from step one - "powerless and unmanageable"
does one do an activitiy that make his life powerless and unmanageable?
if I drink and wreck my car several times - get arrested several times - injure others - is my life unmanageable
if I look at porn at night - stay up late - oversleep next morning - late for work repeatedly --powerless and unmanageable?
if I buy lottery tickets every day and fail to pay my rent cause I am broke -- powerless and unmanageable?
if I smoke pot and end up failing to go to work repeatedly -- powerless and unmanageable
most men can drink, porn, whore, bet, smoke and NOT make their lives powerless and unmanageable