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The world has lost another great one. Amazing how many friends and family members (even the young ones) I've talked with in the past 48 hours has nothing but good things to say about Aretha and were playing her on their iphones and home sound systems. She truly had a voice that reinforced there is a God. Adding to the melancholic feelings, I watched some of the online videos scenes with President Obama and her. One showed him calling out "Hold on Queen" and rushing across a stage to position a foot stool properly for her. I miss having a President I can be proud of. He's not alone in shedding a tear or more when listening to her.

He is NOT attractive at all.

It used to be considered impolite to talk about money. There's another very practical reason for not talking about money. If you don't talk about it, people don't know how much you have and are a lot less likely to hit you up for assistance.

Well said. Plus, whenever I think I'm ok money wise I:

* remember that however much I've saved in retirement money I need $1 million more than that. At least that's what I've heard from any financial adviser I've spoken with. And that $1 million more applies even if you have $10 million already

* remind myself that, assuming no catastrophic illness or freight trains hitting me, even men are living longer so savings have to last longer too

* read some article about how much we'll need for post retirement health care costs, even with Medicare

* read some article about the cost of home health care or a nursing home where you actually get care

Feelings of "I'm going to be ok money wise" quickly dissipate and I find myself adjusting the thermostat and reading with a flashlight.

You're going to meet in person someone you've never met before. Then you're going to be alone with them, and perhaps often vulnerable during the session. No sane person should do that after a text exchange remotely like the original poster shared. Heck, after reading this post, I'd never go near Ryan North. I've been fortunate to never have been in a violent encounter with anyone in my life. Even when I was robbed in my 20's it was over quickly and I wasn't injured.

Time to say goodbye....

You've come to the right decision. And I'm happy for you that you've got plenty of money. Perhaps your "friend" (ok, he's not) could get a job and some of the money you'd normally give him could get added to your regular contributions to animal rescue organizations and shelters. Plus there are other young and attractive men eager to spend time with you so spreading your love around can be mutually rewarding.

You never know. This guy could be amazing sex and a power bottom while someone who appears that way could be a total dud. Why you always test drive a car.

 

I'd give him a spin if those are current pics but I think they're younger than 25.

I doubt any advertiser would use outdated photos or those belonging to someone else.

I'm allergic to ink

The guard in this photo looks stunning. Why can't we see anyone near as good looking on RM? Must be all the new Republican created six figure jobs.

Is there something weird about the RM site that so many of it's guys come up "29"?

Or was 1989 just a very big year for escorts being born?

I wonder if many advertisers are 31 or older but fib and put 29 in case a lot of men use 30 as the upper limit when searching?

I've never even tried 420 but if the midterms don't go well I'm adding a line item to my budget! I live in a state that allows recreational use.

If your time is worth literally nothing, you might have a point. But if I were an escort who had to deal with 15 people calling me, some more than once, to net one client, I'd be charging $1000/hour. It's not just your time you are burning here.

I once had a guy tell me he makes over $80,000 a year (tax free - I mean - tax evading). I suspect that (if true) plus they perhaps quickly figure out who is serious and who isn't makes the activity attractive.

I just checked his Instagram. This person is using old pictures of Dustin. Dustin is much bulkier now and as of 16 hours ago he was still in North Carolina, not Los Angeles. I want to call him out.

And the current Dustin McNeer has more ink on him than my print newspaper. Far more than we see in the ad photos. If real, pre over inked, Dustin was escorting I think there would be a flood of men flying to LA to meet with him.

For example, I do not find Joe Davidson (the picture you posted) all that attractive. .

Right. If Joe Davidson showed up naked at my bedroom door I'd toss him to the street. Ok, that toss would come weeks later after he was exhausted and only after he promised to return 24 hours later.

Well, I don’t think that in general a person who feels his life is hopelessly miserable “owes it” to his friends and family to continue a miserable life just to make them feel better. I do feel this person does have an obligation to his spouse and children, and I would have a moral problem if the suicidal person hadn’t at least left a generous life insurance policy (most policies will cover suicide after 2 years). Loved ones will get over the suicide, but the hopelessly depressed person has to live with unhappiness every day. When I felt suicidal, I bought such a policy. I felt the least I could do was to try to get help for those years to ascertain whether or not the situation was truly helpless. As it turned out, I was able to pull myself up (with some help). Had I not been successful, at least I could show that I tried, and that I had consideration for my loved ones.

Unicorn, I don't know anything about you but I'm glad you didn't act on your suicidal feelings. I don't think loved ones get over someones suicide and they are as tough, maybe worse, than the loss of someone from natural causes or an accident. Wouldn't loved ones be torn up about whether they missed something they could have helped the person with? If someone dies from Cancer their loved ones don't wonder if they could have cured them. I agree that if someone has a spouse and/or children who are dependent on them they should, if possible, leave them financial resources. I'm not saying you're forgetting this but happiness and taking care of loved ones isn't just about money, right? Sure we need the basics but people prefer those they care about alive over money, right? If a family of 6 is living in a 1,200 square foot house with used cars, 5 year old iPhones, kids with hand me down clothing, but they laugh, enjoy doing things together, look out for each other, have rescued a dog from a shelter that's showered with love and have at least enough for utilities/other necessities they can be happy (and there are many families like this). They need each other more than money for happiness, right? So if someone in that family took their own life, wouldn't the remaining members be torn up with grief, anger at the person voluntarily bringing pain/unhappiness to the family as well as having to live with the whole in their heart that never fills? If someone is mentally ill they're not likely thinking about any of these rational thoughts so we have to excuse them, don't we?

I think many of us know readily or deep inside that money and fame doesn't equal happiness. The money part can be particularly tough, even if we have the basics or more. Our society values money/cars/houses/etc. to a degree that many financially comfortable people look at those who appear to have more and feel lacking. We're bombarded with messages that we haven't saved enough for retirement (I've known certified financial planners and investment advisers that basically say you need $1 million more than however many millions you already have), Social Security & Medicare won't exist for us, health care costs will increase how much you need to have. Lack of basic necessities (shelter, food, clothing, human relationships) of course prohibits happiness. The sh*tstorm in DC and elsewhere in politics along with the never ending talking heads on the 24/7 news cycle (and gosh forbid - Twitter) can compound the aforementioned concerns we're told we have to be focused on makes things worse.

Maybe the answer is to write down what really brings happiness. Perhaps its having the basics, spending time with good friends and/or family, hobbies (reading, painting, gardening, etc.), your pet, etc. and spend free time in those areas. Whatever makes you happy, prioritize. Have a bucket list?

I'm assuming this really came from Heath Ledger, if not its still good.

Losing a loved one is always painful. I do not know how a parent who loses a child can even function. Those that do (I think) are stronger than I could ever be. I've known two sets of parents that have lost a child (one lost two) and I think I can see the pain in their eyes every time I see them even though on the outside they look normal.

Only in California does this STUPID type of nonsense happen. I only wish I were young enough to get the hell out of here. All my family and friends are here and the unfortunate truth is that when one reaches a certain age one tends to stay where ones doctors are.

Really? Most likely you'd miss them but they wouldn't miss you. You don't like where you live, move. There's a lot of "stupid" in other states too.

Dumb move by this handsome young man. Unfortunately internet searches will brand him for a long time when potential employers and others do an online search for him.

Don't judge me poorly but if he'd exposed himself to me I would have asked his age to be sure he was legal and then asked him out to dinner.

I don’t get this logic at all. “My friend was in such great pain that he decided to take his own life, so he must be selfish.” Try some empathy.

The only thing I'd bitch about a person I knew who committed suicide is that he or she didn't reach out to me for help of any kind - listening, finding a professional to assist, $, whatever. Something I'm working on is making sure that those I care about know that I'm there for them no matter what - its a bit awkward to just say that but I'll get the point across.

Two people I knew have committed suicide (both with handguns). I wasn't close to either at the time of their death. Neither for physical health reasons. Both were facing financial problems. One had lost millions, faced legal jeopardy and no effort by his family and friends could get him through those issues. The second person had financial issues but listening to his family not so extreme that they weren't manageable, possibly with bankruptcy. I've read the online comments from friends of one of those people. Very touching to see how he impacted them and the comments taught me that the way I feel towards people I care about aren't expressed by me to them (as I suspect was the case with his friends and family). Don't wait until someone is gone to express how you feel about them. Maybe expressing your thoughts while they're alive will avoid them taking a final irreversible step.

Mental illness is complicated and the US does a crappy job of providing affordable resources and treatment. I used to believe that only people facing catastrophic physical health issues had a "right" to take their life and that the rest of us would be "wrong" to do so. I was wrong then. I'm not an expert or professional on mental or physical illnesses and I admit it.

Most people are dealing with problems we know nothing about. Be good to each other, particularly the stranger and those who obviously have fewer apparent blessings in life than we do. Smile at someone, buy a stranger a cup of coffee, say hello to every neighbor you see, wave at a passing car in your neighborhood, drive courteously, send some $ to a relative who might be struggling if that wouldn't be too awkward (easy to find a holiday to say its relates to), donate monthly to a list of animal welfare organizations (ok, that last one is selfish because it makes me feel good). What is the worst result? Making someone else's day brighter, even if only for a moment.

I, too, am against wearing fur. I would support making illegal the practice of making fur coats (especially as it's done now). But, since you approve of battery on people who wear what you believe to be fur coats, I have a couple of questions for you. (1) How do you know what they're wearing is real fur, as opposed to faux fur? (2) Have you considered the fact that if you ruin their coat, they're just going to buy another one, with you thereby having achieved the opposite of what you intended to accomplish?

I'll ask them if they're wearing real fur. If they say "yes", I'll ask them if they can wait about 30 minutes while I go buy red paint. If they say "no", I'll ask them if they want to get a beer at the local bar.

Yeah, I'm vegan and I hate PETA. They're trash.

PETA is fantastic. I actually don't pay much if any attention to it but saying you "hate" it and "they're trash"? Any organization that advocates for animals beats any others out there (ok, those who help fight cancer -of which I'm a survivor - and those who suffer from it are good as well). Were I King for a day, all hunters and poachers would be skinned alive - pay per view perhaps with proceeds going to animal welfare organizations. Alternatively, people who mistreat animals should have an air conditioner fall on their heads as in this commercial. I'm militant when it comes to mistreatment of any animal. How do I feel about dog meat farms in South Korea - those people should get worse than skinned alive and I volunteer to administer the punishment and end of life. And yes, if I see anyone wearing fur I'm going to somehow find red paint to throw on them. Watch a video on slaughterhouses or how fur is obtained for clothing. Unbelievable to what degree "humans" can be so evil.

I haven't eaten meat in nearly 10 years. There's so much ignorance out there about people needing to eat meat for protein or whatever. Rubbish.

Let me tell you.......

This month's earth-shaking, life-altering new smartphone app I got....

 

I've been broken into this year and I often leave sliding glass doors open etc. A neighbor's Nest cam captured the thief who got me and another neighbor. I bought 4 Yi brand cams off Amazon for $20 each . The first took me 15 minutes to install through my smartphone (only way). The others took 10 minutes each tops.

 

Now I get alerts when there's movement of any of my doors with video clips. I can turn to any room and see if I left the sliding door open. I can watch all activity on that cam back 4 days in HD. I have video records of who rang my doorbell and can speak with them live. I can tune in any room from anywhere in the world I am and see real-time what is going on and even talk to a pet or visitor. For under $100 in cams.

 

There are a dozen other apps I would hate to live without. This was just this month's new one.

 

Call me "hooked", it's a compliment.

I think that was a good move. We have a monitored alarm system (includes smoke/fire) as well as cameras covering the interior and outside. Big piece of mind. The cameras aren't integrated with the alarm that's monitored - which (I think) would be creepy as a part of my mind would assume someone was watching. I like being alerted if there is activity or being able to check whenever I want. Canary is one set of cameras and they've upgraded the software to identify a person versus (for example) a pet. Security systems, cameras, etc. have become very cost effective. The cost is minor compared to the deductible on our policies, the inconvenience of theft and/or relying on a neighbor to call in a fire. As as you said, set up is easy. I think everyone should have a system - and no, you don't need to constantly upgrade the equipment.

Abour a year ago I moved from a single family house to a secure high rise condo which requires a guest (other than food delivery ppl) not only to fully identify the resident but also provide a picture ID that is swiped for a permant record. Needless to say, this makes for a complete bilateral lack of anonymity With the recent escalation in rates and an apparent decrease in providers willing to host, I am debating whether it is worth the additional cost of a hotel, especially given the fact that I have an erratic schedule to deal with anyway. I’ve met a local provider at a motel which turned out to be a motel which specialized in “short term” (hourly) guests. Needless to say, it wasn’t the Ritz. What to do?

Did you move into Trump tower? That process sounds ridiculous. Can you meet a guest in front of the building and get them upstairs without their ID being swiped into an electronic record?

I just started escorting the other day as a tip from my friend who said I would be a good candidate with it. (https://rent.men/FigureSkater) I need some tips on branding and opinions on rates.

Thanks!

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Welcome. The world needs more handsome (I'm assuming you are), in shape, grammar and good spelling capable young men who are up for being companions

I shy away from guys that have gotten so big they're eligible for their own zip code. Or those with so much ink looking at their tattoos is like reading a newspaper or looking at a map.