I think kindness and civility have been on the decline in general for some time now. Many years ago, porn/actor provider I know rather well, showed me some of the abusive text he received on a regular basis from potential clients. Some of the stuff that was said was insane.
I guess some clients think of providers as property and not human, but a thing to be had, used, and controlled. (And not as part as some fantasy play.)
There are or were people on this forum who even had this attitude towards providers.
I treat each provider as individuals and make sure I don’t do anything to purposely harm them, physically or emotionally. I want them to have fun as much as I am (if I can help it).Not that long ago, I remarked in the “Escorts say the darnedest things” forum thread how a provider thought I was mad at them because I had to postpone our meet up. He had been so mistreated by clients… that was his first assumption. It’s truly wild.