her father (an engineer, so not an uneducated man) controlled the family finances and contact with others. It's amazing enough he let his kids attend public school, but they weren't allowed to participate in after school activities.
 
So, basically, your post is a paean to circumstances you found yourself in but which don't apply to everyone. Congratulations on once again mistaking yourself for the paradigmatic human being.
 
(Those of you who wonder why I'm being so critical probably don't participate in the Politics forum.)
 
Edited to add, which I forgot but reading other posts reminded me: This is something that doesn't increase educational costs by much but levels the playing field and makes living effectively more likely. As such, it's like any good educational idea: better for everyone, and everyone benefits except con artists, grifters and those who make their living off of financial ignorance.
 
Also, somewhat unrelatedly, we need civics education and a demystifying of actual, as opposed to aspirational, history, especially US history.

We had two teachers in high school who taught economics. One taught classical economics, micro vs macro, etc, while the other taught more practical life skills, like balancing a checkbook.
 
I had a roommate, a guy in his 40's who'd just ended a long-term relationship where the other guy handled EVERYTHING practical. He didn't even have a checking account when he moved in with me. I did what I could to teach him.

Terrific idea. I had a long chat last week with a guy I met in SA about if he could afford a specific apartment, The things that seem obvious - how to not get screwed on a car repair, how to not mess up your credit score and why it’s important, lease vs. buy of a car, office politics 101, how to write a credit dispute letter, etc., - aren’t obvious if you’ve never heard anything about them.

When I was in high school we had a similar course about life skills, but it was widely regarded as a joke then by students as it was always taught by a teacher that was just picking up an extra class for extra money and not caring. In retrospect, didn't come close either to what we really needed to know.
Writing a check, balancing a check book fail in comparison to understanding what percentage of your income should be spent on rent, food, entertainment, savings. Realistic views on apartment requirements, buying versus leasing a car, gap insurance, how credit history works are all things that have fucked me over. Roommate etiquette has been something I have seen first hand others desperately need. Escorting, I find adults of all ages desperately lack concise communication skills as well. High school should teach all this and more as life skills, instead of how to write a check, format an email, write a resume. That's all important, but there is so much more. I would love adulting 101 to lead to Common sense 101 as well though lol. I feel that's where it starts.

When I was in high school in the late 1970's/early 1980's "Consumer Education" was a required course for Chicago Public Schools high school students. Not sure whether other school districts required something similar, but it was a valuable course.

https://www.presence.io/blog/105-adulting-101-program-ideas/
What is everyones thoughts?
I know I would have benefited by lessons in insurance, cars, credit, apartments and much more once turning 18.

As a retired stay at home dad I have no dog in this hunt. It sounds very complicated. I wish you much success in your quest for the perfect sleeve. This is about as formal as I get now (this isn't me, just representative) unless it's ultra special or I need to be the arm candy for my power missus, then it's a tux.
 

PurpleKow, you are correct. That's why I put in worldwide in my initial post.

PurpleKow, you are correct. That's why I put in worldwide in my initial post.

Same backward and forward, around the world: 02/02/2020

I believe it is the abs, actually!! ?

I believe it is the abs, actually!! ?

Maybe they decided to return and give you a thrill. Maybe they’re exhibitionists and decided to turn you on. Maybe you were the one being played. ?

I agre with a lot of the comments posted here. I rarely hire a guy under 30. I prefer someone with a bit more depth and personality than a young pretentious twink. The first time I hired an escort I was nervous and told him so. It turned out that I had found an experienced, professional guy that had been in the business for a while. He gave me a great time. Number 2 was a younger guy, new to escorting, but again gave me a great time. Number 3 was the complete opposite, not into it (or me) at all. Had that been my first experience I would have become very discouraged.
@MicroSDcard, where are you located? That may help you get some good suggestions from this form.

There’s something missing in this situation:
First off, do escorts truly expect their clients to be “hot”? if a guy is a hit as the escort, he typically wouldn’t need to hire one (unless it’s merely for convenience, which is quite understandable)
 
Secondly, when people (escorts or not) show no interest (as expected), they usually won’t explain why....
 
Who’s to say that the issue is your looks?
Have you examined all possible reasons why these experiences keep occurring?
 
As an example, I have a good friend who is good looking, and would attract many guys, who would ghost him right after the first in-person meeting. Once I was in-person with him, I realized one of the possible reasons why.... he has horrible dental habits, very infected teeth & gums and terrible breath.
Once he started improving his dental hygiene and taking regular visits to the dentist to rectify years of dental neglect, his love
love started to improve.
 
But not one of those guys told him the reason why they ghosted him.
 
Make sure you’ve examined every possible reason why these experiences have occurred because you just assume its your “looks”

This will sound trite, but the problem isn't you - it is the guys you have hired.
 
There are escorts who do not vary their treatment of clients by the way the client looks. I wish I could give yoou a first-hand recommendation, but my tastes are very different than yours.
 
Here is what I would suggest: Find a handful of escorts whom you find attractive and ask about them in The Deli.

@MicroSDcard welcome and thank you for posting. I strongly encourage you to spend some of your disposable income on a good therapist. Forgive my bluntness, but you are too close to see yourself clearly. You talk down about your language skills, yet your English is good to very good. I bet you're in a funk and under-rating yourself in many ways. That's very normal for any human who is lonely or feeling underappreciated or unacknowledged. Confidence is very attractive and humans can be attracted to pretty much any and every physical characteristic if the personality is there. Yes, even a "chubby, short, daddy guy."
 
@MicroSDcard, I want you to know something: you are loved and you are worthy of love. This thread and your replies are thoughtful, open, and vulnerable. All of those traits are appealing and reveal a person worthy of attention and care.
 
Whether you go to a therapist or not, I suggest you not waste your money at strip clubs. While there are probably some quality people, most are likely living on the edge and that introduces harshness and pragmatism that I suspect aren't what you need right now.
 
Have you considered one of the professionals from this forum? Someone like [uSER=12155]@Dominiking[/uSER], @Eric Hassan, @Kevin Slater, @OliverSaks, or @tristanbaldwin? I have no face to face experience with these men. I am basing my suggestion purely on their thoughtful and engaging activity on this forum over the years. I believe any of them could create an amazing experience with you. Perhaps not all at once though as that much hotness so close together might be too much for one person to handle.
 
Lastly, please consider donating to daddy. This forum and the review site are supported by donations. If he runs out of money, it will all vanish. May you be kind to yourself and have a wonderful week.