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I've only ever had a handful of escorts contact me after an appointment. Two of them were traveling escorts so I appreciated them keeping in touch with me when they were visiting my area again so I could arrange appointments. I had an understanding with both of them that I welcomed hearing from them when they were visiting again. In a few cases, I hired the guys more than once but not enough to become a regular. I don't mind a guy reaching out after a couple of visits once or maybe twice to offer another appointment, but it does become annoying if a guy keeps texting me and I haven't returned to see him again. It's the equivalent of junk mail at that point. A few times guys have messaged me right after the appointment just to thank me for the appointment and to let me know I could contact them any time for a future appointment. I always appreciated these messages if they occurred right after the appointment and were not followed up with additional messages if I didn't reply to them. I do understand based on previous threads here that some guys don't want to be contacted at all because they feel a need to hide their hiring activity from someone and don't want random messages popping up on their phones.

It does seem odd to add it to a list of amenities, but maybe this guy's experience is that clients are more likely to see this there than if he just mentioned it in the ad text. While not an amenity, I think it's good of him to inform clients who might not otherwise know that the guy's location only has paid parking so they can be prepared for that when visiting him. I know a lot of cities now have either meter-free paid parking (pay at a kiosk on the block or pay via a phone app), but if this guy is in an area that still has meters that require coins it's best that people know in advance they better show up with their quarters.

In San Francisco, almost everyone maps to the intersection of Van Ness Avenue and Market Street. I'm not even sure why the mapping function exists on Rent.men since it isn't accurate.

I only hired him two times and it was a long time ago, but I didn't experience any odor issue, either. The only way I can imagine bringing up the issue without being offensive is to not bring up the issue but rather to simply say that showering together at the beginning of the session is a major turn on and ask if he can accommodate that request.

His Rentmen ad is active now and does list a different phone number than his Rentmasseur ad. I find his Rentmen ad offputting, though, since he doesn't list anything he's into and the text basically lets you know not to expect anything from him other than spending time with him. I take it that he is selective about who he does what with or maybe he just thinks that indicating he is being paid for companionship only sidesteps legal issues, but either way I wouldn't want to hire anyone who basically says you might get nothing from them other than hanging out together.

I was horrified by the mug shot (shows how drugs can really ruin one's looks), and maybe it was included as a cautionary example of "don't let this happen to you." Still, obituaries, if they include photos, generally just show the deceased in some healthy state, not when they are at their worst.

You think wrong, then. I don't hope that my favorite porn performers are all straight, and I don't hope the gay ones "settle down with a wife & kids." I get your sentiment -- that once a performer leaves porn that they have a fulfilling life. I just don't think that necessarily means having a hetero-normative life.

Wow. That sounds much worse than what I endured. The closest thing I heard (and which makes sense) is that it's generally not wise to comment on people's looks at work at all because what you might intend as a simple compliment could be construed by someone as unwanted attention to their body.

When I was still working, I had to complete this training annually along with a lot of other trainings. It is annoying that, depending on one's work place, the people in charge of this online training have figured out ways to prevent fast forwarding and just letting the training play in one browser tab while you work in another. (The more recent trainings I saw required clicking various areas of the screen to list items one by one, answer questions, etc and then click Next before the video would resume.) It's also annoying that many of these trainings rarely change and it isn't like the material is difficult to understand. Maybe you're just annoyed so you summarized this training in a more disparaging way that is warranted, but if your harassment training really does instruct employees to do all of the things you listed then it seems like a very poor training. While it's true that people in a supervisory capacity have greater obligations to be "busy bodies" and do various interventions regarding alleged harassment, including reporting issues to HR, the responsibilities of most employees are simply to NOT engage in behavior that constitutes harassment.

This is especially good advice in this day and age. I was a broke-ass undergraduate student many decades ago, and that was with a part time job while attending school full time. I get the attraction of doing something more lucrative, but if you really are drawn to do this I think it would make more sense to learn massage and then advertise on a masseur website. You could always offer more in person if it feels right, and then you won't have an online footprint connecting you with sex work. You still have the issue of whether you are legally allowed to work here outside of on-campus jobs. Do you want to finish your studies here or are you willing to risk deportation because you have been working in an unauthorized capacity and that's been discovered (or reported) to ICE?

Lizardbrain?

It's horrible that this "provider" did this to you, but as others have suggested if you find yourself in a similar situation in the future then you need to be more proactive about addressing it early. If I really felt like the guy was such a mess that he wouldn't be able to perform well, I'd simply say something to that effect (more kindly, of course) and send him on his way without paying (or, if I knew he had to travel a bit to get to me, I'd give him a small amount of money for his travel efforts). I imagine saying something like, "It sounds like you have a lot of worries on your mind and this isn't a good time for you to be working. Let's do this another time when you're feeling up to it." That would still give the guy an opportunity to apologize, state that he didn't mean to go on about his personal problems, and initiate what you hired him for -- or he can leave. If he's just playing a game (trying to get paid for doing nothing but talking about himself), then he can make the decision to cut the crap and give you what you hired him for or leave.

Has anyone hired him? I see his ad indicates he's in San Francisco right now. His rentmasseur ad has lots of positive reviews (though I know those cannot always be trusted), so I'm surprised there's no feedback on him here yet.

Actually, Donny and his brothers sang "one bad apple don't spoil the whole bunch," but I digress. I wholeheartedly believe in using the block function. I will sometimes choose to look at a post by someone I've blocked if it's in a thread where I think their contributions might be helpful, but it's nice just to not regularly see some people's negativity and pomposity.

You are already receiving push-back because of how you approached your query. You want "everyone to chime in" with their reasons for being a client, but you haven't done so yourself. If you're new to this (or even just in the contemplative stage), why not first share what your motivations are and ask others to share theirs? I'm sure the most common answers you'll get: To get men the client doesn't believe they will get otherwise. For example, a youngish jock isn't too likely to be looking for a middle aged or older bear. For efficiency. Because they get excited by the act of paying someone for sex. Because they can afford to do so and don't feel like they need an excuse.