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I prefer using one umbrella term for everyone who is not exclusively heterosexual.

That may be their risk management strategy, in which case I take back most of what I said.

Possibly relevant. http://nymag.com/selectall/2018/04/jaron-lanier-interview-on-what-went-wrong-with-the-internet.html

That sounds like a hidden room to me.

I was assuming the influx was due more to professionals, but I forgot BP was also used otherwise. But I would describe the owner(s) as risk takers who may be operating without a net. So which is worse? How much will or have they cracked down on between the lines commercial transactions? How well does any of that protect them?

It seems like a strange decision from a risk-management standpoint, and in that regard I'm dubious because my observation is that poor risk management choices are a sign of other problems. What is there to prevent it being the less luxe companion to Rentboy, on the assumption more A4A advertisers are part-time and supplementing their income? Also as the less luxe option the possibility of trafficking, underage advertisers and coercion increases.

It was never a fairytale, and Diana's marriage is Exhibit A.

I'm a little surprised A4A is still plugging along.

Isn't this the plot of Alice Through the Looking Glass, at least vis-a-vis the White King? (I hope I have the identity of the king right.)

Yes. I don't know as it's all that different from any tutoring setup other than being widely available and standardized. Neighbors sent their daughter there. She wasn't thrilled - studies and homework was a bone of contention between them - but it probably helped to some extent. The biggest problem was that good grades were culturally required so as not to fall behind in comparison with her cousins both of whose parents were physicians. (The family was from India.)

I don't think there's any inherent difference, but because of the power differentials in society educated women may have a more nuanced view of the world than similarly situated men. I'm particularly thinking of men I've known at work who thought that by snapping their fingers they could get work done in a period of time or to a standard that showed no understanding of what was required to accomplish the task. Women are more likely to understand. (But beware the women like Anna Winotur who follow men's lead on this. They're as toxic to work for as men who do the same thing except for lower likelihood of sexual harassment.) Being marginalized or viewed as lesser forces people to exert themselves more to keep up with the favored group(s).

I used to be more sympathetic to Greenpeace and PETA than I am now. I can't get worked up about dumping paint on fur coats, but shaming people for eating meat is no better than body-shaming or looks-shaming. On the other hand, I have no quarrel with pointing out the health and energy consumption advantages of eating vegan or vegetarian. But to hector everyone about meat consumption because it's harder on the environment ignores other factors and denies people personal autonomy and the ability to make their own choices.

I haven't stayed at any high-level luxury hotels but I bagged a sweet deal at the Palomar in DC and had a huge room and parking for $159 a night a few years ago. Service was excellent and the room was great.

Was there a hidden door?

I use the term "queer" because as the Twitter thread demonstrates, LGBT and even LGBTQ (if Q stands for queer and not questioning) don't include intersex people and the terms that do are long and unwieldy (that's my conclusion, not the author's). Intersex conditions can be associated with or cause medical issues but aren't a disorder in and of themselves and occur consistently, naturally and regularly. Intersex people are not freaks. How we view intersex people also has a bearing on how we view trans and enby (nonbinary) people. It seems to me that accepting people's gender identity and pronouns not only is basic consideration (how would you feel if your friends and family constantly got your name and pronouns wrong) but is pretty much mandatory if you expect the same consideration from society at large for same-sex sexual attraction. Furthermore, the existence of intersex people complicates, if not entirely negates, our binary construct of gender, as there are people with female genitals and XY (i.e., genetically considered male) genes. That's kind of a kick in the teeth to all that neat line-drawing.

That's part of the perfectionism! He expected me to be able to improve my technique from his cogent commentary, and I'm sitting there thinking "give it up, Dad, this is as good as it gets given the lack of fine motor control I may well have inherited from you." I mean, he made plumbing repairs without regard for the fact that washers are neither interchangeable nor the same size, yet he was an engineer - a chemical engineer (or as he would put it, a comical engineer), but still - so who is he to complain? I cannot say exactly how much of his perfectionism and the inability not to comment derived from him being Korean-American, but all I can say is A LOT.

I love my dad, but his perfectionism could be maddening sometimes. If anyone gets annoyed with how picky I can be, please remember I grew up with someone ten times pickier.

An even more direct response: SMASH THE PATRIARCHY! Socializing boys more like girls and socializing girls more like boys would be useful. Girls should not grow up thinking romantic love is the end all and be all of life and boys should not grow up thinking women exist to satisfy their sexual desires (if they're heterosexual or bi) or take care of them/the nitty gritty details or deal with their emotions. I get angry because love and relationships have been dangled in front of women who've been abused and taken advantage of by more powerful and privileged men. I'm particularly thinking here of famed PoC authors Junot Diaz and Sherman Alexie, who preyed on female authors, students and aspiring authors of color.

She's not wrong about the lack of social media privacy, particularly on Facebook.

It's wise not to take things at face value when they stop making sense or don't check out, as in the Duke lacrosse team case. But until then, expressing skepticism about any and all allegations by women is misogynistic, especially if you aren't equally skeptical of allegations of crimes without a sexual component. Besides, so far what women have said checks out with multiple, often dozens of survivors of the same man's abuse coming forward. Michigan State just settled claims with over 300 women and girls raped and molested by Larry Nasser under the guise of medical treatment for half a billion dollars. Stopping him after the first complaint would have prevented a lot of unnecessary trauma, suffering and damage to athletic careers and psyches and would have saved the state a lot of money.

I can, but learned not to in front of my Korean-American father because according to him I don't do it right and he simply could not refrain from commenting on it. Since I don't have any on hand anymore and I don't eat out, I haven't had occasion to use them recently. The metal in cutlery and silverware can affect the taste of food, especially more delicate Cantonese dishes. Chopsticks have little to no effect on flavor.

I hope this is long-term planning, as much of the island still doesn't have electricity.

So? Without them, you wouldn't exist. Also some men have vaginas and some women have penises.

Given how little fixing this costs and the SAE recommendations, I don't understand all the gene pool comments here. Saving a life is saving a life. Keyless entry cars should shut off after x minutes of idling. Otherwise car manufacturers are putting piddling amounts of profits ahead of lives.

Squirrel and slick bird feeder pole.